where did they go wrong??

Question

My sister is 19 almost 20 she has two kids... she is a drug attick...
My brother is almost 21 hes an alchoholic.. always seems depressed likes to have a good time... but goes way over board everytime.. me im 17 almost 18 I just had a baby girl myself... when me my sister and brother where yong our dad remarried so we had a step mom... she has too kids one with my dad and one with another man.. me my brother and sisteralways kinda felt like we were treated differently then her kids... she was always kinda just a ***** to us... but at other times we all go along very raley... my sister hates her they dont talk... my brother talks to her but tries to avoid her for the most part and im on "good" terms with her we are all alot older and live on our own... do you think the reason for the drugs, babyies, and unhappyness is because how we were raised by her.. my mom was a drug attick alcohlic we were never really that close to her but i guess my? is where did my dad and stp momgo wrong

Answer 1

Of course one's upbringing and environment plays a large role influencing one's behavior. There's no doubt you all did not get the best of upbringing and certainly not enough individual attention and guidance. However, the strength a person has is what overcomes these lifestyles. Some are stronger and more determined that others in their personalities. I don't think the decisions you siblings made can all be blamed on your family and step mom. You see, everyone has a choice and it takes a lot of determination to withstand temptation and some people don't have it. You seem like you were the one who had rationale and hopefulness out of the situation and I commend you for that.
Just pray for your brother and sister and one day they'll come around, but you cannot help them until they want to be helped and then they will do it themselves. I suggest you spend your energy and time nurturing your own children so they will have a better childhood and feel safe and loved. Make them first in your life and help by the means you CAN the rest of your family. Don't mess up your life because of them. Blessings upon you.

Answer 2

what happened in the past happened learn from your experiences and try to be a better person some of us were destined to drink and drug when we were born they say that at least one of each parents children will be an addict or alcoholic but that doesnt mean you will do it just that if you get into it you will have a harder time putting it down than some people ask God to help you to be a good person be strong and rise up from the problems you lived and dont repeat them in your own life i will pray for all your family you are making the effort already or you wouldnt be concerned about all these people hang in there have a good weekend

Answer 3

A lot of people come from different situations. There are drug addicts and teen moms from the most stable and financially secure families, as well as really stable and successful people from broken and abusive homes. I think anyone can rise above their crappy situations and similarly anyone can fall into a rut of self destruction from a seemingly wonderful lot in life. I believe a lot of it is determined by the kind of person one is and the choices they make. Some choices might be easier than others, but they are choices nonetheless. You can make a choice for yourself and your baby, to do better and be better than your upbringing. Luckily in America, such a thing is possible and encouraged. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

you nailed it, you didnt feel really loved growing up and you didnt have a really happy childhood or a good mother figure. just remember to be a better parent than yours were, ok?good luck