Family & Relationships - 27 December 2007

ok, give me three things that you do to make your wife, husband, or significant other feel loved? I need help on this one because I sometimes feel that I don't know what to do to give my girl that "special loved feeling."

2007-12-27 10:50:03 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

First 2 are by Neil Strauss, final one by Richard La Ruina. Only answer if you have some idea please. I'm only going to buy one...'The Game' was recommended to me by a friend, but 'The Rules of the Game' seems to be the same thing without the storyline. Anyway; which is best? Thanks.

2007-12-27 10:49:36 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

When I was in my home country, I was happy every hr, min and sec. As soon as I got out of the airplane, I could verbally say "I'm very happy." After returning home in the US, I'm now unhappy every hr, min and sec. Everyday, I talk to my friends and tell them I'm not happy.

2007-12-27 10:45:21 · 35 answers · asked by itguru5354 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

my dads drunk and im really deppressed now. what do i do?

2007-12-27 10:43:27 · 5 answers · asked by Obsessions 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Alright… There’s this girl that quite frankly, I believe I love. Can’t stop thinking about her and she is, at this time in my life, one of the few things that can actually make me smile. Its not that I am obsessed or infatuated, it is just more of my incompetence to be able to do what I need to. I am a sophomore in high school and she is a junior. At the beginning of the school year, I had known her for a year and I liked her during the previous year but I made no attempt to get closer. This year that has changed and my interest in her has increased greatly as I got to know her better. I am doing everything in my ability to get to the point where I can ask her out. One major point to bring up is that to this date, I have never been in a relationship of any sorts. Period. After about three months of getting closer to her I asked my best friend (he had been friends with her since they were young) out of desperation, to call her up, ask if she thought I liked her and what she thought of me (he pretended he had no idea). She said she thought I did like her and that at that time she only liked me as a friend. Now, a month later, I had been talking to her pretty much every day. Both in person (on the bus everyday) and on aim. She was opening up much more to me and every once in a while she will bring up the fact that she thinks that she is fat. Now, I know that this is a big load of bull so I always just explain to her why she isn't and I just try and comfort her. Now, in a much broader period of time, I realized that I was talking to her a bit too much. Realizing this, I backed off, trying to give her some space. As a result, I think she doesn’t feel as pressured anymore, and as a result, when I do talk with her, the conversations tend to be much more engaging and just better overall. Unfortunately, I have gone back to my old habits of being too caught up in the moment and freaked out to ever talk to her in person. At this time, I haven’t the faintest idea of what she feels for me, and what is going through her head. The time I spend talking with her, even the time I spend with her when I don’t talk is an adrenaline rush like none other. I feel ecstatic. All of my worries and negative emotions flood away from me in an instant. I don’t know…. I don’t want to be an inconvenience I just really need to talk about it. Any responses would be amazing. Thank you for spending the time to read this…

2007-12-27 10:43:20 · 1 answers · asked by patton 1 in Singles & Dating

I've found the man of my dreams but he has kids from a previous relationship. He wants to marry me and I want to marry him but I refuse to pay child support for kids that are not mine. Is there any way that I can marry him without the county taking money out of my paycheck too? (FYI the mother of his children is a career welfare recepient and does not want to work!!!! This is one reason why I refuse to have my paychecks garnished!)

2007-12-27 10:39:21 · 17 answers · asked by MalinaB 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Over the past two months I became friends with this girl in physics class. She always makes an effort to talk to me and be nice, and even made me a cd for me a while back after she asked me if I liked a band. She also copied notes for me and asked me my number recently, so we could study together. When we got done studying and I was walking to my car she stopped and picked me up and we talked in her car. We went and got coffee at school the next day after she waited a few mins for me to finish our exam. She also dropped out of her lab project group to be in mine after I couldn't get in hers. She then asked me to goto church with her recently, and we've studied together outside of school. In passing one time she said didn't want a relationship when talking about this guy from church that called her...we've been hanging out for a few weeks now at her house or going out to other places.

2007-12-27 10:38:57 · 38 answers · asked by cracky 2 in Singles & Dating

ok so when i was a child, around 7 my dad used to abuse my mom, im not sure if it was physical. im 14 now and he still abuses her and us. today he freaked out and started whipping stuff around. this happens a lot, and he yells at her almost every night and me and my sister. if i report him will anything happen ? or does it have to be physical ?

2007-12-27 10:38:11 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

so angry all the time, but i get mad for good reasons(that is true, he does have the right to be mad when he his), I dont know whats wrong. I have get off work(he hates his job- compass Bank) and im mad and I dont even want to talk, text or see anyone, not even you and i would be just fine going strait home, and to sleep every day and i would be fine....." --- he isn't depressed though.... but wt do yall think? help, i dont know wt to tell him to make him feel better, I think he needs a better job that he enjoys....? please help
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and this morning he said to just leave him alone and that he would talk to me when he wants too........ (im nervous)

2007-12-27 10:35:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

He called me and my 11-year-old brother into the living room one day, and with teary eyes and a cracking voice, he put one hand on my shoulder and another on my brother's. He said, "I guess it's just hard for a dad to look over at his son and realize he's now talking to a man."

2007-12-27 10:35:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

OK heres the quick version of the story. My boyfriend lives in a halfway house and is not allowed to work until next month. We have been together for 10 mos now and I have been basically supporting him. Paying for the cell phone and giving him spending money every week not to mention all the gifts. Christmas, Birthday etc. I knew he wasnt going to be able to get me any gifts for xmas but there was nothing!! No card, little note, NOTHING!!! My feelings are hurt and I dont know what to do. HELP!! I am feeling unappreciated and used.

2007-12-27 10:34:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Our house is in pre-forclosure (my husband was not working until just 2 weeks ago since April). Needless to say that I have had to try to pay the bills the best way possible and paying for my 1yr olds needs also. A month ago my father-in-law insisted that we move in for a little while until we can save money for an apartment, I was hesitant but I did live 1hr and 1/2 away from work so in gas I would spend like 600 a month alone + any other bills. We moved in and we were told not to pay anything, however my husband and I didn't feel confortable with that so we insisted on paying the diffrence in the light bill and the water bill for the time that we are there compared to previous bills. How ever I found out today that they expect me to pay a 296.23 water bill! My water bill wasn't even 200.00 when I had new sod put in at my old place. What should I do?? We found an apartment and are moving next weekend, pay 1/2 is fair price to both them and us, is it not? Help

2007-12-27 10:34:04 · 15 answers · asked by sexy052281 2 in Family

I have never done it. He on the other hand probably has a lot of experience (he's been in long relationships and stuff). When we make out it's very hot..he's very impressed and so am I. Now, if he thinks us having sex (making love) will resemble how we make out...he's in for a surprise. I don't know how since I've never done it:) So I'm really scared! (I'm over 18 btw so is he)

What should I do to be ok?

2007-12-27 10:34:03 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Me and My boyfriend recently had a argument about his ex girlfriend that he lives with (it’s a 10 person house share). What happened was he was talking to her about hairstyles and she asked him whether she could straighten his hair or not and he said she could.

After this he was on the phone to me and suggested whether it was okay for his ex to straighten his hair, even thou she had already done so by this stage. I said she wasn’t no and he agreed saying she wouldn't straighten his hair.

A day later I saw his hair straight and he said that before the conversation between me and him, she had already straightened his hair and I was extremely angry because not only did he lie about it, it’s well known that she still has feelings for him.He says it’s not a big issue but I think it is. He dismisses it as just a girl straightening his hair...whereas I see it as an ex (baring in my mind she still has feelings for him) gettin her grubby little hands through my mans hair...wot do u think?

2007-12-27 10:31:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My parents stay out of my business, and his mother is not happy. He has had a bad past and almost died a few times. I am the best person that ever came into his life and he in mine we really are happy and plan to marry. Possibly have a baby (he has two) and I have two but we want our own someday. Only problem is with my age someday is now. Can someone help? I want to go to church with him and be accepted as his lady but dont know where to begin. Im not disgusting and this is not gross. We have real love those of you that think this is gross or disgusting have you ever had real true love? I have been married two times and the last was abusive. My boyfriend is kind, caring, compasionete, and knows how to provide. yes he is young but I know alot of older men that cant do half of what i mentioned. I'm lookin for your comments please and advice. I believe in time his mom will come around she just wants him happy.

2007-12-27 10:31:18 · 9 answers · asked by j 1 in Marriage & Divorce

if they think this way or not. but how do u think u can have a successful relationship online without ever seeking, seeing calling etc.. but expect woman to just spill their guts here on line without a trace or even a sound. sorry i find here a stepping stone but not a place to hide..come out where ever u are if want more than have to lower the pride and nderstand that this is not going anywhere just being here.like girl or not?

2007-12-27 10:29:51 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm getting married in june and i was talking to my cousin and she said she probaly wont be able to make it because theres a 10 day fair going on and she already has the ticket. I believe the day we are getting married on, a sunday, is 6 days into the fair.
I just said "oh" to her (talking on IM) and then she shortly logged off.
basicly with her past I just think she's jealous but I'm worried that shes just being selfish on this.
Do I have a right to be upset that she would pick going to a fair, that happens every year, then come to my wedding?
They do live out of state and its a 4 hour drive, so really she could just come up for the day.
Do I have the right to say anything such as: "Well thats a bit hurtful that you would pick a fair over my wedding."?? Or what can I say?
Thinking about this makes it seem immature, which I'm 24 and she's 31. I'm kinda hurt :(
Please advice

2007-12-27 10:28:35 · 15 answers · asked by Mom to one cute boy! 6 in Weddings

He is forcing me to get a haircut becuase he wants my hair shorter and I want it longer. Also, he is making me do high school sports and clubs when I don't want to! I just want to be myself!!! I don't want to do track and field but I am forced too or I'll be "spending a lot of time in your room" is what he says. So when I say I'm grounded, it will be from not doing track! I'm going to try out for baseball but I doubt I'll make it. I've talked to him personally and calmly but he is still making me! When I am an adult, will I have to ask for permission from him for everything I do?? How do I get him to let me do what I want with MY life?

2007-12-27 10:27:12 · 17 answers · asked by FSBB 1 in Family

Ever since I met my boyfriend, he thinks weddings are a waste of money just for a one day. My family is paying 50%, and agreed on his parents they pay the other 50%. THE PARENTS ARE PAYING! I want this to be a beautiful day for both of us! I dont know many people whose parents pay for their weddings. He wants a small party, without the walk, dress (i dont)
I want a normal weddings, i want a dress, i want to walk down the ile, i want to exchange rings, etc
I dont mind having a party like he wants to, but I want an actually weddings! (we dont have a tight budget).
How could I make him change his mind?

2007-12-27 10:23:06 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

My aunt and her son live with my grandparents (her parents) and when every they come over or we go over there, or even a 10 minute conversation over the phone, my grandma and aunt CONSTANTLY go on and on about how broke and poor they are. But they eat out every day and buy flat screen tvs, new appliances, brand new game systems...you get the point... Everyone who knows my grandma and aunt is tired of hearing them nag about their finances.
So how can I get them to stop talking about how they have no money, but with tact?

2007-12-27 10:22:26 · 3 answers · asked by keita 3 in Family

Im skinny
I dance
Brown Hair
Brown Eyes
Nice Tan
5' 4"
Medium Length Hair
Outgoing
Shy when I first meet people
Laughs alot.

2007-12-27 10:21:14 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

theres this shy guy i have a crush on and well i was talking to him online through messaging and we talked back and forth and then the last message i sent was telling him that winter break is boring and i miss him. I checked to see if he read my message. he read it but he didnt reply. why? it makes me sad thinking maybe he didnt because he doesnt liek me or he doesnt care. please tell me what this might mean. im tired of being sad. Why didnt he reply?

2007-12-27 10:21:08 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my boyfriend and i are together a little over a month and the first time we had sex(foreplay first obviously) for some reason he "went away" if u no what i mean! i feel like its me putting him off but he says its not and tells me im extremly sexy etc...we tried again about a week after and it happened again...was d second time bcuz he felt under pressure? we were drinkin d first time if that means anything!! im not sure if it does cuz with my last boyfriend nothing mattered he'd always be hard!!or is it just me??im absolutly mad about him and he said hes mad about me too!!!

2007-12-27 10:20:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

he is 10 and just starting to rebel against it... he does love his pvc catsuit tho (and even wears it with friends) but I want him to not fight it all... any ideas ???

2007-12-27 10:19:57 · 18 answers · asked by ? 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Is there a solution or do we just call it off?

I hate jewelry and tattoos and never wear any.
I say she would not force me if she loves me like I don't just like I never force her to do things she doesn't want to. I don't care whether she wears one or not and I will always resent her if I give in.

2007-12-27 10:19:41 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

What do you go for ?

2007-12-27 10:19:37 · 8 answers · asked by ILoveYouLewis [: 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-27 10:19:15 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

But if she is wearing lipstick, how much (if it does) does it bother you?

2007-12-27 10:17:43 · 14 answers · asked by Gohappy 3 in Singles & Dating

My ex wants to keep talking to me becasue she wants to maintain a friendship and want's to hang out one day a week and have small talk. Problem is she is dating and going on dates and of course I'm thinking the worse. It kills me to think about her and another guy and it was a sick game that was going on but I do miss her and think maybe she wants to slowly try this again but won't admit it and says it's over. Why is she doing this? Is this a game or is she seeing if I can step up to the plate without her looking desperate? Confused to say the least.

2007-12-27 10:14:44 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Would a guy keep text messaging you occasionally if he wasn't interested? Is that a way to sincerely keep in touch because they genuinely liked you or keep you on the back burner just in case they get lonely some night in the future? If you're not really interested, let me move on already! So confusing.

2007-12-27 10:14:35 · 10 answers · asked by PatientBull 1 in Singles & Dating