divorce....
Friend's husband who is overseas was into sexual nude webcam chatting with females, wanting to meet for fun.
Is this reason enough to divorce him? or would you work it out thinking he is lonely overseas?
2007-08-01 01:39:26 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He may or may not have actually slept with anyone but was saying in chats he is sleeping around.
2007-08-01 01:45:10 · update #1
Ummmmm....lets see.....HELL YEAH IT IS! He is chatting with females and wanting to meet for fun. How would the idiot feel if his wife was back home chatting it up and wanting to meet with men for fun??
2007-08-01 01:47:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that is a HUGE breech in trust; #1) He's talking to other women, #2) He's talking to them naked. and #3) He's asking to meet them.
If he's lonely how about calling his WIFE? Being overseas does not give anyone a licence to cheat and be disloyal.
Now, I would say it's grounds for marriage counseling first; then if the behavior doesn't change divorce the louse. I always believe in trying to work at something first before calling it quits.
2007-08-01 02:03:34 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really up to her. If she can accept this behavior, then she can make it work. However, it's not a good sign really. Today he's using the web cam, tomorrow he's meeting them in real life. After that it's a pretty short step to something that is cheating, no matter how you define it.
At this point the marriage is probably salvagable, but your friend needs to dictate terms. If it is not acceptable to her, the webcam thing needs to stop. And she needs to make it clear to her husband that she thinks it tantamount cheating and she will leave him if it continues.
However, if she's really hurt and convinced this is already cheating and it can't be fixed, she needs to leave fast. If she stays, he'll act sorry and do everything he can to keep her around. Then next time he's lonely he'll take it one step further and she'll be hurt even more.
2007-08-01 01:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, the bible gives two legit reasons for diveorce, one adultry, the other marrying over false pretences. Now it also says if the person is convicted and wishes to stop their act, we should accept them. Is this something he is willing to give up, if not then divorce would be necessary. And is your friend willing to forgive and trust again.
What he did was very wrong, I dont care how lonly you get that is no excuse. Didnt he think that maybe his wife is lonly too. Sure she has friends but so does he. Being lonly is just an excuse.
Even if he has not had sex that is concidered cheating.
I would say that is grounds for divorce.
2007-08-01 01:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by Tina S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't care if hes overseas or not lonely or not once you get involved with that stuff you don't just quit it. It becomes an obsession and he will want to do it when he gets back(most likely) and if he thinks its ok to do it now he will think its ok later. Its not grounds for divorce unless he meets with one of these woman and does something with her, him, or a goat anyway seriously they need to work this out on their own nothing you can do your friend either needs to stand up to him if it bothers her or deal with it. Either way its her decision and her problem.
2007-08-01 01:52:17 · answer #5 · answered by youcandoit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely a problem in the marriage. Whether or not she should divorce him over it is really her decision - some marriages can withstand cheating, others can't.
He may be lonely overseas, but that's no excuse to behave like a dog. If he really loved and respected his wife, he wouldn't behave this way - especially if he knows she would be upset by it.
2007-08-01 01:50:12 · answer #6 · answered by Christie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How bout' if his wife gets on a chat room wanting to meet other men for fun becase SHES lonely at home? Would THAT be reason enough for divorce?
2007-08-01 01:46:58 · answer #7 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a legitimate reason to divorce. Being lonely is no excuse to cheat - the question is can your friend forgive him and is there a chance that the trust can be restored??
2007-08-01 01:44:51 · answer #8 · answered by Zabes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'd find out what it's like to be real lonely and have no wife or house to come home to and I don't give a damn if he's overseas or right next door.
2007-08-01 01:45:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he should have been web camming with his wife.....as far as divorce there are several things to consider 1. did he actually physically cheat? 2. did she ever suspect that he had this kind of behavior/personality? 3. Is he remorseful? 4. Is he back? lot's of questions......if she loves him and wants to work it out then i strongly suggest marriage counseling! Nobody can work problems this big out on their own. Good Luck to your friend.
2007-08-01 02:00:09 · answer #10 · answered by Nina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋