My husband's friend is staying with s while he getts on his feet after moving cities. Not that I like it, but I really dont mind helping someone out. But my hubby tells me that some of his friends are coming to stay the weekend to visit. First of all I hate houseguests, and I dont even know them. I had a bad week at work and I just dont feel like dealing with it. Im thinking about packing up me & my daughter and going to stay the weekend somewhere else. Is that wrong of me to feel this way?
2006-10-27 12:47:27 · 9 answers · asked by maymay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No..whats wrong is your husband inviting these people without discussing it with you....put your foot down and tell him NO. Take your daughter and go and stay with your mum or someone.
2006-10-27 12:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i understand your feelings i dont like that either your home should be your place to go to get away from lifes hassles and relax and its not fair for your child to have to deal with this if that one person needed a little boost it should be a mutual decision between you and your husband but making a party out of it by using your home as a get together place is not fair if you dont agree and cant relax then there is nothing wrong with you staying elsewhere for the weekend just make sure that you dont make the same mistake and impose on someone elses weekend i dont mean that rude to you just dont carry on the problem that you are having to someone else that feels the same way you do try to have a good weekend and good luck i sure hope these guys plan on cleaning up after themselves before they leave your home
2006-10-28 06:14:18 · answer #2 · answered by angel afraid and sad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have had a rough week, and don't know these people, maybe it would be nice to stay and say hello, get introduced and then take off and enjoy a weekend with your daughter. That is not wrong to feel that way, you are entitled to what you like and don't like. If you feel you can get away with having a relaxing weekend away from home without worries, I say go ahead. It'll be good for you, plus you get to spend tile with your daughter. It might make you feel better to be introduced right before you take off, and let your husband know that you are taking a weekend off. GOod luck, and I hope it goes well!
2006-10-27 12:50:51 · answer #3 · answered by overwhelmed85 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello? I think you need to develop a backbone and empower yourself. Your husband should NEVER invite houseguests before checking with you and it should be a mutual decision. I would pack up and leave for a while and let HIM deal with the houseguests. I guarantee if you do this a few times, he may decide all the fuss isn't worth it, especially when HE has to do a lot of the extra housework.
2006-10-27 12:50:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not entirely, as long as you're not doing it to spite your hubby.
Why not go stay at a friend's house or your family's place and have a fun, mom/daughter time?
Be sure to tell your hubby that you love him and you want him to have fun but you're just not up for being a hostess this weekend, it's nothing personal. Remind him that they'd probably have more fun being just the boys instead. Make sure to stock the fridge and kiss him goodbye though!
2006-10-27 12:51:48 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate house guests too! They always stay too long and expect you to cater to them. Talk to hubby and tell him that he has to call these people and tell them that they cannot visit! He made these plans without your consent, so he should be the one to put his tail between his legs and let them know that the visit is off! Besides, you know who will be left to clean up the mess after the weekend is over - and it won't be your husband!! You are not wrong to feel like this!!
2006-10-27 20:15:29 · answer #6 · answered by noonecanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and your daughter should git up and go. It is very rude and ignorant of your hubby to insist people stay at your house..."helping someone out", huh? That's enabling him, and turning your house into a FLOPHOUSE!
My husband "helped someone out" once. He was going to stay 2 weeks "at the most" until an apartment was ready. He pissed on my couch 3 nights in a row. Needless to say he ended up at a motel on his own dime.
2006-10-27 13:12:50 · answer #7 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think so. Tell your husband that while he spends time with his friends, you and you daughter are going to spend a weekend with just the girls doing something. I'm sure he won't mind.
2006-10-27 13:05:26 · answer #8 · answered by Erin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think under the circumstances it would be perfectly OK for you to take your daughter and go to a nice hotel.
You deserve a break and you'll come back in a better mood and ready to start the new week.
2006-10-27 12:56:17 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋