Is there a solution or do we just call it off?
I hate jewelry and tattoos and never wear any.
I say she would not force me if she loves me like I don't just like I never force her to do things she doesn't want to. I don't care whether she wears one or not and I will always resent her if I give in.
2007-12-27 10:19:41 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Raven - A wedding ring IS, by definition, jewelry. All rings are jewelry. I have no need to announce anything to strangers. Everyone I know will know that I am married.
1. Both of our preferences should count EQUALLY.
2. If I go ahead and suffer through wearing a ring that I would hate, should I expect her to do whatever is important to me, regardless of how she feels about it?
3. This is not about who wins or loses, it is about finding a solution to this problem.
Thanks all for your help, even those who think I'm all wrong.
2007-12-29 17:18:01 · update #1
You shouldn't be forced to do anything you don't want to do. She is probably so insistent about it because of what it represents. You should try to come up with something of equal symbolic value and suggest doing that instead.
2007-12-27 10:26:28 · answer #1 · answered by Meg 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You might be surprised to learn that many of the expensive looking rings you see were not expensive at all. People may like to brag or be showy without the expense. I have a friend in the jewelry business that says about half of the couples that come into her store actually choose a synthetic stone rather than a mined diamond for the engagement ring. They use the money they've saved to pay off debt or towards the down payment on a house. That makes a lot more sense than spending it on jewelry. They have expensive looking rings without the excessive costs. Some of the synthetic diamonds are so good that even a trained jeweler cannot tell the difference without a gem scope and/or testing. Even if someone does have an expensive engagement ring, don't feel the need to be impressed. You can laugh at how people can be foolish with their money. After all, it is their money.
2016-05-27 08:34:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you are marrying the wrong person. My step dad has never worn a ring a day in his life (due to work) and it doesn't mean he doesn't love my mom.
Could she maybe still get you one, on the condition that you don't have to wear it- perhaps you may change your mind once it is actually there(or you might still hate the idea and never put the thing on). Maybe for the wedding day suck it up and wear it then, but beyond that should be your choice. But she shouldn't be forcing it- spells disaster for the marriage if you cannot find any kind of compromise.
2007-12-27 10:26:22 · answer #3 · answered by KD 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
My husband does not even wear a watch, but he has a plain wedding band that he wears when we go out together. He does not wear it any other time, especially at work.
Maybe a soultion could be that you wear the ring on your wedding day/honeymoon and when you and your wife go out, but the rest of the time it sits in its box.
Reassure her that a ring does not change the love you have and whether you wear one or not, that you are still married and you don't need a piece of jewelry to remind you.
2007-12-27 10:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well you could come to a compromise and wear it for the ceremony and on special occasions. Or get a very small tatoo of her name around your finger.
If this is a deal breaker for either of you maybe you both aren't ready to be married. There are many real issues that you are going to have to deal with. If you can't get over one that really is so insignificant you two will have a lot of heartache to look forward to.
2007-12-27 10:27:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all, wedding rings are not Jewelry. They are the symbol of your eternal love. Get wit the program or your gonna have this over your head forever. It means, your telling the world your happy and committed. That's important to her. Just do it! You will not win this.
2007-12-27 12:34:56 · answer #6 · answered by Raven 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Do you love her? You need to find a compromise here. In reality your right you should not have to wear one if you don't want too. Maybe you can wear one only if you go out? My husband and I have been married a long time we hardly ever wear one. Only if we feel like it. It's trust......
2007-12-27 10:25:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
sorry but you're being childish, if it is simply that you don't like wearing jewellery then get over it, I know a ring is a symbol and does not show how much you love a person, but if it matters that much to her then just wear one.
2007-12-28 00:41:41 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
my hubby wears a ring, but not all men do. do you have a job where jewelry is a danger? maybe you could use that.
2007-12-27 10:25:14 · answer #9 · answered by loriloriloriloriv 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
a wedding ring is not a jewelry
2007-12-27 10:29:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋