Don't you think my death would be good to my parents?

Question

I'm 14, have a strong resentment towards my parents, because they were too harsh when I made some mistakes. It's been so for more than a year. They tried to make up, say today they are proud of me, but I kept my resentment. I think my death would be good to them, they'd get rid of me, wouldn't have to pay for my school. etc

Answer 1

They'd be consumed by their guilt as would you by your anger. It's a lose-lose situation. Show them who's mature and accept their efforts to make peace.
I never thought my teen years at home would be over, and here I am, looking back at them . . .
Oh, yeah, and this: someday you'll really get the feeling of this thing I've heard more than once, "they did the best they could given what they knew how to do" (it applies to ourselves, too, sweetie, so keep trying to do your best, don't give up.).
When I was 14 I did something and was in Juvenile hall for a couple days. When they came to pick me up, they were wearing their 'wedding/funeral' suits . . . and they looked like they were at a funeral, I scared them and broke their hearts. It made me sick to my stomach to have that impact on them. I had underestimated their concern for me (we had a lot of tension back then).

Answer 2

Look, plain and simple this is a stupid question. You know how parents always act like you don't know anything because you're a kid and all that? It is because of stuff like this.

Think of it: your parents have made their entire lives revolve around you for 14 years. For 14 years they have put your needs ahead of their own. Spent all their extra time on you, all their extra money on you (food, clothes, school, transportation, housing, etc). They are on this planet FOR YOU. If you were to die it would destroy them. It can be so frustrating to see your child make mistakes and not understand the consequences of their actions. Why? Because your parents - even if you think they are dumb - have been there and done that. They've seen the what happens when people make bad choices. They want the best for you. Its so hard to convince a 14 year old of that fact.

Just think of it. REALLY Think of it. They've devoted their entire lives to you for 14 years. Heck your mom risked possible death to give birth to you. Your dad faced losing his wife in childbirth in order to bring you into the world. There is more at stake than going out with your firends or getting an allowance or whatever diagreement you have had with them.

Answer 3

Love you are at a hard age, you aren't a child anymore but not yet an adult. PLEASE don't do anything to yourself. The hard thing about being a parent is that you don't get a guide on how to be a "good" parent. All you want to do is protect your child, and one way we do that is to try and protect you from your own mistakes. We've been there and done that and know what will happen so we try to save you that pain, BUT all that happens is that you resent us more and we feel like we've let you down because you still got hurt. Talk to your school counsellor, or local pastor or even a friends mom. Your family will be totally destroyed if you hurt yourself as will your friends.

Answer 4

You could try it.... then if it doesn't work, you will be arrested for attempted murder, because IT IS SERIOUSLY AGAINST THE LAW TO ATTEMPT SUICIDE AND COMMIT SUICIDE.
~Not to mention the thousands of dollars it costs to have a funeral. Even if you are cremated, it costs big$$$$ for that and a head stone.
~Every person you know, will be angry at you. Every single person who knows you will be so mad that you took your own life. Why would you want to hurt every one, when you only want to get revenge on your parents?
~Death is not the answer. No way...
Do you have an Aunt or an adult cousin or any responsible adult in your life that you trust? Try talking to that person, spill your heart. If you don't have any one to talk to, call a crisis line. Please don't think the way you are. Its not healthy and it scares people. I have felt like I wanted to just get rid of Me, and I was your age. I also never told any one how crappy I was feeling, instead I was just rude to my parents and sad all the time. I ended up running away from home, had the police and my parents looking for me. I had a warrant out for my arrest. Did you know that running away from home is illegal? Eventually, the police caught me in a men's bathroom at a restaurant. I hid in a men's smelly bathroom thinking the police wouldn't find me in there! Duh! I ended up in the hospital, in the physic ward. I was 14 years old. Thats when I was forced to talk about my problems I had with everything. All that crap, when I should have just told my parents I needed to talk to them.

~Please.... make the right desiscion. Talk to an adult you trust or call a crisis line. The sooner you do that, the sooner you will feel happy!
~ :o) get going! Go make that call! ~ please??

Answer 5

Lighten up. First of all, your parents are human. They make mistakes. So they were too harsh and didn't react the way you wanted them to. Secondly, regardless of what you think they'd prefer, your death is not on their wishlist. Have you thought that maybe it's you that is pushing on them causing them to stress? Your age right now is typical of adolescents that have parent problems. Maybe you should try talking to them first. Talk with your local pastor and get some insight there. Suicide is the worst way out. It's too easy. If you think your parents need to be dealt with, why not get the sweetest revenge possible.....be successful. Channel your rage into your schoolwork and let it become a positive force (I did). If you want to get revenge, get a good education and get a better job than either of them. That'll really show them!!

Answer 6

MY GOD GIRL! Don't say such a thing! I have 2 kids and I feel I'm kinda hard on them too but I would give my own like for their happiness! Maybe your parents just don't know how to show u. The best revenge on them would be for you to live a happy full life and someday get married and have kids of your own and treat them the way you always wanted to be treated. Make up for what you didn't get from them. PROVE to them they are wrong about you and be some1 special no matter what they think. If you are gone.....you can't take that decision back. Show them you are better than them!! love to ya honey!!

Answer 7

ok it like this,what you want, to be able to do any thing you want an not pay for your wrong? it like this we all got rules to live by, if they dont show you, then latter down the road the law will, you think it easy being a parent,? your parent love you, but you need to learn ,it their job to do the best they can to ,get you ready for life,,, now you talking of death,,,,, we lost our son , 7 years ago, an to lose a child is the worset thing ,i think could happen to a parent,,,,one day they wont be their for you, an you look back an wish you could talk to them, how would you feel if you got up the next morn, an one are both gas die,?,, love your parent while you can

Answer 8

I DONT THINK THAT YOUR PARENTS WOULD LIKE IT IF SOMETHING HAPPENED TO YOU....IT IS A PARENTS JOB TO TELL YOU RIGHT FROM WRONG.IT IS ALSO THEIR JOB TO BE WHAT YOU CALL"HARSH" WHEN YOU HAVE DONE SOMETHING WRONG.....WHETHER YOU AGREE OR NOT.AT 14 IM SURE THEIR IS NOT TO MANY THINGS THAT U THNK THAT U DO WRONG....I REMMEBER AT 14 I FELT THE SAME WAY....I STILL TO THIS DAY HATE MY PARENTS FOR SOME THINGS THAT THEY HAVE DONE,BUT I HAVE LEARNED THE HARD WAY THAT YOU CANT HOLD RESENTMENT IN YOUR HEART.IT MAKES YOU A ANGRY AND HATEFUL PERSON.....HANG IN THERE IT DOES GET BETTER...YOU ARE 14 YOU HAVE PLENTY TIME TO DO THINGS YOUR WAY.ENJOY THE TIME U HAVE WITH YOUR PARENTS AND THE TIME U HAVE LEFT TO BE A CHILD...

Answer 9

that is so stupid i don't know if you know but most parents are hard on there children when they make mistakes if they weren't hard on you how would you know you made a mistake just because they are hard on you does not mean they don't love you trust me i know that parents can be harsh some times i am 20 and i have made a lot of mistakes and my parents where some times hard on me and i hated them for that then but now thank them in a way i have grown to be strong kind and most of all i realise when i make a mistake and your parents have realised that they may have been to hard on you and wont to make it up to you don't ever think that they would be better of with out you there is no worse pain in the world then to loose a child they love you and they make mistakes to we are all human

so please don't think like that IT MAY BE HARD NOW BUT LIFE ALWAYS GETS BETTER TRUST ME

Answer 10

You know that you parents might have been too harsh with you, but they did it for your own good. I think that you need to lighten up with your parents. They have done so much for you. You have clothing, food, and shelter, that's how much they care for you.

You shouldn't feel like towards them, they are your parents who love you so much. No, being dead, will only hurt your parents....don't find an easy way out. Forgive them, they have forgiven you!