Family & Relationships - 4 November 2007

My fiance identifies as queer & has had serious relationships with both men and women. My immediate family has already met him, likes him, and knows about his sexual orientation. My extended family (grandparents, aunts, uncles) has not yet met him and they are very conservative. Their conservativeness has always been an issue -- often culminating in heated arguments between my mom and her brothers -- but they are family and we still somehow love each other and get along.

I'm worried about how the meeting will go between my boyfriend & my grandparents and uncles at Thanksgiving. I would, of course, protect him from any bigoted remarks that were directed at him, but I'm afraid that, in general, the atmosphere will just be tense. They don't know about his orientation so it might be a non-issue if he doesn't bring it up and the conversation stays mild...but I also don't want him to feel like I'm sticking him in the closet.

2007-11-04 08:17:36 · 10 answers · asked by weirdiscomplimentary 6 in Weddings

I dont know. It's just they all have money to spend on certain things and then at school they go and talk about it. And i'm sitting there with nothing and yes i do feel like they are wasting money on stupid things yet i still feel jealous. My mom is a single mom and i do understand the reasons she cant afford things. But its so hard because i feel so alone and poor. I get irritated when someone says to me why dont you just go buy a new one or when someone doesnt understand why i get so upset if i lose something my family considers expensive. Sometimes i cry over it because i have to work so hard yet my friends dont. I'll say i cant come over on the weekend because i have laundry or chores to do and they will respond "You do your laundry? Why doesnt your mom do it?" I just get so pissed. My mom is working. Who esle is going to do it?

blah. i just.. i dont know.. sometimes it comes to a point where i cant take it. And its not like i can make new friends. Everyone is like that.

2007-11-04 08:16:48 · 48 answers · asked by kakae 2 in Friends

2007-11-04 08:15:46 · 30 answers · asked by mountain_laurel1183 5 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-04 08:15:06 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-04 08:13:22 · 3 answers · asked by Krissy R 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-04 08:13:10 · 17 answers · asked by david j 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Love i do not understand it
I have this bf but i do not know if he really likes me i know he did cuz he told me and he put his arm around me but that was befor we started going but ever since we started going out he acts diffrent around me he talks about my best friend all the time he also calls her mom hot he is always saying that i am mad cuz she was hanging around one of her other friends but i mean befor we started going out he acted like he liked me but now he acts like he hates me he also talks about my best friends sister


what schould i do
does he really like me
does he like her mom
does he like her
does he like her sister
plz help me i need as much help as i can get

2007-11-04 08:07:32 · 6 answers · asked by Rawr1995 1 in Singles & Dating

We went to the Boston Museum Of Science to see the Pink Floyd light show and then out for chinese food. Been married almost 12 years now.

2007-11-04 08:07:02 · 30 answers · asked by Kim 6 in Marriage & Divorce

This guy & I have been friends for awhile, our familes know each other too. I think we both sorta liked each other at some point, I still kinda do & I think he does, but has never came out & said it. We've only hooked up once since I've known him & we were both drunk. Anyway, we've still remained friends, and like I said I think we still both have feelings for one another. Anyway, lastnight I saw one of his cousin's roommates at a lounge where I was at, so we started talking, he's actually pretty hot, & I knew that he was probably going back to his place afterwards (I didn't want to drive home drunk) where my friend's cousin lives also, at least I was familiar w/ it & I'm friends w/his cousin too. Well, we ended up hooking up, me & the roommate friend, then I felt bad & called the guy I like to come over & I don't know why but I hooked up with him too. I know the word is going to get around, but I want to tell him before he hears it from someone else, & just to be honest, but should I?

2007-11-04 08:02:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We like each other, but I hav yet to mak a move. On her myspace, one of her guy friends said that he remembered she was a trick. Am I just overreacting or is this girl a *. I mean I want to make a move, but if she's got STDs Im taking my chances with someone else.

2007-11-04 08:01:53 · 4 answers · asked by za z 1 in Singles & Dating

because your sisters are really annoying her

2007-11-04 08:01:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-11-04 07:58:31 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

so whenever I'm having sex with my boyfriend his balls always seem to get caught up in my vagina,wich makes having sex VERY difficult...any advice is appreciated????

2007-11-04 07:56:44 · 4 answers · asked by hezbutt 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I asked my gf why she wont say I love you anymore. She responded with I do. So I asked if she remembers the last time she did and she said Friday when we got off the phone. I told her that we didnt say goodnight and that we fell asleep. Then she goes it was during the conversation. I remember everytime she says it and she didnt. Need some input

2007-11-04 07:56:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i met this guy, and it seemed like he was REALLY putting effort into getting to know me, it seems like he wants to get to know people really well before he dates them. i respect that, however at this time in my life, i'm trying to focus on college, and the anticipation is distracting me from my work. i finally just came out and asked if he was interested. he said "i don't want to jump into anything, sorry if i led you on, not that i havn't been considering it" it hurt a little, but i digested it and decided that it was early enough that we could still be just friends, however he's making it hard. he keeps being sweet and cuddly with me. before i left that night, he took my hand and said, "thankyou for being honest with me, i'm not saying NO, if you need anything you can talk to me". i trust that he's not out to hurt me, but i'm not sure he knows his own intentions. i spent that whole night adjusting to liking him only as a friend, i think he went home and did the opposite.

2007-11-04 07:55:47 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my parents said that they were gettin me a fone a week ago,, they havent gotten it yet!!! why are parents so ARGH!!!

2007-11-04 07:53:44 · 11 answers · asked by k-rae :) 2 in Family

I mad at my mother for breaking her promise. She said she was going to take me to the movies on Saturday. But instead I went to my greatgrandmother's birthday party. Then she siad she was taking me to the movies Sunday and then she said i can't go because i was acting up just because i was waking her up to go to the movies and get a video game. And now i can't go at all becuase i was rellay acting up. I was just waking her so we won't miss the movie. I so angry at her and now i have to wait next month to get a game and go to the movies.

2007-11-04 07:52:47 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

how do i find courage to tell this guy that i like him and not his so called best friend?

2007-11-04 07:52:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My cat pisses and craps on my bed and my dad is very inconsiderate and he keeps locking my cat in my room because he doesn't want the cat to go in his room. Problem is he keeps saying he is making a mistake but then why does he keep closing the door to my room? What should I do?

2007-11-04 07:52:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

is it a bad thing that i refer to my boyfriends penis as Jesus?

2007-11-04 07:49:46 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Very generally speaking, what's better for you. Sexual intercourse or Oral Sex. On average, generally speaking, regardless of emotional attachments. I want an honest answer because I'd like to see other opinions.

2007-11-04 07:49:03 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

can i wear a maternity weading dress even if im not pregnant ( i have a big mid-section? the one im thinking about looks like this?
http://www.bridalchalet.com/Gallery/MaternityBridal/product.html?id=itemtyClZubjLu

2007-11-04 07:47:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

my cousin keeos on bugging me and evry time i try to go on the cpu, he alwayz follows me. and he keeps saying that im weird all the time. and he is immatating me and he is an idiot and how do i stop him? he keeoz bothering me. help!

2007-11-04 07:44:23 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2007-11-04 07:43:00 · 8 answers · asked by winna o 1 in Singles & Dating

I really love my girlfriend, but her friends are really annoying. When they're around, they talk about me like I'm not there and sometimes tell her why I'm no good, she never takes notice of what they say but it still annoys me greatly! What do I do?

2007-11-04 07:41:45 · 23 answers · asked by jaggernut 3 in Singles & Dating

do guys prefer women with arm hair or no arm hair? i NEED to know!!!!!!!!

2007-11-04 07:41:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-04 07:39:06 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Is that normal for women to crave for chocolate, different kinds of food and sex. I am not pregnant so don't get me wrong here. But I do crave for Chinese, Mexican, Italian food a lot. I want to know if thats a normal thing for women. Or its just me.

2007-11-04 07:38:48 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-11-04 07:37:07 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I really don't want to go, my reason is this:
Well I know what your thinking your thinking that i should suck it up and go to school, but like.... im a lazy *** and no need to repeat that :)
I'm at my cousin's right now, and my dad is going to take me home in like 15 mins or something, right? And i dont want to leave, (i have to go home its cuz i have school tommorow... or else i would stay...) how can i convince my dad to stay home, and if youre going to answer, dont call me lazy cuz i already now that.

Serious answers ONLY.

2007-11-04 07:32:01 · 2 answers · asked by Roxy 1 in Family