Family - February 2007

My wife is English but she immigrated to Australia to make her new life here with me. She is very close to her family and misses them considerably. Last night she discovered her granddad has been given 3 months to live.
She was in denial at first but has now booked a flight to England in about a month's time to spend time with him and make sure her mum is coping, but upon telling her mum that she will be going over there her mum has criticised her because in her mind we can't afford that sort of expense (especially if we will be flying back for the funeral possibly a couple of months later).
My wife is devestated at that reaction. How do I help her cope with her granddad's pending death and also try to assist relations between her and her mother at this difficult time.
Note I will not be flying to England, only my wife will be, because we actually can't afford both of us to go. We will both be flying over for the funeral later on - I want to be there to support my wife through that.

2007-02-11 18:52:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

im scared! me and my friends went to the movies yestarday and saw 2 movies and when we were in line to get tickets and There was a guy with a rainbow mohawk and we were laughting at his hair and he looked at us really mean.. and after we got out the movies he did the middle finger and threw a cup at me with soda and i was freezing i think this guy might be spying on me all night till i leave the house so he can kill me! what do i do?

2007-02-11 18:36:42 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

my extended family doesnt accept our relationship because i am caucasion and he is hispanic, they treat him badly and have stopped talking to me, i need help!?

2007-02-11 18:30:48 · 11 answers · asked by cowwhiskers 2

Okay my little brother is 5 and he cant stop making Fart sounds with his mouth.. its like smoking to him!! And its soo annoying! How Do i help my mom Stop him from this??
what do we do to make him stop and is this normal?

2007-02-11 18:30:06 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

so my brother(17) doesnt really live at home he comes on passes on weekends and spends the night.so thats the only time i get to spend time w/him.i go to school full time and my bf(21) works full-t ime so i only get to see him for a lil'on Mon. wed. or fridays. when he comes over he takes long naps @ my house & when he wakes up he has "to go" b/c he needs to get his sleep. so its only on weekends when i get to see him.now my dad is always pressuring me to invite my bro over with me and my bf!wherever we go. i ve tried it before but my bro cant go to the movies and be still he is hyperactive&cant chill. &i feel so left out b/c my bro always sends me to the back of the care when we all 3 go out and if i ask him to go to the back he gets butthurt. so now my bro iwhen he comes visit always wants to hangout with my bf and me I want to spend time with my bf b/c i berely get to see him and my bro can get annoying sometimes b/c he makes fun of my dad or me. he is always frustrated & arguing

2007-02-11 18:27:19 · 2 answers · asked by Dr. Truth 3

ok my mom and my husband have cancer i try to help out my mom and take care of my husband and my daughter is now doing things to hurt me and my husband emotionaly she is only 13 and we have caught her smoking and her dad is afraid she will run away i have also heard her friends talking about cutting how should i talk to her before she starts doing this as it is so dumb.she dosent wont for anything she has it all and now i cant buy her what she wonts because i had to quit my job to take care of them both.i need help.

2007-02-11 18:21:50 · 6 answers · asked by mountainchowpurple 4

so my brother(17) doesnt really live at home he comes on passes on weekends and spends the night.so thats the only time i get to spend time w/him.i go to school full time and my bf(21) works full-t ime so i only get to see him for a lil'on Mon. wed. or fridays. when he comes over he takes long naps @ my house & when he wakes up he has "to go" b/c he needs to get his sleep. so its only on weekends when i get to see him.now my dad is always pressuring me to invite my bro over with me and my bf!wherever we go. i ve tried it before but my bro cant go to the movies and be still he is hyperactive&cant chill. &i feel so left out b/c my bro always sends me to the back of the care when we all 3 go out and if i ask him to go to the back he gets butthurt. so now my bro iwhen he comes visit always wants to hangout with my bf and me I want to spend time with my bf b/c i berely get to see him and my bro can get annoying sometimes b/c he makes fun of my dad or me. he is always frustrated & arguing

2007-02-11 18:07:05 · 1 answers · asked by Dr. Truth 3

i'm 14, my sis is 21 she lives in her own aopartment. She comes home every 2 weeks to see me and my family. We NEVER get along anymore,. we are always fighting over things like t.v computer, and i always get blamed whenever we start a crazy cat fight where she hits me and i hit her. I always try top be nice, but we never get along and are always fighting. when we were little, she loved me as her only sibling and i luved her, she would play w/me. i try to patch things up, but it never works. what do i do?

2007-02-11 18:00:29 · 7 answers · asked by MEOW 3

2007-02-11 17:45:08 · 6 answers · asked by marty s 1

2007-02-11 17:27:47 · 12 answers · asked by lifesbeautifulmelody 3

She is 25 years old and her parents live like 45 minutes away from her job. She moves in with a friend so that she can take her son to the daycare and she can get to work. She works at the daycare that her son attends. The daycare was shut down due to real serious problems. She found another job and her son started school this year. Her parents wanted her to come back home. She didn't want to do that drive twice a day everyday. They ended up going to court and the dad lied, and wrote a sob story about being without toys and being abused. In other words he was trying to say that he didn't have everything when he was growing up, but his mother says different. My friends mom is the one that told the dad that he has to choose between her and his daughter. Mom is the one that is doing all of the talking into the dads ear about the daughter and what she needs to be doing. Now my friend is 25.

2007-02-11 17:24:53 · 5 answers · asked by reddtk23 1

I am 18 and I have recently moved in with my father. This is the first time I have lived with him in over 10 years. When I lived with him last, he was hardly around, and when he was, let's just say he wasn't the best parent. I am the youngest child and my father is over 60 with some mental problems and severe physical ailments. I feel like I hardly know him and now I am fighting with him to go to the doctor and I am doing everyday activities for him. He is becoming increasingly difficult to deal with and gets extremely angry out of nowhere. He is very confused a lot of the time. I find it hard to deal with this new responsibility at such a young age and I'm not quite sure how to go about it. Are there any suggestions as to how I can relate to this man I've never really known, or how to deal with caring for an aging parent at my age? Help.

2007-02-11 17:19:27 · 7 answers · asked by Jessica 2

SO this might be a little long and wierd but hear me out please.
Ok im 13 and my mom is so cruel.We [I] have been going through some realy hard promblems.

You can skip this part if you want but its important

1)the greatest disastar so far is that my parents onwnd a bissnuess and it got burned down and that was there dream there everything
2) my mom receantly got in a crash badly
3)there was a dance this Friday and she did not let me go for a very stupid reson -she did not listen to me


well there is more but the point is that she is talking it all ou on me
this Monday(tomorow) e and my friends WERE giong to the mall to take pics. and just becuase I took a rest of my chores she cancled it becuase she was the ride and now I ahve to tell my friend that its cannceld after about 3 weeks of planing I hate that

Can you please cheer me up by telling me your personal MOM problems and telling me what to do about my mom??

2007-02-11 17:17:00 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 14, have a strong resentment towards my parents, because they were too harsh when I made some mistakes. It's been so for more than a year. They tried to make up, say today they are proud of me, but I kept my resentment. I think my death would be good to them, they'd get rid of me, wouldn't have to pay for my school. etc

2007-02-11 17:07:03 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

This is to be very meaningful to me, so please be honest. Let me know how many siblings you had, how many are alive today, and how many you still have contact with. Thank you!

2007-02-11 16:58:48 · 11 answers · asked by Too Curious 3

2007-02-11 16:53:41 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Last Sunday my husband and my 3 year old daughter stopped by his neice's house to pick up a jacket she borrowed from me and they were having a Super Bowl party. A big party ... there were close to 50 people there and about 10-12 kids (all under 6). My husband's sister and her son and his wife were also there.

My husband and daughter were invited to stay and they told him to call me. But when he called I refused to go and he can't undestand why. I told him ... If we were INVITED I would have gone.

We're very close to that side of the family ... we take the kids places together, go out to dinner, I even babysit for her 2 year old daughter twice a week.

So what do you think? Do I have a right to be annoyed because we weren't invited?

2007-02-11 16:52:54 · 17 answers · asked by tgfann 3

His excuse for stealing from us: I was doing drugs and made poor choices. He stole stuff from us as recent as a week ago. The total of the stolen items is almost $5,000. He pawned the stuff to buy drugs. He does not sound remorseful or sorry about what he has done. Says that if we get him out, he can pay to get our stuff out of the pawn shop. The police say we either have to pay the pawn shop back what they paid our son or take them to court to get the stuff back that hasn't been sold yet. He has been stealing our stuff for the last 2 months but doing it in a way that it wasn't noticeable till last week. When we realized our stuff had been stolen he told the police about anyone he thought may have stolen the stuff. I feel he should stay in jail and do time - maybe it would be the wakeup call he needs. My husband doesn't want us to be the ones to file the charges. Wants to get him out, let him steal from someone else - then let them file charges so we haven't put him away.

2007-02-11 16:40:05 · 23 answers · asked by beach_babe 3

say you are 58 years old and your oldest daughter has stopped calling you or visiting you coz you treated her poorly (physcial and emotional hurt) when she was young, how do you overcome this loneliness?

2007-02-11 16:30:04 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

she is older than me but threatened me, so I need to defend myself. How?

2007-02-11 16:24:47 · 8 answers · asked by mariah g 2

2007-02-11 16:13:01 · 15 answers · asked by Priyanka d 1

MY HUSBAND DON'T LISTION TO ME.WHATEVER HE EARND HE GAVE EVERY THING TO HIS PARENTS,SISTERAND BROTHER.DON'T SAVE FOR HIS FUTRE.IF I TELL HIM THEN HE SAID 'I EARN MONEY SO I SPEND IT ANYWHERE AS MY WISH'.SO SHOULD HAVE I DONE FOR IT.

2007-02-11 15:17:42 · 13 answers · asked by sanghamitra d 1

Help me I dont want my parents to know i was having sex with my girlfriend and not watching him

2007-02-11 15:16:00 · 17 answers · asked by lifeshaggy 2

i haven't seen my older sister since my grandma's funeral in 2003. i just found her on myspace. and i have no clue what to say to her. she means so much to me and lo9ve her and i miss her. but i feel retarded for saying that to her!!! some one help a baby sister in need!!!!!

2007-02-11 15:09:15 · 13 answers · asked by nona_luvs_you 2

Ignore them and let them sort it out on their own....or should the parents get involved...talk it out and try to resolve issues for their children?

2007-02-11 14:56:44 · 4 answers · asked by Fried Plantain 2

2007-02-11 14:22:13 · 7 answers · asked by chandrikachandra 1

My senior research paper was due friday. I didn't do it so I was absent. I didn't do it until last night until 2 am when I fell asleep. Today, I continued on it than my little brother (he is 5) came into my room playing with a whistle. I told him to "please leave my room, baby, I am working on an important project." He kept on whistling and not listening to me. Then he kept on bugging me and tagging on me and coming on my bed. He asked for gum this and that. I got more and more mad when I gave him a little push to go. He left my door open. I yelled "Shut the door" he came rushing back into my room, bugging and bugging me more. Than I went off. I started screaming at him and calling my mom as loud as I could. He started crying. On top of that, my computer shut down just as this was going on and I hadn't saved my work so it deleted everything. It wasn't my brother's fault, it was mine. I had got so mad, I had slammed on my laptop. My brother got so scared. I started cursing and

2007-02-11 14:17:19 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-02-11 14:07:10 · 10 answers · asked by princess 2

I am 5months pregnant(after suffering a lose, last year)and having trouble w/my family, and this baby`s father. They hate each other, and recently my mother made it known 2 him. My mother and I have always had our outs(and the latest, she thinks because I have gay friends I will be a bad mother)after she made this hurtful statement, she finishes w/I will do everything 2 take your baby away from you, cuz of that. I didnt want to get upset, hung up, told bf to tell her I didnt want to talk. When she called back he did, and just ripped into him, callin him every name in the book. He kept his cool, even after all she said. Now I havent spoke to her, and it hurts. What should I do? She isnt the type of person 2 apolize either. My family(which is small)wont even hear my side! Even though my bf hasnt been the greatest, he is stepping up now. She will always be the same, though. Whats your advice?

2007-02-11 13:57:35 · 10 answers · asked by May-May`s mommy 5

My mom left a mnth aftr i turned 17.I dropped her off at the airport and she was off 2 get married She said she wanted 2 be alone and happy w/ "Him" and it hurt tht she said that i had no say. At age 19 I got my own place and was happy mom askd me 2 pick up my bro from rehab and let him chill with me. My bro and her started tlking a lot and she strted telling me wht 2 do in my own house and tht i shldn't be hanging out w/ my frnd cus he's gay:he shldn't tell my bro wht 2 do. My frnd paid bills my it was his apt as well. She strted yelling i cldn't takeit i let go. I said evrythng i had wnted 2 tell her 4 the lngest time: she was selfish for leaving!etc.Evr sense thn we hvn't heard 4m each other. Tht was in Sept.06 it is now Feb 07 I told her i cnt take it bck but i apoligize 4 my language. I love my stepdad and he makes her happy she deserves it, but y can't she let me b me? How can i tell her that what she did was wrng and it hurt? Shld i forgive her? Shld she forgive me?

2007-02-11 13:50:35 · 4 answers · asked by Nicole*479 1