why elderly are so afraid of nursing home? ready to eat food and plenty of friends are good things right?

Answer 1

They are afraid that they will be forgotten about. And that they will die alone/lonely.

BTW I would never put either one of my parents in a nursing home. I've made it clear to them that if anything happens that I would want them to come and live with me. They have done so much for my hubby and I, that to even consider putting them in a home would be a slap in their face. (in my opinon, although my father always says to but him in one so he isn't a burden)

Answer 2

Yes ready to eat food, and plenty of people around are good things but they are greiving. They see moving into a home a loss of independance, neon sign that they are OLD, many associate nursing homes with death and expect to be surrounded by death. They can no longer come and go as the please, shower when they want, eat what and when they want, their privacy is lost (nurses sticking in their head asking if their bowels have moved today). Their life as they know it is OVER, they leave their friends, their home & all it's memories, their routine. That is why a lot of elderly simply give up and pass soon after going into homes they feel useless and alone.

Answer 3

Well in theory that is right. I had my Mom in a real nice nursing home(all the state statistic/complaints info it was a great place). It was small enough for personal care and the elder to really remember the care takers. BUT you have to know as I learned. There are many types of nursing homes. Big have more options IE. recreation etc. Small have more personal reassurance for some. What was the real deal breaker for my Mom was the food and the people there having a voice. Literally they were up and talking after dinner. There was a consistent staff also. Does the place use the faculty to train aids? Is it for profit or non-profit. YES the later makes a difference. Non - Has more money for the residents place. You may not have to cook food and that is great but if the food is crap you won't be satisfied. For my Mom in a 97 bed faculty there was no one for her to talk to in the particular place. She was dying inside from lack of communication. She was moved to a non-profit 170 bed place and she loves it, she is exhausted from activity. And the food is fantastic. Because its Non -profit. Please check out the resource link,you can put the info for your area to get better knowledge.

Answer 4

As a social worker in several nursing homes, I can truthfully say, that they are not all equal. So far as food, there is no choice, meals are prepared in quantity, and to save on wages, the cooks usually prepare 'supper' before they leave around 2pm. They have light suppers of soup and sandwiches and pudding. Early bedtimes are the custom, with limited television times. Some places have crafts for those able to enjoy, while some folks are wheelchair bound and only do very little. Private rooms are very expensive, and there is no choice of roommates, only by gender.
Space for personal items is very limited and many things just 'go missing.' There is usually an odor as many become incontinent
adding to further loss of self esteem. If you want to give it the acid test, get a job as a nursing aide for a few weeks and your question will be answered in more detail. Best wishes

Answer 5

Not all nursing homes are as nice as they seem, and sometimes facades are put up. Staff doesnt always treat elderly ppl right. They talk to them badly, dont respect them and force them to do things they do not want to do. How would you feel if you had spend your life working hard, brought up your kids and then see them abandon you to be left with strangers caring (?) for them? You say that because you are young and healthy and never think of the time when you will be old and cannot live alone anymore.
How come so many western countries do not seem capable of coping with their own parents? It is like they suddenly do not want to have to care for them, to put in the effort to look after the ppl who raised them and put in the effort to make them who they are now. Its like you feel you parents are your "burden"? Maybe they are your burden, but they are your parents, they should be the one ppl you should care enough for. If they are ill and need extra help then get it, but why have to send them away and see them once in a while.
Elderly ppl also want their own private time, in a nursing home, it is like a "public" place you need to follow rules. Strict rules. You have no more freedom.
Family is the most important. You should spend time with your parents, they love you more than you think. why not love them as much?

Answer 6

They are often places where it smells bad, where they get mistreated either by staff or by residents, some even get sexually assaulted. Someone is always dying and being hauled out of there. They are not near their loved ones anymore and maybe no one they know ever comes for a visit. How would you like to live like that?
Nursing homes, even at best, are awful places to have to go.

Answer 7

Have you ever actually been in a nursing home? It really depends on which one. Here are some reasons:
1. They don't want to admit to themselves that they are sick. They don't want to be with people around them that they think are sick when they don't think they are sick.
2. They don't want to leave their home (who would?).
3. The nursing home is a lot worse than you think such as uncleanliness and mistreatment.

Answer 8

ok, i have been there, finished this. in the finest diagnosis you ought to take care of you. in case you do not who will address your enormous projects? tell both one among your mothers and fathers that you're going to take care of them to the quantity that you're able and that your spouse is going the position you pass. they gained't refuse him in case you enable them recognize that you aren't from now on going to help until eventually they end being so controlling over you. you've the right to be at liberty, so do what it takes to be at liberty. If it truly is so trouble-free as having get entry to for your spouse, so be it. they are going to settle for him previously they are going to lose you because of it. in case you do not opt for to break any emotions, grow to be a nun, stay in a cave, come on, be functional, you won't be able to have it both thoughts. in case you harm some emotions, remember yours were harm too. Set some limits, stay your existence in spite of what your mothers and fathers are dealing with. This too shall pass and faster or later you'll seem lower back and nonetheless imagine you would have finished more beneficial. that is guilt linked with the grief you'll sense after your mothers and fathers are lengthy previous. you won't be able to do some thing about it yet cope. Your mothers and fathers administration you at present, study that the in trouble-free words one you could administration is you, don't be manipulated. you probable can care on your mothers and fathers and not in any respect be managed through them. attempt it. solid success.

Answer 9

Volunteer to work in one for a few hours. That's all it takes
& you'll know why.
The ready to eat food is pretty bad too.

Answer 10

Because more than likely they will die there and alot of abuse goes on and no one comes to visit as often ,they become sad and depressed, they are robbed of their freedom, then alot of medication comes in then they are doped up ,then they lose their minds and family then life.


God Bless them all