I have never done it. He on the other hand probably has a lot of experience (he's been in long relationships and stuff). When we make out it's very hot..he's very impressed and so am I. Now, if he thinks us having sex (making love) will resemble how we make out...he's in for a surprise. I don't know how since I've never done it:) So I'm really scared! (I'm over 18 btw so is he)
What should I do to be ok?
2007-12-27 10:34:03 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I mean I don't know what to do to be REALLY good...in the sense that he doesn't guess my lack of experience:(
2007-12-27 10:37:48 · update #1
gosh.. .wait till marriage... or you will regret I bet you a million dollars that after you have sex with him you will break up within a year...
Ive seen a 101 times... and your only going to regret it..
wait til mariage this guy is CON-ing you... playing games...
anyways it's your life ...don't blame me I warned ya.
2007-12-27 10:38:14 · answer #1 · answered by Neweyes777 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to be honest with him and let him know that this is your first time. That not only lets him know what he is getting into but it will relax you as well by taking some of the pressure off. The only thing that you can do is try to be as calm as possible and do what feels right. There is no right or wrong way to have sex. The good news~if you have good chemistry to begin with then there is a good chance this will carry over and that is the most important part of it all. If you didn't have chemistry, it really wouldn't matter how "good" someone is, it will still be lacking a major part of the equation. Don't get your hopes up too much. My first time was a little awkward/painful BUT I had a good man who knew it was my first and he made sure he was understanding. Not to say that I still didn't have fun! Good luck hun and talk to him!
2007-12-27 10:47:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont do it if you feel pressuered it wont be as nice. Wait untill you feel comfortable and , yes I know you have heard it, Comfortable. The best thing is, it is your body and if you feel tense it wont work.. If you want to take him and enjoy what is coming that is fine, but if you have any hesitations, ask him to wait until you are ready. ALWAYS wear protection for various reasons. Try to create a mood or if you feel the time is right at a chance experience that is ok also.. The only thing i can say without sounding like a mam is that you will know if you are comfortable doing it. ANY doubts, dont go there. You have to be reeady. It is your body. It is ultimately up to you. If he can wait, then that is a good thing, if he cant, get rid of him lol
2007-12-27 10:43:13 · answer #3 · answered by littlepixie 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i asked a similar question earlier, actually. my boyfriend and i (both over 18) had the sex talk, and i've never had it before so i think i will be bad.
you have to consider first whether you want to have sex before marriage or not. you are only a virgin once. your body is your temple. once you lose your virginity, it's gone forever. do you want to get married and have your husband find out he'll be the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, etc you had sex with? then, if you do decide you want to have sex, make sure he has protection. the worst thing that can happen is getting pregnant if you're not ready to have a baby yet, especially if he won't be around to help.
next, if you guys do decide to have sex, tell him that you're nervous, and that you want him to take it slow for your first time. if he loves you, he will understand and respect your request. after that, just go with the flow. and if he does something you don't like or makes you uncomfortable, or decide halfway through that you want him to stop, don't be afraid to tell him so.
good luck!
2007-12-27 10:42:13 · answer #4 · answered by miss_anthropic 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well definitely use foreplay, start talking sexy and rub up against him. That will turn him on! It does for me. Let him kiss you and then make out. Slowly, start taking off your clothes. Then, get into a bed and let the real fun begin. I think you're just nervous. It's natural, even if it's not the first time. He likes you and he'll probably teach you. Have fun and play it safe, seriously...
2007-12-27 13:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by --- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he know you've never been with anyone before? It sounds like you guys need to talk more. Don't do it before you're ready...you'll know when it's right. If you're not, you might regret it after. If he's the right one, things will naturally progress at their own pace. Your lack of experience should never be an issue if he truly cares for you.
...and read alot! Knowledge is power!!!! :) Good luck.
2007-12-27 10:43:44 · answer #6 · answered by PatientBull 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hold it !
If your in a car roll down the window and take a few breaths of fresh air. This will help you clear your head a bit so you won't do something embarassing or stupid or even worse.
Always keep this thought when the temperature rizes;
"A stiff penis has no conscience"
He wins... You loose... So There!
Unless your sure your ready, protected by means of utility, don't do it . God loves you too!
2007-12-27 10:52:36 · answer #7 · answered by dealer -wheeler 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
READ THIS!!! Im 18 and i just did it for the first time like a few months ago and she didnt even know it was my first time until I told her weeks later. The more you do it the better you will get. And he will have fun teaching you the ropes. Also guys LOVE virgins, so you have nothing to lose. But if you dont want him to know do the missionary position for awhile (that way he does most the work) until you get more experience and you can try new things slowly as your comfort level increases. Have fun and I wish you good luck!
2007-12-27 10:37:40 · answer #8 · answered by multi-million man 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Well, first, if you're not sure, you might want to wait.
You should care about each other, and focus on making BOTH you and the other person happy. the more the other person means to you, the more meaningful the experience will be.
Don't watch yourself.. Just relax and be in the moment, if you watch yourself and ask how you're doing, you won't give your partner your full attention,
remember:
Dance like there's nobody watching.
Love like you'll never get hurt.
Sing like there's nobody listening.
Live like it's heaven on earth.
2007-12-27 10:44:29 · answer #9 · answered by Davis 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
but.. what is that about? this is not a contest.. to be better than the ones before.. it is an act of love, and the technique doesn't matter when there is passion. You are looking for that thrill, and there's no way you cand have that without love.. so love him.. with all you have and you'll be the best!!
2007-12-27 10:56:24 · answer #10 · answered by ann3lizz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex with him unless you love him. If you love him than things will just click. Even if you don't sex is pretty easy, just let go and enjoy it...pretend like you know what you are doing! This sounds odd, but watch a porn or a movie with a sex scene and take notes ;) haha
good luck darlin
ps MAKE HIM WEAR A CONDOM NO MATTER WHAT! Esp. if he has had sex before!!
and don't do it untill YOu are ready
2007-12-27 10:38:48 · answer #11 · answered by Jessica 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋