Ever since I met my boyfriend, he thinks weddings are a waste of money just for a one day. My family is paying 50%, and agreed on his parents they pay the other 50%. THE PARENTS ARE PAYING! I want this to be a beautiful day for both of us! I dont know many people whose parents pay for their weddings. He wants a small party, without the walk, dress (i dont)
I want a normal weddings, i want a dress, i want to walk down the ile, i want to exchange rings, etc
I dont mind having a party like he wants to, but I want an actually weddings! (we dont have a tight budget).
How could I make him change his mind?
2007-12-27 10:23:06 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You can't make him change his mind but you can make him understand how important it is to you. Marriage is about compromise and he needs to understand that this is something that you really want, and it sounds like even the parents want it. Hopefully he can be happy with it knowing how happy it will make you. And maybe you can let him pick where to go on the honeymoon!
2007-12-27 10:33:01 · answer #1 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience I have been to too many weddings that were quite costly and the marriages have now been dissolved within one to two years. I think that we as women want the wedding so bad that we forget about the marriage. Now I’m not saying this is going to happen to you. I suggest a small wedding like your man wants and more money spent on the honeymoon. Remember that the wedding is only one day less than 24 hours for thousands of dollars. You can use that money for all the other days of the new life you will be spending together. As for me and my husband we have been together for five years and got married at the cheeeezzziest chapel in Reno. For $500 (including gas, hotel expenses, marriage license, ceremony, and rings that turned our fingers greenï). Do I want that big extravagant wedding no not really, that’s what I have the WE channel for. In any case, wish you well on you future together.
2007-12-27 18:44:20 · answer #2 · answered by raginez 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He probably won't change his mind but you need to at least try to get him to see why you want what you want. Exchanging vows and rings means something. You'll have to exchange vows anyway whether you do it at a ceremony or at the courthouse. Compromise is key. My fiance wanted a wedding ceremony but my dream wedding has always been to go to the courthouse and run away together. We compromised. We're going to the courthouse with our parents as witnesses and then we're having a small dinner reception with family and friends. Since we're from different states we're only inviting immediate families to both receptions. His extended family will be invited to the reception in his state (about a month after the wedding) and my extended family is invited to the reception in my homestate on the wedding day. This shouldn't be something that tears you two apart but it can be difficult to come to an agreement. Really, you have it made with your parents paying. The sad truth is that if he's not willing to compromise on this he will probably not be willing to compromise on much. Compromise and communication are needed in all marriages.
2007-12-27 19:31:43 · answer #3 · answered by Rockit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with him to a point. I knew a couple and her dad offered to give her money for a down payment of a house $15,000 or pay for the wedding. She opted for the wedding. I would have taken the $15,000 and spent $2000 on a simple wedding.
If it is important to you, then you have to talk to him about it and work out something that will make both of you feel ok about it. Marriage is about compromise.
2007-12-27 18:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just try to compromise. Do all the traditional things, but don't go overboard.
I agree that a lot of money is wasted on Weddings. You can keep them simple, nice and classy and not spend a lot of money.
Try to consider his feelings on this.
BTW- if you are engaged he is not your partner or Significant Other, he is your Fiance. Please give him the appropriate credit.
2007-12-27 18:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down with him and try to make him understand your side of things, let him know that it means a great deal to you and that its something you have wanted and dreamed of since you were a little girl and that you hope that he could give you this one thing that you truly want. He may not undrestand how you feel, so talk rationally and dont get upset with him if he cant grasp the concept. A lot of men have a hard time understanding the "wedding". Just explain it to him camly, he will understand.
2007-12-27 18:38:13 · answer #6 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
mmm it is your right to have a wedding party .. what is the real reason ? money .. then ur boyfriend is stingy ... or maybe he is shy ... i think u need to really talk to him , it is the most beatuiful day in life ,,, it is like graduating... dont agree with him ... i am not married but i think that wedding party is as important as honeymoon. i think your boyfreind will really feel happy after the wedding plus parents are paying ,,,,,
2007-12-27 18:34:56 · answer #7 · answered by jo n jo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, tell him how important having a wedding is to you... and if he wants a party, let him plan the reception. it's a compromise. that way you get the dress etc.. and he can still have his party.
2007-12-27 18:52:40 · answer #8 · answered by Lindz C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husban said the same thin
We made the plans and had the wedding
After the wedding, he was happy about it
Tell your boyfriend, that a wedding is about family
Not having one, hurts the mothers
2007-12-27 18:30:30 · answer #9 · answered by Halo Mom 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think most guys really do not care for weddings. It's usually a woman's thing to want to feel like a princess for a day or whatever. the guy is usually the practical one thinking..how much did we spend for flowers for one day? how much was your dress for one day? guys usually do not care. but if it is really what u want than go for it
2007-12-27 18:28:22 · answer #10 · answered by butterfly234 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋