First of all this is our son Camdens first christmas. So we decided to invite his parents and my parents and thats it. (we live in a very, very small house) Well his Mother invited his brother, Grandma and Grandad and all 3 of his cousins (without even running it by us first. I am glad that they all want to be part of Camden's first christmas. But if his whole family comes then mine can't simply because the fact that there isn't enough room. I told my husband we should just tell everyone not to come so that can be our time toghether for christmas. We will be going to my moms house, going to his moms house and his grandparents house. So we will see everyone throuhout the day. He thinks that isn't fair to him becuase when he was a child (2yr-10 yr) they had a tradition where his grandparents come over every christmas morning. Well tequnically it's not if they haven't done it in over 15 years...right. This whole situation is stressing me out to the point I don't even want christmas to come. It's also making us argue !! Please give your opinions even if there not in my favor!!
2006-12-17 03:38:31 · 6 answers · asked by asldkfalsdfkj 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Everyone lives locally and we plan on seeing everyone anyways!
2006-12-17 04:21:33 · update #1
Geez, sounds like our First Thanksgiving. (We have a 6 month old.).....it's hard. We had MIL and my parents there, plus my husband's aunt and uncle in a small house too! If you can't get out of it!
My advice: Be polite, smile and ignore the comments. It's really hard, but remember, you are trying to be a good hostess, even if your house is small. Your trying to be a good Mommy and no one will do as great a job as you are, and third, let them help you- it's hard to see things done in a much different way than your own, but it will give you time to relax and have fun and you can change all those little things back when they leave!
As for the children, make sure you have some activities set up....for $1.00 you can get clay molds, markers and puzzles etc at the craft store......also, they have things that aren't messy! LOL.
Also, take time to vent...not to your husband, this will cause a greater tension, but to your friends OR leave for an hour to do alone time shopping, or go for a walk....it will help you realize that taking things with a grain of salt will make you happier!
GOOD LUCK and HAPPY HOLIDAYS!
2006-12-17 04:20:28 · answer #1 · answered by pinkchicchild 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Husband needs a reality check. This is not Harry Potter where you can magically make a 5 person house turn into a 12 person house. Some people will have to stay outside during the party. That will not work, for anyone.
Go visit the parents, the grand parents; at THEIR HOUSES. That is nice grandpaw and grandmaw came to visit you at your parents house, but it probably was a BIGGER house.
Start a NEW tradition next year; you, your husband, and your son, go to Walt Disney World for Christmas. My wife did that 10 years ago when our son turned age 5. Too much bickering between parents as which house we have Christmas at.
PS Do NOT invite either parents to Walt Disney World. They will NOT like the lines, the rides, the weather, the food, etc, etc. BECAUSE it was NOT at their houses.
We did that mistake when our son was 10. Invited both parents from both sides to come. Both parents from BOTH sides argued, whined, and complained the whole time they were there.
2006-12-17 04:17:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You got yourself into a pile of manure.
I agree with you, the best solution is to cancel the gathering at your home and go to each respective parents.
Encourage your husband, now that you are a new family, to start a new tradition of visiting your relatives.
You probably won't make anyone happy (except Camden) but it can work out very well.
Personally, I don't like Christmas anyway.
2006-12-17 04:14:19 · answer #3 · answered by deepndswamps 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-03 15:33:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should try getting his family to get a motel room or something. another words only have his parents and your parents stay at your house then the extra family on your side and his can stay in a motel. look at it this way if your going to be crowded in a small house you might as well be crowded with the most important people right. oh well thats just my opinion, good luck!!!!!
2006-12-17 04:18:05 · answer #5 · answered by thinkofmealwayslver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can have your inlaws come for breakfast and then your family can come at lunch time.
2006-12-20 06:44:51 · answer #6 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋