my extended family doesnt accept our relationship because i am caucasion and he is hispanic, they treat him badly and have stopped talking to me, i need help!?
2007-02-11 18:30:48 · 11 answers · asked by cowwhiskers 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your future husband comes first. Unfortunately prejudiced thinking is deeply ingrained, especially in many older folks. You cannot change them, but hopefully someday they will have a change of heart. It just may take some time.
2007-02-11 18:35:15 · answer #1 · answered by Daaang! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you have a strong enough relationship with the extended family, get them together (perhaps one at a time is easier). Ask them what their reservations are. They will probably say closed-minded/ignorant things like 'I've heard hispanic men don't let their wives be independent/are abusive/etc.'. This is a good opportunity to educate them about your fiancee & his culture. Give specific examples of how your fiancee is different from their stereotypes. If they still have plenty of opinions and are not open to change at all, then remind them that they don't have to accept it but you love him, it is your choice, and you hope that you can remain close as a family.
2007-02-11 18:39:23 · answer #2 · answered by J N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 00:06:12 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your future husband treat you right? Ask your family why they treat him badly. Since they stopped talking to you, you can leave them a message on their phone saying for them to stop acting childishly and act their age. Point out that they too may not be accepted because they are________. You can say that you are truly sorry that they can't be happy for you, that you found someone who treats you wonderfully and who reallly, really loves you.
2007-02-11 18:41:07 · answer #4 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not believe that they should be making the decisions on this. some people do have interracial relationships, some people except it and others dont. if he is good to you, supports you takes care of you and has a good job, then i would say to tell your extended family that you love them but you have to make this decision and if they cant except it then that is just fine with you they have their oppions, but if he does not do right by you and shows respect to your extended family (even though they dont like him) and treat you like a man/husband should treat a lady then i would say go with the family. but its you decision. good luck with this and good luck with you wedding and congrats
2007-02-11 18:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by treys girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with time, some families learn to deal with it. they may never accept it fully, but will learn 2 live with it. the thing is, its your life.maybe you should tell them that , its your life, and although u love and respect them, that u have to make decisions with your life to make yourself happy. and if its not the rite decision. u will deal with the consequences. they probably have some kind of personal beliefs against it for whatever reason, but dont worry about it, they will probably come around.
2007-02-15 15:23:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
family is very important to us but if you are very convinced that he is the one then go on with your life and in time they will understand that there is nothing they can do about it. Try to listen to them and think about they have to say they may be right because their life experience is much bigger than yours
2007-02-11 18:35:52 · answer #7 · answered by Helena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a decision... who are you trying to please.. the family or the fiance? I know if this question ever came up with me I'd dump yer a*s in a heartbeat if I was yer fiance.. and i'd suggest yer BF do the same...
2007-02-11 18:38:03 · answer #8 · answered by darchangel_3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Concentrate on your man. It's sad they are that way but they are. In the long run, they lose.
2007-02-12 11:54:23 · answer #9 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's a good guy and you love him, ignore your grandparents' idiotic bigotry. Heck, they will no doubt be dead soon anyway!
2007-02-11 18:35:22 · answer #10 · answered by Cracker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋