My mother constantly puts me down. She says rude, mean things to me. She even says mean things about my daughter when comparing her to me. She favors my brother and his family and it makes me feel really bad.
I don't want to start an argument with her so I just ignore it. I don't really know how to get her to stop though.
She says things like "Everyone is not as cold as you are." and "Now your daughter is learning to be like that too - say different things about the same topic to different people."
I feel very sad that she favors my brother and puts me down. I just try to avoid her, but since I am living in the same house its sometime hard. She seems to feel that she is better than me. I don't know what to do about her rude remarks though.
2006-12-17 07:49:57 · 5 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
u should take a moment, and tell her how u would feel about what she be saying about u and how she compares u to other people.But the worse thing to do is try to avoid the situation
2006-12-17 07:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by curt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After reading the entire situation you are in. Seems to me, she wants you to get out. She is favoring your brother's family because they aren't living there. She is trying to make you as uncomfortable as possible so that you will leave. She feels she is better than you because you have a child and you're living with her. If you got your own place, I believe you would have a totally different relationship.
2006-12-17 10:01:08 · answer #2 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two magic phrases - #1 'thank you for sharing with me. Do not say anything else, and she will feel like a fool. #2 after she goes on and on, all you have to say is 'and'? This indicate that whatever she has stated does not make complete sense. She will get mad and say, Oh well you are not listening to me, forget it. Just smile and walk again-- I know because I use this all the time with people who are impossible to deal with.
2006-12-17 11:38:55 · answer #3 · answered by D S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the next time she starts talking to you like that just look at her and say i love you and god loves you too. you are gods child and she should be happy that he gave her a chance to get to know you. my mom and dad are the same way they have there fav and i am not one of them but i have learned that no matter what they have to say i am a good person and so is my child the best thing for you to do is to get your child out of that house. teach your daughter that the way her grams acts is not right that you are to love everyone for who they are because that is the way god made them and that is the way he wants it. somepeople are really mean what you have to do is be really nice look at your mom and tell her i know you are angry and i am sorry for that let me help you lets pray together lets make your life better. there is something bothering her. and for some reason she is taking it out on you i hope that i could help good luck and i hope you and your child have a merry christmas.
2006-12-17 07:58:34 · answer #4 · answered by whiteangel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How about saying to her...When you say_____________, I feel this. Be honest. Tell your mother how her remarks make you feel. She may have no idea. The one thing about rudeness is it always continues because people affected rarely say anything. Talk about your hurt.
2006-12-17 09:36:04 · answer #5 · answered by shoes_717 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋