my parents are all mad at each other my mom dad and my big brother are all yelling at each other left to right and im stuck in the middle of this and my parents are trying to take me on their side and i am gettting confused and stressed along with school which is causing me to almost have mental breakdowns at home or school what do i do to help my parents get along or to stop arguing
2006-10-27 14:34:33 · 9 answers · asked by chris k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My husband and I used to argue a lot in front of our kids. One day, one of them just asked us to stop because that wasn't fair. she said: if you guys want to argue, that's fine! We don't want to hear it because it's not our business. Why don't you guys go out and try to resolve the situation? I felt so ashamed of myself! My husband and I love each other and we still argue but not in front of the kids. We make sure that we are in our bedroom and the kids are sleeping. Why don't you try to explain your parents how you feel like my daughter did?
2006-10-27 14:43:00 · answer #1 · answered by brazilian33 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you ever think about God that he there and he cares about you maybe your family needs God in there life! Try to make family time talk to your ma & dad! Or tell a close friend whats going on it helps to get what you feel and telling anohter person so they know to help you in some way! Or tell them all at once to stop fighting and that it affecting you! Gett out! Getting it all out helps. It starts at home always, and affect how you feel and life and school.
2006-10-27 21:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey do you have another family member you can go to, just so you don't need to hear them fight. You probably love your mom and dad and brother. But it is between them, you need to think about yourself, and come down yourself too.
Do they always fight? Because that isn't good. But to have you feel safe, go to a friends or another family member, stay there just for the night, maybe talk to your parents separately, and tell them how you are feeling, what it is doing to you. Or if you trust a teacher, or student counciler talk to them. Because you need to concerate on your mental being. I don't know you, but I sure hope that you will be okay. Good luck.
2006-10-27 21:43:33 · answer #3 · answered by mountaingirl 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to another grownup that might be able to talk with your parents about how this makes you feel. Maybe, a relative or someone close to the family. You could also talk to a school counselor or call child protective services in your state and talk to one of their counsellors. You might even write to Dr. Phil show as they often have families in turmoil on there and try to solve their problems. Good luck to you and your family.
2006-10-27 22:15:55 · answer #4 · answered by Libragal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help your parents. You can only help yourself. Shame on them for involving you in their marital problems! Tell them that - just exactly that - shame on them. You are a kid and you need to deal with kid/teenage things, and the most important of those is getting an education and becoming an adult with helpful, not hurtful, adult supervision. You can also call the Department of Children and Families - that's what they call it in the state I live in. They might call it something else in your state. But it's the people who investigate abuse in homes. You ARE being abused. Take care of yourself and good luck.
2006-10-27 21:43:55 · answer #5 · answered by PDY 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, there isn't much you can do to make them stop. You can however limit yourself to how much you want to listen to. Walk out of the room, go in the back yard, call a friend, do what you have to do to get away from it. If they try to pull you in, simply tell them that it isn't your fight and you don't want to be a part of it. I'm so sorry that you are having to deal with this. Good luck to you.
2006-10-27 21:40:43 · answer #6 · answered by pupcake 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, for starters I would talk to your mom and dad. If you don't feel comfortable talking to them about it, then maybe talk to your brother, other family or friends, I feel bad for you because it is really out of your control.. I really would try talking to mom. Im sure they wouldn't want you to feel this way and may not realize how much this is affecting you. Also, maybe go to your guidance councelor at school..... no matter who it is, I really think you need to talk to someone about it.
GOOD LUCK
2006-10-27 22:01:20 · answer #7 · answered by Carmie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot control your parents. Talk to your counselor at school, they can help you out with several resources. Good Luck!
2006-10-27 21:38:12 · answer #8 · answered by serendipity_siren 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call on your grandparents or the nearest close relative and tell them ... let adults handle these type of situations - when they start arguing just go to your room.
2006-10-27 22:57:45 · answer #9 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋