My son & I have always had a good relationship since I raised him alone since age 4. I am very fond of his wife--she is a good wife & mother. They live over 400 miles from me. I talk to my son twice a month on the phone, & go to visit them 3 times a year--I never stay more than a few days. But when I am there, I never feel like she really wants me there. She tries to be cordial, but I am a fairly discerning person, & I can tell it is superficial. She pretty much keeps to herself--going off into another room most of the time. I compliment her on her cooking, her decorating, and her talents as a good mother and wife. I pitch in to help. I always remember her at Christmas, Birthdays, Anniversaries, etc. I know she speaks with her family everyday (also long distance) & enjoys being with them. What am I doing wrong? My son & grandchildren seem to enjoy my visit, and he is always supportive of her & her plans. Any suggestions to make her feel at ease and accept me as family?
2006-10-27
13:58:54
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