OK, here's my story. I want to start by saying that my parents are wonderful, they love me very much, & I love them. But for a long time I have felt that they don't really care about my goals/interests and I have felt very little support/encouragement from them. I've always gone 2 good schools & have been interested in the performing arts and science. When I was younger, I wanted to pursue acting/singing for many years, but my parents brushed aside my interests and only sprung for voice lessons after I'd begged them for several years. My parents excuses were that they're to expensive & they didn't know if I would put my lessons to use. My brother on the other hand, gets every lesson in every sport, sport camps costing thousands of dollars every summer, but he doesn't express the same committment to his goals/passions like I do. Even now that I'm in college, my parents show very little interest/support in what I choose to do. I really feel so alone. What should I do? Where should I go?
2007-08-01 02:21:25 · 10 answers · asked by Gabby C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can't change your parents. But you might try another way of looking at it.
What if your parents are more confident in your ability to get through life than in your brother's. What if they support his sports because that is the only thing he has ever shown any aptitude or enthusiasm for. What if they believe that your talents are so obvious they have to play up his to make him feel equal to you.
But regardless of the reason, the only recourse you have is to do your best and hope that they appreciate it. You have to make your own way and be happy inside yourself. What you think of yourself - not what your parents think of you - is the only thing that matters. Good luck.
2007-08-01 02:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, your parents may think and feel that your interests aren't going to provide a future (financially) for you...but one thing I also pick up is that your parents concentrate more on your brother's interests...which to me says one thing...they trust that you are making the right choices and they have confidence in you.
You've made it to college...so you have done pretty good so far! I would continue following your dreams - and I would bet that if you look a little deeper, you'll see that what you really have is an abundance of trust from your parents...
2007-08-01 02:41:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like my situation! You should reach a point where you believing in you is all you need! You don't need other people's approval over your life to live happily and successfully. Dont even try approaching them about it cos they wont see it as you do. Just dont tell them your goals and dreams. Its like sowing on dead soil. Just believe in yourself and take the needed steps to make it a reality.
2007-08-01 02:31:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Every girl relates to your story...it seems that most parents support their sons more then they do their daughters no matter how much they love them. I'd say do your best....give it your all and prove them wrong. Good luck!
2007-08-01 02:31:40 · answer #4 · answered by amanda k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I hate to say it but you are a girl. That is no excuse but you need to know that your parent love you and somewhere in their sub conscience they think you are going to get married , stay home and not use your education. Don't worry too much, they will come around. Do what you like and they will see you for what you are.
2007-08-01 02:46:54 · answer #5 · answered by begotbywhom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to talk to your parents and ask them why they do not feel the need to support you as much as they do your brother ? Tell them that you feel like they are choosing your brother over you . good luck .
2007-08-01 02:26:48 · answer #6 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i know what is like not to have your parents support my family only support me in what i do if its their idea but you have one up on me your parents love but i think what you should is sit down with them talk to them show them hoe important this is to you and you don't have to go in to extreme detail in the beginning but one thing you must do is keep you cool stay calm if if they start to get a little mad but don't mock them if they do so it will most likely turn in to an argument 75% of the time it dose i lernt that ffrom experance but the overall message just calmly sit down with the4m and tell them way you want to do wht you like their is no sence living unhappy giv it a try...........GOOD LUCK!
2007-08-01 02:37:06 · answer #7 · answered by zero 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
supply your mothers and fathers time so as that they might settle to your relationship and understand which you do love her and your are going to stick together with her. i might additionally save her faraway from the family contributors for now because of the fact she ought to experience quite badly approximately what your dad or mothers and fathers reported to her, in time she might recover from it and you will try to convey her over on your mothers and fathers particularly at a time and spot the place it is going. do not decrease your mothers and fathers off, merely supply them a while. good success
2016-10-01 04:24:27 · answer #8 · answered by gonzalescordova 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey i think you should stop feeling bad for yourself... theres way worse parents then yours... ones that dont give a crap at all about there kids
2007-08-01 10:57:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kill them!
2007-08-01 02:26:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋