My senior research paper was due friday. I didn't do it so I was absent. I didn't do it until last night until 2 am when I fell asleep. Today, I continued on it than my little brother (he is 5) came into my room playing with a whistle. I told him to "please leave my room, baby, I am working on an important project." He kept on whistling and not listening to me. Then he kept on bugging me and tagging on me and coming on my bed. He asked for gum this and that. I got more and more mad when I gave him a little push to go. He left my door open. I yelled "Shut the door" he came rushing back into my room, bugging and bugging me more. Than I went off. I started screaming at him and calling my mom as loud as I could. He started crying. On top of that, my computer shut down just as this was going on and I hadn't saved my work so it deleted everything. It wasn't my brother's fault, it was mine. I had got so mad, I had slammed on my laptop. My brother got so scared. I started cursing and
2007-02-11 14:17:19 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yelling and hitting things and punching the door and stuff. I got very very angry. It had taken me so long to do this because it's such a hard subject. I had lost most of what I had typed and my info.
I am so mad at myself. I hate myself so much right now. I am so upset I hurt my brother and scared him! I love him so much. Will he ever forgive me? I hate myself. I want to die right now! I wish I could turn back time. **** the research paper even though if I don't do it, I don't graduate, it's not more important than my brother's feelings. He is my EVERYTHING!!!
Please help me!!! What do I do??!!!
2007-02-11 14:20:14 · update #1
You sound like you have some anger issues. Take a walk and do some breathing exercises, works for me.
Maybe you should find some ways to eliminate certain stresses. Like lock your door. If you can't lock it barracade it. If your brother bangs and howls to get in, litterally don't answer him. Answering encourages more action and yelling. He will tire himself out and eventually leave.
Instead of yelling to him to close the door you should have done it and maybe he wouldn't have come back in.
He sounds like he wants to be with his big sister. When you scream at him and shag him off he feels like you don't want him so he just gets more over bearing trying to get you to want him.
Make deals with him. Like .... I love you a whole bunch and want you to come visit in my room, so maybe if you let me do my school work I will have time to let you come in for a while. Then keep your promise. call him in even if it is only for a few minutes. Hug him and do something nice for him.
He will cherish those nice moments.
2007-02-11 14:28:11 · answer #1 · answered by sandra_k19 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you are not a bad person if you have this much conern for your brother. You have been under a lot of pressure. Just take this as an important learning experience and move on. Also remember from now on to save your work OFTEN!!! I know because I did the same thing. Now I save every few minutes cuz I am so paranoid! You can rewrite the paper. If you wrote it once you will still remember a lot of it. Jsut tell your brother your sorry. You can take him out for a treat or something to make it up to him. belive me., life goes on and this really is not going to make a huge difference in the long run. It is OK. You will be fine. You are a good brother.
2007-02-11 14:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by San Diego 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I htink everyone has got to that point in their life. Go to your brother give him a HUGE hug and then tell him how sorry you are and that it was not his fault. After that play a game with him or something that is just the 2 of you. He was bugging you because he wants your attention so give him some whenever you can. When you can not explain to him that you are very busy right now but if he is quiet and leaves you be you will get done faster and will be able ot play with him. Give him a general time line as he will know that even though it is not right then you will have time for him. Be careful htough because he will watch the clock lol. Make sure you tell him how much you love him and that he means everything ot you. He will appreciate the gesture of you spending time with him and yes hun all will be forgivin. He loves you just as much as you love him.
2007-02-11 14:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say you are sorry, attached to that sorry should be a huge hug, a huge kiss followed by some tickling and a promise to never do that to him again.
Also you should explain to your mother why you blew up at him and apolgize to her as well. Talk to your mom about these other feelings you are having about life in general. And just for your information we all have felt this way (frighten of life) its so of normal, the only difference is how we all handle it and its seems to me that you really need to talk to someone really bad about everything, don't be frighten life is a huge deal and the decisions you make in life are at time difficult. Get some help and not from your friends either from someone who had lived your parents is a good start.
Now for the school thing well you should just tell the truth to your teacher and suffer the consequences. Its a shame but we all make mistakes just learn from them.
Prayer is also a good way to get some help to.
Good luck
Be happy
and remember
Life is not all thorns there is a stem and a beautiful flower attached to those thorns (a rose).
2007-02-11 15:25:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finish the story how can anyone assist when you leave a cliff hanger going on. You seem like you don't want to justify yourself completely you just want to be forever know as a mean aw full person that did a mysterious deed to your brother.
1.) Get a lock for your room.
2.) Do your work the moment you get home.
3.)Before dealing with your brother or any child calmly count to 35.
4.) Remember that when all is said and done you are only human and humans make mistakes. But if you learn from those mistakes and learn to take responsibilities for your actions makes you a good human being.
2007-02-11 14:35:48 · answer #5 · answered by calmlikeatimebomb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, so you got mad, who hasn't? everybody experience that kind of situation at least once in their life, even more at your age, so don't beat yourself up! think that at least you came to your senses and realized that you over reacted, now... it's time for you to take your little brother and apologize, explain him that sometimes when people is angry say things that they don't really mean, that you love him and you want to be a good example for him, he'll understand, then give him a big hug and a kiss, that will make him trust you again. Now about your school paper, time for you to get off Yahoo Answers and start all over again on that, even if that means stay awake until you finish, you had a choice of doing it a long time ago and you wasted that opportunity and waited until the last minute, so now...you gotta take responsibility for that. Good Luck! and take lots of Coffee if you think your falling asleep!
2007-02-11 14:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is done is done! you can't change the past. losing lots of work really makes your head go off. firstly for future projects if you are working on words why not auto save. go to tools, then options . in save you mark allow fast save .also click at save auto recover info every and put some time like five or ten minutres. this way you can save much of your work automatically . now for your brother don't worry he will forget this episode soon. compensate for what you have done by giving him a tight hug and say sorry to him. give him chocolates and some toy he really wants. don;t worry this happens between siblings you better make up for what you have done. and more important learn from this episode and BE REGULAR in all your work and avoid problems and shaky nerves.
2007-02-11 15:09:40 · answer #7 · answered by prs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie, I'm sorry. You sound like a beautiful and compassionate person who simply hurt yourself with procrastination. Experiences like this are how we learn what not to do. Take your brother on your lap and hug him immediately and tell him you're so sorry and you love him so much. Then your mind will be clear so you can do your work. I've lost things like that before, and believe me, the work is always better the second time around, if that's any consolation. Good luck.
2007-02-11 14:23:37 · answer #8 · answered by itry007 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you at least know what happened. He'll never remember it, ( hes 5), and at least you didn't "hurt" the little guy. Remember anything can happen from now and so on so Cherish the time you have. Notice your mistakes before its too late. Being a Senior has its challenges but it will work out and try situating things a bit more, weh..
2007-02-11 14:28:07 · answer #9 · answered by smoke_frm_apple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you have your priorities straight. Human beings before material.
Take him somewhere fun that he would like to do and all will be forgotten very soon. Thats the beauty of children they forgive so easily. And from now on save your work as you go...every paragraph hit the save button.
Now get off the pc and do something with brother.
2007-02-11 14:24:22 · answer #10 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋