Family - December 2006

My mother constantly puts me down. She says rude, mean things to me. She even says mean things about my daughter when comparing her to me. She favors my brother and his family and it makes me feel really bad.

I don't want to start an argument with her so I just ignore it. I don't really know how to get her to stop though.

She says things like "Everyone is not as cold as you are." and "Now your daughter is learning to be like that too - say different things about the same topic to different people."

I feel very sad that she favors my brother and puts me down. I just try to avoid her, but since I am living in the same house its sometime hard. She seems to feel that she is better than me. I don't know what to do about her rude remarks though.

2006-12-17 07:49:57 · 5 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

2006-12-17 07:34:47 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

a person who brutally murdered my nephew.He was only 4. And his life was so short and they are still waiting to even be charged for his murder. The monsters hung him up in a closet and beat him to death. The state of texas just (2 months ago) took her rights away in regards to my neice. its been 1 year in 5 more days.Still all they have been charged with is for running their stupid meth lab. The part that pisses me off the most is the state of tx placed them in that house and never went to check on them.i can't seem to forgive them or that completely redickulus state of tx.can anyone give me some ideas.

2006-12-17 07:33:01 · 16 answers · asked by me 2

He's always so difficult to get gifts for. He's 52 and in love with video games ( xbox mostly) but i havent the first clue about that stuff, so if you have any ideas ( doesnt have to be game related) on what to get for him, that'd be so helpful! please be specific...i have a budget of 50 to 70 dollars. thanks!

2006-12-17 07:30:24 · 6 answers · asked by Gabrielle M 1

My daughter, her husband, and their daughter live with me in a 950 square foot home. They are disorganized and my daughter is lazy when it comes to being neat. They have two dogs and a cat also and I do not have the heart to take them away from my granddaughter. To add to the chaos my home does not have a dining area and their dining table is in the middle of my living room. They are poor money managers. My son-in-law has a good job but he has no incentive to do anything more concerning the home (such as trying to get his family situated in a home of their own)and neither of them have a lot of self-control concerning money. Please do not tell me to ask them to move because my granddaughter is my primary concern. I have a lot of stress on my job also and sometimes just feel I cannot deal with things anymore. I wish I could get therapy but do not know how to go about getting it on my limited income. Are there any coping suggestions out there?

2006-12-17 07:30:06 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

i was taking a shower and my sister in law came in and was staring at me with a big smile on her face & said some remarks should i say something to my brother or just let it slide, she is allways rubing my back what should i do.

2006-12-17 07:25:38 · 8 answers · asked by Mike 2

2006-12-17 07:22:43 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

im 18, i am currently staying with a friend but i need a place of my own. i have been advised to report my mum into benifit fraud as i paid her rent and she never put me down as living with her to the council. i have before mentioned to my mum that i wanted to move out and now she is saying that it was my choice. i don't want to report her i just can't find it in my heart to do it even though i told the friend that i would.. i don't earn very much so can't afford to rent privately. i went to the council and told them but they said cos i was earning there was little they could do for me? i have so many belongings that renting a room would just be impossible to fit all my stuff in.. My mum is ill and i still love her.. i am hurt by the way she has acted and her total disregard for the fact i don't know how i am going to make it on my own?

2006-12-17 07:16:34 · 21 answers · asked by justalilbiscuit 1

im kjust wondering if casue its boxing day if it will go in to bank early

2006-12-17 07:14:09 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

is it ok to have girlfriend spend the night when told not to.

2006-12-17 07:04:07 · 5 answers · asked by foolish1 1

I was listening to the radio the other morning and the radio people asked people to call in.. the question for them to call in was:

Who would be willing to let us (the radio people) watch their kid for a playstation 3? And who has the youngest baby who is willing? Also, how long would you let us watch him/her?

I listened in awe as there were caller after caller saying yes they would let these people whom they've never met and know nothing about watch their children!! This one lady called in and said she had a 3 month old and would let them keep him for 2 days - all for a ps3.. Another lady had a 9 month old and said a whole week! Of Course the radio station went on to say that this was a social experiment, which I dont believe.
What the heII is wrong with these mothers? Am I the only one who thinks that they are wrong for this??

2006-12-17 07:00:57 · 16 answers · asked by A.J. 4

I have tried multiple time to convince my parents that I should be allowed to have a cell phone. I'm 16 and I have my license, so it would be very useful to have one if I was stuck somewhere. They always counter that with, "well, you shouldn't be anywhere where you need to call for help." I also have many after school activities, and I want to be able to contact them if something changes. They are always on my case about not letting them know whats going on, but I can't if it changes during the activity. I'm also a straight A student, so it's not like I'm not a responsible person. Everybody else in my family has one, except me. I am sick and tired of having to borrow phones from people, I feel like I'm a parasite. I have said I would pay for part of it, so thats not the problem. Any suggestions are welcome.

2006-12-17 06:43:16 · 15 answers · asked by swimmergirl519 1

I live 600 miles away but my brother and his wife who live in the same city as my parents are hosting a Christmas party for 50 some odd people. Our Mother is also quite ill and I have traveled back in forth 3 times since the loss of our Dad to try and help out. Am I wrong to feel that it is poor taste to be having a holiday party so soon after the loss of our Dad especially while my Mother is so ill. I can barely even buy gifts or celebrate with my immediate family due to being so exhausted trying to travel and take care of my Mom who lives 15 minutes from the host, my brother!!

2006-12-17 06:34:41 · 3 answers · asked by griefstricken 1

My current enviroment sucks & i want to leave.
I was sexually abused by my brother at a young age. Recently it came out. I've wanted him to leave for a while, since it's really weird being home with him. (I usually go to my friend's work when he's there.) He is 22. My dad has not asked him to leave. My dad even wants me to go out with him, my brother and his girlfriend. Or go to a concert with him and his girlfriend and my friend. etc.
I have to be in contact with him, talk to him, and it really bothrs me.
I have a few options. My mother lives within 60 min. away. But things are pretty bad with her and me. (She lives like a 'loose woman' and I don't like that.) I have sister in other states, but they are both active in the military. (One is married and has a house on base. But it seems impolite to ask her to let me bum off of her.) I have grandparents close by, but it seems rude aswell because their 40-something year old daughter is still at home with her husband.
What can I do?

2006-12-17 06:31:52 · 8 answers · asked by smelly pickles 4

I am 15 years old. I am not allowed to get in the car with another teenager (driving). I will be 16 in 9 months and when i am 16 i will be allowed to drive my friends places.
-I have friends who are turning 16.
-I am a responsible kid.
-I dont drink or smoke
-I get good grades.
Still my parents wont let me get in the car with another teenager..Any advice to what i can say to them to make them rethink that rule.?

2006-12-17 06:30:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-12-17 06:16:03 · 7 answers · asked by ladybug81485 1

2006-12-17 06:04:30 · 4 answers · asked by Rennais 1

All my food stamps are gone and i dont have any money!! I have no nearby family! I dont know what to do! I feel like crying! PLease any advice???

2006-12-17 05:51:26 · 21 answers · asked by QUEEN 1

I love my parents,but they are getting on my nerves! My mother has this habit of coming over or calling me asking me to come by her to help her clean up or whatever. She just wants company, but sometimes I don't want to be around her or other family members because of the confusion and drama! I DON'T LIKE DRAMA! Yesterday what should have been a nice family outing was of course confusion and fussing, because some people just can't live in peace. I think I need a break from my family. I love them but I just don't know what to say or how to tell them that they are making me sick or that they are toxic! My soul is crushed and my heart is divided between being kind to my family members (mother especially) and saying no to them when I don't want to be around them. I am so tired of feeling guilty about it! I can't have a life outside of them and I want one. A life where I can take a break from them!!!

2006-12-17 05:46:57 · 12 answers · asked by DesperateinVA 1

My friend asked me to post this question up here to see if we could get good answers so please help!
Well I have a friend "Grace" who gets hit by her dad when he is mad at her.
He uses force such as grabbing her by the jaw hardly and squeezing it or hitting her across the face, and other things like that.
Well her mom hits her as well.
"Grace" doesnt know what to do. She is tempted to call the police because she is being abused, but she knows that they might send her to a different home and she doesnt want to leave all of her friends or her school.
She has tried to talk to her parents before about this but nothing happens.

What should she do?
And what should I do as her friend for her?
Thanks, From both her, and me.

2006-12-17 05:38:01 · 8 answers · asked by Sleeping Beauty 2

well, we were planning to go to downtown today to choose the right suit for my upcoming banquet.. the problem is i have no idea what sort of an excuse that i can make up so that my sister's boss would let her off early. by the way, her boss is an ***... i've worked there for 1 and a half month, and left.......

2006-12-17 05:35:39 · 13 answers · asked by 1nfluenced 1

My husband and I have struggled for the past 3-4 months finacially due to illness and pregnancy. We have actually borrowed money from our family to make sure that rent is paid. We have just a few dollars in our account, and we have an 11 year old daughter that we haven't bought anything for, not to mention our parents. We are not crafty, nor Martha Stewart (cookies and such). Does anyone have any ideas?
Thanks

2006-12-17 05:19:59 · 9 answers · asked by jenhale2_25_06 1

2006-12-17 05:11:52 · 14 answers · asked by hello kitty 1

when he told his parents bout our relationship , they r against of our marriage coz they dont want to do in relatives it seems. i dont know wat to do. we really luv eachother a lot.

2006-12-17 04:38:22 · 24 answers · asked by shll_v_b_frens 1

My sister is 5 years old and I want to buy her a present for Chrismas.He likes horses and ponys,but she have over 100 of them.What can I buy for her?I want my sister be happy when she open her present from me!

2006-12-17 04:28:08 · 7 answers · asked by Problem Child 1

My mother-in-law is a negative person in general. She is critical and finds fault in everything. She is a bitter old woman. She criticizes me in front of my husband, and my husband tends to act on her criticism. He then starts to criticize me about the things she talks about.

She is mean to my son (from another marriage) and sweet to my daughter (from my marriage now with her son). Last night she snipped at me about not getting onto my son (12 years old) for saying the word "butt". I was going to handle it in another room by talking to him away from other people, but she thought I should yell at him right there or treat him like a 3 year old. My husband did not say anything and this morning he yelled at me (not normal behavior) over cooking sausage.

It seems like every time we go over there my husband is difficult to be around for a few days. I try to talk to him and he gets mad. I know she will never change. How will I deal with this?

2006-12-17 04:20:56 · 12 answers · asked by Kelli 3

OK, what i want to know is if I am wrong, last night was the two year anniversay of my father's death from lymphoma. I went out for dinner and drinks with some friends and when i returned home about 11pm i found my mother with another man on the couch. I responded horribly and threatened the man with death if i ever saw him again. I am very ashamed at my reaction but the combination of alcohal, anger timing and location sent me over the edge. Needless to say, my mother won't talk to me, the man has filed a restraining order and i feel like i am the worst person on earth. I want my mother to be happy but i have expressed to her many times that i don't want to know about it if she is with another man. I know my reaction was wrong, but does anyone think I have a right to be angry? Does anyone have any suggestions on how to fix the problem?

2006-12-17 04:18:14 · 23 answers · asked by brewfitzgerald2002 2

How do you deal with it in a healthy way, especially during the holiday season?

2006-12-17 04:16:32 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

First of all this is our son Camdens first christmas. So we decided to invite his parents and my parents and thats it. (we live in a very, very small house) Well his Mother invited his brother, Grandma and Grandad and all 3 of his cousins (without even running it by us first. I am glad that they all want to be part of Camden's first christmas. But if his whole family comes then mine can't simply because the fact that there isn't enough room. I told my husband we should just tell everyone not to come so that can be our time toghether for christmas. We will be going to my moms house, going to his moms house and his grandparents house. So we will see everyone throuhout the day. He thinks that isn't fair to him becuase when he was a child (2yr-10 yr) they had a tradition where his grandparents come over every christmas morning. Well tequnically it's not if they haven't done it in over 15 years...right. This whole situation is stressing me out to the point I don't even want christmas to come. It's also making us argue !! Please give your opinions even if there not in my favor!!

2006-12-17 03:38:31 · 6 answers · asked by asldkfalsdfkj 2

I have been with my fiancee for a year now. We started seeing eachother in another state. My daughter and I moved to his hometown with him to continue our relationship. He suffered a huge loss and had to move back to his hometown. We have been here for about 4-5 months now and I stil haven't met the remaining members of his family. His father and 2 brothers have never met me. I'm curious and wonder am I looking to far into this.

2006-12-17 03:35:27 · 3 answers · asked by stef 2