My husband, by his own choice, does not like to hang out with his family. He's always hated going home for the holidays, but in the last few years he has chosen to see them even less than before. He has bad memories from his childhood, is going through therapy to deal with all of the abuse from his past, and I get the feeling that he wants a break from them either until he sorts everything out in therapy, or maybe permanently, I'm not sure.
However, his family, predominantly, his mother, thinks it's all my doing that they don't see as much of him as they used to. She has accused me of 'tearing their family apart' and trying to keep him from her. Initially I was neutral on whether or not he hung out with his family, but all of her carrying on and accusations makes me see why my husband chooses to be distant with them. Anyone else with this issue? How do you let other in laws know that you are not to blame?
2007-11-15
10:49:59
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