My parents found out dat I did drugs and dat I drank. they took my phone away from me and won't let me hang out wit my friends. I have been grounded for 3 months. I don't know what to do.
2006-10-27 14:16:18 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your parents care about you...If your friends encourage you to drink, smoke or do drugs, they're not your friends. They don't care about you with the unconditional love that your parents care and love for you with. You don't need those friends, or hang out anyone that will encourage you to drink or do drugs. Whether it's by word or action (doing it around you). Sometimes we can't see that when our parents punishes us for doing something wrong, it's b/c they're trying to instill values in you, and also to protect you. But at times we don't see past our deceitful desires and how they will hurt and destroy us in the long run. Build the trust back with your parents and find some new friends that will encourage you to do right. Being popular and trying to fit in isn't worth what you're worth. Stay focused!!!
2006-10-27 14:24:58 · answer #1 · answered by unknown 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well it depends on your parents. In my opinion, you're free to do whatever you want to.
Punishing you is the wrong approach, but just know that they do it because they care about you, and dont want you to be on the wrong track.
While you're better off not drinking and smoking, grounding you and forbidding you to see your friends is NOT going to work. In most cases it will just drive a wedge between you and them.
What is most important is to show that you're responsible about it.
Also, what caused them not to trust you isn't the drugs or the alcohol, but the fact that you (probably) lied about those things.
Just try to bear with them, but dont let them think they can force you to behave a certain way through punishment.
For the record, I've done drugs and drank all through high school and university... Today I still do those things, I'm not a junkie or a criminal or a bottom-feeding punk.
Also dont listen to people who say 'drugs are bad' if they havent done it themselves.
2006-10-27 21:25:00 · answer #2 · answered by brian-upstairs 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Think of this as probation. During these 3 months do what u can, work hard in school, you should also try to help out around the house. For these next three months u need to be a saint and do nothing wrong. Maybe also swear 2 ur parents that dugs and alchol wont ever b a part of ur life again and when u say it u need to mean it too. Good luck with gaining their trust!
2006-10-27 21:21:31 · answer #3 · answered by cutie123 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The only way to regain their trust is show them that you deserve it, but its going to take a while. First stop drinking and doing drugs. Then just do your best to live responsibly. They probably wont let you hang out with your friends cuz they think they influenced your bad habits, so consider helping your friends or making new friends.
2006-10-27 21:30:04 · answer #4 · answered by Lady A 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Start using correct grammar and act like you paid attention in school. Plus be patient. It may take them a while to trust you again but the only way to regain their trust is to show that they can trust you. When you first became old enough to make your own decisions they gave you trust for free. Now that you have lost their trust you have to earn it. Work hard and it will happen.
2006-10-27 21:19:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Change your habits completely. You are halfway there with your punishment.It will take you 3mths to get the toxins out of your body.Now that you cant hang out with your friends,Go the gym, or do some running or some physical exercise that will make you sweat at least 3times a week.Eat a lot of salads and vegetables. Both these 2tips will push the toxins out of your body in 3mths and drink a lot of water.
2006-10-27 21:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by siaosi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Show them that you are maturing DON'T DO DRUGS and STOP DRINKING! People generally end up like the people they hang out with-so if you are hanging out with friends who do drugs and you are not strong enough to rely on your values, and you follow the crowd-then you should let your friends go for a minute, until you can find the courage and strength to say NO to drugs and drinking.
2006-10-27 21:25:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, I hate to be the one to break it to you but you did this to yourself...first of all, you have to understand your parents, and when I say understand I mean REALLY understand...what would you do if you were in their situation, here is your kid, who you love with all your heart, who you wnat to protect from harm, and he/seh is doing drugs, its unacceptable behavior.
Step 1: Get at the root of the drug use...why are you using drugs, what's going on in your life that you feel like you need a break from (possibly seek therapy)
Dont think that you are just "experimenting" because that is a bad road to be on, and no one just experiments, all of our actions thappen for a reason...you have to be willing face your demons...
Tell your parents how you feel..communication is very important in life.
Good Luck to you, God Bless, and remember "No hope in Dope"
2006-10-27 22:03:32 · answer #8 · answered by Olivia N 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Show them your back to how you were before drugs. Let them know that your trying to change. Be calm and don't get mad if they don't understand what you want them too. Patience is the key to the worlds must unsolved puzzles. If all goes well things should be looking up in a matter of time!
2006-10-27 21:20:39 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Independent 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
All you need to do is make sure that you are really over the drugs and drinking then prove it to them do more around the house, don't hang with your friends as much then you shouldbe able to get thier trust back
2006-10-27 21:20:28 · answer #10 · answered by kendra m 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋