My BF is probably going to break up with me for my BFF. I want to break up with him first or else I will be gossiped about a lot. So I am thinking about it, but what if he wasn't going to break up with me? Is he worth still dating? Because my other friend said that he told her that he will dump me tomorrow. Help!
2007-11-15 11:11:45 · 26 answers · asked by zosweetcandyoz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, and by the way, I am in middle school now. 6th grade. I do kinda like him, but even my mom suggested I dump him if he only used me as backup until my BFF was available. I just don't know if it is true..
2007-11-15 11:19:43 · update #1
OK thanks a lot! I will probably just break up with him tomorrow.
2007-11-15 11:29:27 · update #2
OMG....boy, this sure takes me back to high school days. (of course that was 20 years ago....and if you are in Middle School...that would take me back 23 years!)
Call him and say "Are you interested in dating my BFF?" If he says "yes" then say that you would like to break up as it looks silly being with him while he pines away for another girl. If he says "No", apologize for being a jealous idiot and move on. It is that simple and needn't be something that is so arduous and difficult that it needs to be addressed here.
Who cares who dumps whom, anyway? Is there a weird social protocol at your school?
Anything else (or more) is just HS drama BS. If you want to play grown-up, act like one.
If I were him, though, I would rather date a girl who didn't post our dirty laundry on YA.
******************LISTEN TO YOUR MOTHER, SASHA!!!************
2007-11-15 11:18:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship with this guy has gotten to the point where you're worried about who's going to dump who, there's a good chance that this guy isn't right for you. As for your best friend, you need to tell her that she needs to wait if she's going to date your soon to be ex. This will generally keep the gossiping at a low, allowing time to pass before they can start up. If being gossiped about is more important to you than this guy, dump him. But if you feel that the relationship is worth continuing and he means something to you, try and stick it out. Who knows, you may be pleasently suprised.
2007-11-15 19:17:33 · answer #2 · answered by Sam B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's put aside that you will be gossiped about. Do you really want to be in a relationship with someone that has little value for you that he would even date your bestfriend or anyone while he was with you. The more you tolerate from him the more he will test your boundaries. Also the more you tolerate the little you will think of yourself. Girlfriend after you dump him party it up.
2007-11-15 19:22:45 · answer #3 · answered by jvw2300 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having a boyfriend should not be about, "omg I have a boyfriend I am so cool", if you are concern about what people think you are not ready to have a boyfriend.
Since this is not a real relationship.. I suggest you dump him so you dont "feel embarrassed"(cause your friend will gossip)" if and when he dumps you
2007-11-15 19:18:42 · answer #4 · answered by Unreliable_Source 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you still like the guy? If yes, don't break up with him. If he breaks up with you, oh well. The fact that he ended rather then you doesn't really matter.
And if this was all a rumor, you'll have broken up with a good guy for nothing.
2007-11-15 19:15:38 · answer #5 · answered by Uncle Pennybags 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call him and dump him. If he was the right one for you, it wouldn't be for your BFF.. You will find someone new in time, don't waste alot of time with guys like this though. There are so many more fish (guys) out there, just throw out your line and see what you catch.
2007-11-15 19:17:18 · answer #6 · answered by embracedb4 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i wish i knew how to answer that. so i will answer that like i was answering my daughter. do you know for sure that he wants to break up with you? until you hear it from the person, everyone elses comments are just hear say. there might be gossip no matter who breaks up with who. you might need to talk to him and tell him that you heard that he was going to break up with you. doesnt hurt to talk and if he does break up with you. you will probably hurt for a little while, but there are plenty of other ones out there. good luck
2007-11-15 19:21:13 · answer #7 · answered by markieshoney 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People will gossip one way or another, don't break up with him because you don't want to be talked about. I think the issue is you don't trust him if you are concerned he is about to date your friend. That may be enough reason to end it. Do it with dignity, take the high road...don't accuse or get nasty. You will feel better about yourself later.
2007-11-15 19:18:54 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie E 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok first of all if hes really gonna do that break up with him emidialtly hes not worth it trust i know and if your best friends says yes shes not a real good friend. if hes gonna do all the hes not worthd dATING. YOU KNOW YOUR UYS ARENT GONNA BE DATING ALL YOUR LIFE IM SURE THERE SOMETHING YOU DONT LIKE ABOUT HM SO BREAK UP WITH HIM
hope my advice works :)
2007-11-15 19:24:54 · answer #9 · answered by cuite with a cause 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if you get dumped first... let him be a big man and dump you.. then go find some other guy
2007-11-15 19:14:30 · answer #10 · answered by LOVE 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋