Family & Relationships - 1 August 2007

I was just wondering what should you say to your ex-spouse after a really bad break up, if they decide to call ask how you were doing after awhile? In my situation, sometimes I can't resist to not picking up the phone. Other time, I know that he called, but let the voicemail does the work. When he called though he usually talk business like what I need to do and whatnot...when picking up the phone, I usually don't want to hear those things. I rather hear something goods from him like he ever cared at all, if you know what I mean.

2007-08-01 02:41:37 · 22 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend and I will have been together for 2 years in November and I care about him a lot, but he hates that I smoke cigarettes. I quit for about 6 months, but work and other things got me stressed out and I started smoking again. He really wants me to quit, but when he first met me and we started dating I smoked all the time. Don't know what I should do.

2007-08-01 02:37:00 · 9 answers · asked by ashley s 2 in Singles & Dating

Quick background. Rocky marriage w/ on&off counseling. Married life was blissful when I was an agreeable slave/doormat. She's a workaholic executive w/ infrequent/no libido (towards me) that only grudgingly stopped afterwork 1:1 wine ("Business meetings) w/ male friends.

She secretly keeps in touch w/ past-work male friends. Yes, I've snooped (until she changed her passwords) as she had turned secretive & emotionally distant. In snooping I've found she expresses interest in seeing them when they're in town, etc. but nothing explicit & I've not caught more than "hints".

Her interest in me has improved slightly as I've stopped doing everything around the house & started saying "NO". I'm back to hobbies, sports & business. I have guy friends that I do things with but absolutely no female friends.

Should I seek out female friendship for activities (tennis/biking) the wife is too busy for (that she used to do)?

2007-08-01 02:35:01 · 16 answers · asked by rfrfrfrfrfrf 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-08-01 02:34:19 · 7 answers · asked by farhad n 1 in Marriage & Divorce

So whats this mean? A man will not commit to me if im giving him everything he wants without hope of a future together. How much is too much to give a man before thet seriously commit to you . . . .

2007-08-01 02:34:04 · 15 answers · asked by Sparkles 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i said no so he never spoke about it again so i told him that im ready for it
now we do it everyday but i am not comfortable doing it so often. and when i told him this he threatens me that he will leave me and spread the tale about our relationship pls help im stuck.

2007-08-01 02:30:43 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-08-01 02:29:34 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Some people have different preferences, there is nothing wrong with that as long as no ugly racism (isn't it all ugly? :)) is involved but how come? What is the reason? I am just curious as to what the reasons could be and was hoping it could be discussed.

2007-08-01 02:24:20 · 12 answers · asked by BlueYonder 1 in Singles & Dating

OK, here's my story. I want to start by saying that my parents are wonderful, they love me very much, & I love them. But for a long time I have felt that they don't really care about my goals/interests and I have felt very little support/encouragement from them. I've always gone 2 good schools & have been interested in the performing arts and science. When I was younger, I wanted to pursue acting/singing for many years, but my parents brushed aside my interests and only sprung for voice lessons after I'd begged them for several years. My parents excuses were that they're to expensive & they didn't know if I would put my lessons to use. My brother on the other hand, gets every lesson in every sport, sport camps costing thousands of dollars every summer, but he doesn't express the same committment to his goals/passions like I do. Even now that I'm in college, my parents show very little interest/support in what I choose to do. I really feel so alone. What should I do? Where should I go?

2007-08-01 02:21:25 · 10 answers · asked by Gabby C 1 in Family

alright so my boyfriend's brothers wedding is next friday and although im not in the wedding i know there is going to be alot of pictures im in cuz of my boyfriend being in the wedding, so i needed a cute way to wear my hair up cuz its an outdoor wedding and i know i'll just play with it the hole time if its down,

also i have blonde hair that comes a little below my shoulders with side bangs! if that helps any!!!

2007-08-01 02:21:18 · 10 answers · asked by baybeegirl43 3 in Weddings

Its her 16th, her favourite colour is purple. -Might help

2007-08-01 02:08:41 · 3 answers · asked by Beniom 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-08-01 02:08:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I've wondered whether traditionally the wedding rings are less expensive than the engagement ring. There's always the "two month salary rule" for engagment rings but what about wedding rings?

2007-08-01 02:04:44 · 23 answers · asked by Mike M 1 in Weddings

:-(

2007-08-01 01:50:07 · 3 answers · asked by Madness 3 in Singles & Dating

my best friend loves a gal who proposed to him first...
she is a bit fair and a bit taller than him.. but now after 3 years, she tells that she will and is not loving any one in her life.. but he and she had just a small understanding and they will talk... but now its totally changed... he can't talk to her with his loved face... he is coming to me and crying that she told she s not lovin him... as a best friend what should i do????

2007-08-01 01:48:08 · 6 answers · asked by julie v 1 in Singles & Dating

We're going to a wedding this weekend - it's a very good friend of mine from school days. They sent us an e-mail detailing their wedding list info.
Are we the only people in the world who don't like wedding lists?!
I appreciate that times have changed; people live together before marriage (we did) and so already have the traditional wedding gifts of household items, but I don't like being told what to get!
To me, it takes away my right to give a personal present to the couple which they will always remember is from me/us.
Therefore, I haven't even looked at the list...I have gone and bought a little gift which is unique.
We didn't have a wedding list, and we got loads of great stuff 'cos people had to think. We got loads of lovely candles, and somebody got us a wicker basket filled with bottles of wine! The vino is long gone but we use the basket all the time. One person's present was to take us to the airport and bring us back - Wedding lists NO!!

2007-08-01 01:46:54 · 34 answers · asked by Zoe S 3 in Weddings

My friend likes my ex.. she is 3 years younger than him... shes in year 8. hes in 11. i have a new boyfriend... and i luv him heaps! but every time my friend mentions the guy to me i feel like ripping her to bits lol.... yeh.... any ideas on why im feeling like this???

2007-08-01 01:43:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-08-01 01:43:42 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

How much time would you allow him to study?
He works from Mon-Friday, then attends Masters at night...
and on Saturday... he would still study esp if there is an exam..
would girls feel ignored or abandoned?

2007-08-01 01:43:23 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My god i seriously have met the most incredable girl.She really is the girl made of dreams. Great personality,very down to earth and very good looking. So anyways we connect so well i mean we literally know what the other one is about to say. This weekend we are going to the movies together.,I like her and im pretty sure she likes me,she has been saying that im the nicest boy she has ever met. So how should i make my move?

2007-08-01 01:43:03 · 2 answers · asked by The Perfect One! 5 in Singles & Dating

divorce....
Friend's husband who is overseas was into sexual nude webcam chatting with females, wanting to meet for fun.

Is this reason enough to divorce him? or would you work it out thinking he is lonely overseas?

2007-08-01 01:39:26 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

We have been dating for five month and have gotten close at a slow pace a frist. Things have really picked up fast in the last two months. I am a free sprit and have no problem saying " bye I love you have a great day". she does not seem to want to say these words or has been hurt I am not shure?

2007-08-01 01:37:31 · 8 answers · asked by GUMBY 2 in Singles & Dating

Before we got married my husband knew I wanted to finish school and to work. I later became pregnant and now he says he wants me to stay at home. He told me he had never had any intention of my working or going to school but did not want me to leave him. I love my husband and I love my child more than anything but I need to be able to go places and work outside of the house to be happy. How can I explain to him that just because I want to work and have a social life doesn't mean I'm abandoning him or our child?

2007-08-01 01:33:43 · 19 answers · asked by CJ 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-08-01 01:29:10 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Who hits her in the face and beats her, Who is violent when he drinks, Who does not have a job or wants to work, Who was in jail for drug dealing and is on parole, Who does not spend a dime for diapers to food for his kids, Who does not have a high school education or GED.Who cheats on her .

2007-08-01 01:27:53 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

and where is the line drawn between casual sex and straight up being a slu*.

2007-08-01 01:27:10 · 19 answers · asked by Sparkles 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-08-01 01:25:12 · 9 answers · asked by Amy 3 in Marriage & Divorce

the slang word for Indians from India. I have heard some say brownie. Are they referring to Indians from India?

2007-08-01 01:24:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I've known my best friend since I was 6 years old. (He's gay, just ftr, although we're always told we act like an old married couple). Over the years, it's gotten to the point that we're in a co-dependent relationship, and he's pretty abusive and rages a lot. Normally I just have to deal with it, but occasionally he has threatened me and really scared me. I keep trying to leave, but somehow I always find my way back to him. I even have his initials tattooed on my wrist, he's so much a part of me. I don't really know where he stops and I start anymore; but I do know I don't want to live like this.

How can I get away from him, and the relationship, without getting physically or emotionally torn apart by him, and without weakening and going back? He's always sorry for being such a jerk, and deep down he does love and see me in his future (as a friend, as stated he's gay) but I can't just put up with being a door mat any more.

Help?!

2007-08-01 01:14:26 · 19 answers · asked by Callisto 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-08-01 01:13:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating