OK heres the quick version of the story. My boyfriend lives in a halfway house and is not allowed to work until next month. We have been together for 10 mos now and I have been basically supporting him. Paying for the cell phone and giving him spending money every week not to mention all the gifts. Christmas, Birthday etc. I knew he wasnt going to be able to get me any gifts for xmas but there was nothing!! No card, little note, NOTHING!!! My feelings are hurt and I dont know what to do. HELP!! I am feeling unappreciated and used.
2007-12-27 10:34:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes you are being used
2007-12-28 00:40:03 · answer #1 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never heard of someone being in a halfway house and not working. Most are told to get out at a certain time during the day, and to go to work to fit back into society. Have you heard someone say that he couldn't work, or did he tell you that? He's sticking you worse than a pin cushion. He will always treat you this way, because he can and you allow it.
2007-12-27 10:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are feeling used because you ARE being used.
The next thing which could possibly be - is that he will expect you to continue doing all these good things for him - even if he gets a job.
He could have "at least" wrote you the sweetest letter in the world - thanked you .. and told you that when he is financial able that he would do special things for you.
If this guy appreciated you - he would at least give you that.
I don't blame you .. I would feel the same way.
This could be 'red-flags' about him - to you.
Just know, you don't have to take this ... ... in fact, I wouldn't take it at all.
You could just back-off .. and just stop .. do nothing anymore. Then .. he would try pushing your buttons to make you come back and support him more.
He could have done even the simpliest of things. You deserve better.
Think about this .. maybe something is trying to tell you something about him.
2007-12-27 11:30:05 · answer #3 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't jump to the conclusion that he is using you,yet. But it may be a good idea to either stop paying for the cell phone bill or stop sending him money every week. When he starts working, see what type of behavior he will have toward you monetarily, then form a conclusion. If you have not done so, tell him you feel taken for granted and see how he responds. Also, it is fine to care about someone but make sure you are as generous to yourself as you are to him.
2007-12-27 10:49:17 · answer #4 · answered by LORD BALTIMORE 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wake up. "My boyfriend lives in a halfway house".
He got you NOTHING for Christmas. You are being used. And you can certainly do better. Honestly, how could you do worse than this guy?
2007-12-27 11:07:33 · answer #5 · answered by jeff b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are accurate. You are being used.
But here is better news for you that I hope you will take to heart...
You deserve better!
You deserve a man who will love you and take care of you, not a felon.
Go out into the world and find this man and do not settle for anything less than you deserve.
Good luck.
2007-12-27 10:41:03 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes....
Now that you know, hold your head high and just say goodbye.
We all get hurt or used once in life sometimes more. But you know now, so pick yourself up...be proud and drop him like the piece of crap that he is...
Better to know the truth. SMILE. And walk on.
2007-12-27 11:07:54 · answer #7 · answered by kishoti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you whining about? YOU put yourself right where you are. It was YOUR choice to become involved with this guy and your CHOICE to pay for a cellphone for him etc (Dumb) now you want to whine about being used? Nope You CHOSE to put yourself where you are suck up and deal with being a dummy.
2007-12-27 15:17:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry sweetie, your being used.
2007-12-27 10:39:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
leave his *** alone...... you cant see without asking????????????
2007-12-27 10:42:07 · answer #10 · answered by ROBIN R 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋