how do i forgive......?

Question

a person who brutally murdered my nephew.He was only 4. And his life was so short and they are still waiting to even be charged for his murder. The monsters hung him up in a closet and beat him to death. The state of texas just (2 months ago) took her rights away in regards to my neice. its been 1 year in 5 more days.Still all they have been charged with is for running their stupid meth lab. The part that pisses me off the most is the state of tx placed them in that house and never went to check on them.i can't seem to forgive them or that completely redickulus state of tx.can anyone give me some ideas.

Answer 1

PRAY< in order to be forgiven you must forgive. A horrible thing to have happen to anyone, but I can assure you the penalty will be strong if man doesn't take care of it don't worry the still have a MUCH higher power with a MUCH longer sentence to serve. As for you PRAY, let your heart be lightened in the fact that this child is in heaven with "our MASTER" and NO- ONE can EVER harm him again. But, for your own soul ...pray to be able to forgive this person who has harmed such an innocent so that you may be forgiven. Hate is a soul destroying tool of Satan. DO NOT let him use you like this. I will keep you in my prayers and hope this will help.

Answer 2

To forgive first you have to know what forgivness really is. It is not for the benefit of the offender. It is for your benefit. The anger and pain you feel is only in your heart not in the offender's heart. You are not letting the offender off the hook by forgiving. You are releasing your anger and pain by forgiving. You are literally giving yourself the gift of balance and peace again by accepting what they did because you can not change it. The problem is that people think by accepting what was done you are agreeing with what was done. This is not the case. It does not mean you have to allow these people into your heart or direct your love in their direction just because you allowed yourself to let go of your anger and pain. Their punishment will happen whether you release the anger and pain or not, but your punishment will be an increasing disturbance in other areas in your life just because you will not let go right here. Forgiveness is for your own peace of mind and a return to balance within, it does the offender no more good that your heart is free than it hurts them that you are not free. Ask yourself is it fair to you to allow this situation to plague you forever. If that answer is no, then accept the truth and release the peace within you.

Answer 3

I am not even going to ask for some clarity in what you wrote. The only way I know to forgive is to be willing. Then honestly start asking God to help you accomplish this. To forgive the person or persons who did this. As far as the state of Texas, You might get some relief of your pain by joining a civic minded group who work toward accomplishing what ever you want done. Ask your congress person for a groups name. Phone your newspaper and ask for the same thing. If possible write to your newspaper a letter with your opinion of the situation. I wish you success.

Answer 4

You can't forgive something like that. You are a human being. You can love and you can hate. Murdering a four year old...your nephew- the person you love. The person who did this deserves to be hated...you will not be able to forgive until you learn of the person's past and see their reasons of why they did what they did. Why they started meth. Why they beat your nephew. Even then their answers, reasons, excuses, and reasonings won't be enough. You have a heart. Hearts break. Just as love can sometimes be justified, so can hate.

Answer 5

Who says you need to forgive them? They did a horrible thing. You don't need to forgive - but you do need to get past it and take control of your anger. I find that when I am angry at something I feel I can't change, I try to get active in my community. Why don't you volunteer at a half way house, or go visit children without parents. Become a big brother or sister. Becaome an activist in your state for foster children. You may never be able to forgive them, but at least you can try to make sure this something like this doesn't happen again.

Answer 6

Have they asked for forgiveness?
Even if they have, you are not the injured party. They don't need your forgiveness; they need the dead child's forgiveness, and God's.
Are you exacting any revenge upon them? I doubt it; you are just waiting for the State to take action. In that sense, you have forgiven them; you are not taking revenge on them.
Of course you are angry, any decent person would be. But don't let your anger consume you forever. Work through your grief; it won't be easy, I can see that.
Take care of yourself, and help your niece if you can.

Answer 7

How can u forgive someone who has killed or murdered one of ur family members??!??!? thats almost impossible!!!! but my mom told me that even if ur enemy has doen the most grusome or mean thing...and u cant bring urself to forgive them(in ur case u cant) just try and forget about them life goes on and i hope those peopple do get thrown in jail for what they have done to ur nephew be strong!

Answer 8

I am so sorry to for your pain. This is one of the most horrible things I have ever read here. And as far as forgiving them. You need to put this into Gods hands. He is the only one that can help you to deal with this situation. And he will be the final judge and jury in this situation. Have peace in knowing that your little nephew is in heaven and not feeling any pain. He is smiling down and would want you to live your life to the fullest. When you let go and let God, he will give you the power and strength to forgive those individuals responsible. For in the forgiveness you will begin to heal from this pain. Know in your heart they will pay for the rest of their miserable lives. I will keep you in my prayers, God bless you and give you the courage to endure and heal from this horrible act of murder. May he give you the courage to live in peace knowing that your nephew is not suffering he is in heaven with all of the saints. God bless You****

Answer 9

you have to give youself time to heal over what has been done for you to forgive anyone. the easy answer that you will most likly get on here is why should you for give someone for doing that but you are right you can forgive but you will never forget. you need to pray for these people ask god to forgive them ask god to help you for give him. eight years ago my aunt was mudered by her boy friend he broke her neck cut out her tounge and shot her 14 time before he threw her body in the backyard and covered her with leaves. he only got 18 years for what he done. and i am still angry for that. he was the one in the worng and only got 18 years and she got life. but as time has past. i have forgave him. and i have asked god to forgive him. i know in my heart that he will have to live with what he has done and the people that killed your nephew will have to do the same. just know that he is in god arms right now looking down on you. and know that he loves you. i hope that one day you will be able to move on. let go of the hate. if you need someone to talk to i am here you should be able to reach me my email address is [e-mail] good luck and god bless you and your family you will me in my prays

Answer 10

i dont think you have been able to grieve enough to forgive them yet them and thats okay forgiveness should only be given when you are ready that is awful that it happened and alot of social workers dont check out people enough and this sorter thing happens whats wrong with these people they need to start doing better cause too much of this is going on and no one is stopping it.