I made a mistake, should I just be honest, even if we're just friends?

Question

This guy & I have been friends for awhile, our familes know each other too. I think we both sorta liked each other at some point, I still kinda do & I think he does, but has never came out & said it. We've only hooked up once since I've known him & we were both drunk. Anyway, we've still remained friends, and like I said I think we still both have feelings for one another. Anyway, lastnight I saw one of his cousin's roommates at a lounge where I was at, so we started talking, he's actually pretty hot, & I knew that he was probably going back to his place afterwards (I didn't want to drive home drunk) where my friend's cousin lives also, at least I was familiar w/ it & I'm friends w/his cousin too. Well, we ended up hooking up, me & the roommate friend, then I felt bad & called the guy I like to come over & I don't know why but I hooked up with him too. I know the word is going to get around, but I want to tell him before he hears it from someone else, & just to be honest, but should I?

I know we're not bf/gf but I still feel the need to tell him. Is it a good idea or no?

Answer 1

Keep this to yourself. Learn how to keep secrets.

Answer 2

I'm a guy and I already know whats going to happen. The cousin already knows... trust me the roomate was probably like "you know whats her face? I totally tagged that the other night." Then the cousin is going to call up the friend you like and is going to be like "Hey, have you talked to that chick lately?" and your friend is going to be like "Yeah, we hung out for a little while yesterday, why" to which the roomate will reply "Dude, you know my roomate? He totally smashed that last night." at this point you will either be a booty call for either of the guys which will result in bringing your self-esteem lower and spiral into you doing more stupid and irresponsible things or you will just not socialize with any of them for a long time. Either way, you could tell him because a. he already knows and b. he isn't going to date you or consider a relationship with you in the future. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but men love a freak in the sheets and a lady in the streets. Stop getting trashed at bars and coming off as a fking hoodrat. You're never going to meet a good guy at a bar or club... probably a really great screw, but you don't really want to tell your kids... I met your father at a club back in 2007. oh... i was dropping it like it was hot and making it touch the floor. after we were really drunk he took me back to the cheapest hotel available and slammed me until I fell asleep. Anyways, it's your life- do what you want, but trust that everything comes around sooner or later.

Answer 3

I know you're young so you're supposed to be silly, but you may NOT abuse the privilege. Well, what's done is done, but do not compound that mistake by telling him that....it WILL NOT be well received. In the future try to think your way through these situations before they get into full swing. This is not dishonesty because you have no implied duty to tell him that...so don't.

Answer 4

well if you know for sure he will find out and dont wanna blow your friendship, tell him. The best way to go is talk to him about how you guys feel for eachother. He's your friend and should understand

Hope this helps!

Answer 5

no dont ,just pray that they are too embarrassed to say anything as well and hope thy are not that mean. .you dont have to say anything to any one and if it does come out you can always just laugh it off and say oh that night i dont remember !!!!
alternatively just smile and say "it was fun " be brazen and dont show how embarrassed you are .
or "never again , i drank so much " and dont even comment on the sex leave it to their imagination
there are quite a few way to handle it just pick one that appeals to you.

Answer 6

tell him cuz no offence but the way u made it seem u look kinda s**t* try to say it in a different way tell him exactly what u were feeling at the time