Family & Relationships - 6 July 2007

2007-07-06 06:45:08 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok, one day shen was acting wierd and then, she left me without even saying that she did not want to be with me anymore. Ok, she has a myspace and I told my two friends to add her as a friend. She accepted both of them.

She knows who they are, she knows that they are my friends. If she does not want to know anything about me anymore, wouldnt she have not accepted my friends?

Ok, today, Im going to one of my friends house so we can write her an email saying if she wants to be my friend. I just need to know that so i can be in peace because she just left without saying anything.

What do you think? She will say yes? No? What?

2007-07-06 06:44:26 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

And we have been married four years in the start of the marriage when things got bad he would leave run home to his parents and then come back.
I am worried he will run agin now but not as worried as i used to be. Things are about to get very tight because we have a large house payment. And five children to support. he has a job but not as good as the old one. two children are his from another marriage.
But for some reason I dont feel as worried as i usually do. i of course dont want him to leave but we recently lost a baby together and i just dont think he was that hurt.
Could it be i trust him more or im secertly upset with his actions over the baby. He made the comment the other day he will have to work two jobs if i want another child. i have been searching for a job to help him.
with that comment i am starting feel like i dont need to worry if he leaves. does it sound like i trust him or angry with him for his baby comment?

2007-07-06 06:40:54 · 5 answers · asked by jerry w 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-07-06 06:38:01 · 14 answers · asked by Fruitful1 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Hey all, I am getting married in three months. I am looking for any good sound advice you might have for me. Please, spare me the "I got advice... don't get married!" answers. I don't care to hear them. I love her, period, the end.

Any sound advice?

2007-07-06 06:37:22 · 12 answers · asked by just nate 4 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-07-06 06:37:07 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

mr weaver lived in new jersey also he was in the army and now the last my grandaughter heard he was living with his mother

2007-07-06 06:36:27 · 2 answers · asked by harriet b 1 in Marriage & Divorce

why do my partner say he love me but when i call he dont answer the phone half of the time? he i'm his wife that we will be getting married but he acts the way he do!

2007-07-06 06:35:43 · 4 answers · asked by Mizz Ladie 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm 35 & I've been dating a guy for 7 months. I love him and have been head over heels since just after we met. He doesn't love me and I know this. We're both happy in the relationship, but to each of us it means something different. To me, he's a boyfriend...to him, I'm a friend. He says he wishes he did love me and he genuinely cares about my feelings. He's compassionate and giving, and a great listener. Our relationship is almost perfect except for the fact that we don't both feel the same way. It's hard for me because I want him to love me back, and our relationship is growing. This is the longest relationship I've had, and he's had trouble letting go of his ex-gf of 3 years. They haven't dated in 3-4 years, but he still considers her his best friend. She has been an issue for me, partly because I feel like his feelings for her are the main reason he can't let himself love me. Should we tough this out and see where it goes...will he grow to love me? Or are we on a dead-end road.

2007-07-06 06:34:15 · 4 answers · asked by Marie 1 in Singles & Dating

Falling in Love

Of all the misconception about Love the most potent one is about "Falling in Love".
When you you say I am falling in Love, we certainly mean- "I love him" or "I love her". But two problems are immediately visible. The first is that the experience of falling in Love is specifically a sex-linked erotic experience. We do not fall in Love in with our children even though we may Love them very deeply. We do not fall in Love with friends of same sex , until we are homosexually oriented- even though we may care for them greatly. we fall in Love only we are consciously or unconsciously sexually motivated.
The second problem is that this experience of falling in Love is invariably temporary. No matter whom we fall in Love with, we sooner or later fall out of Love if the relationship continues long enough. This , however, does not mean we cease to Love that person.
If falling in Love is not Love, then what is it other than temporary and partial collapse of ego boundaries? I do not know. But the sexual specificity of the phenomenon leads me to suspect that it is a genetically determined instinctual component of mating behavior. In other words, the temporary collapse of our ego boundaries that constitutes falling in Love is a stereotypic response of human beings to a configuration of internal sexual drives and external sexual stimuli.

The most common misconception about Love is dependency is love. This is a misconception with which psychotherapists must deal on a daily basis. Its effect is seen most dramatically in an individual who makes an attempt or gesture or threat to commit suicide or who becomes incapacitatingly depressed in response to a rejection or separation from a spouse or a lover. Such a person says" I do not want to live, can not live without my husband [wife,girl,friend, etc], i love him/her so much" And when the psychotherapist responds" You are mistaken, you do not love your husband"
The patient will respond back angrily " What do you mean?", "I just told you I can't live without him/her"
Explanation is- What they define as Love is not Love but Parasitism. When you require another individual for your survival, you are a parasite on that individual. There is no choice, no freedom involved in your relationship. It is a matter of necessity rather than Love. Two people Love each other only when they are quite capable of Living without each other but choose to Love each other. I define dependency as the inability to experience wholeness or to function adequately without the certainty that one is being actively cared for by another. Dependency in healthy adults is pathological, always a manifestation of a mental illness or defect. We all- each and every one of us- even if we try to pretend to others and to ourselves that we don't have dependency needs and feelings. All of us have desires to be babied, to be nurtured without effort on our parts. every one , irrespective of his age and how much mature he/she is, looks for a mother and a father figure. But for most of us these desires or feelings do not rule our lives; they are not the predominant theme of our existence, then we have something more than dependency needs or feelings; we are dependent.

People with this disorder are so busy seeking to be Loved that they have no energy left to Love. They are like starving people, scourging wherever they can for food, and with no food of their own to give to others. They tolerate loneliness very poorly.

"If being loved is your goal, you will fail to achieve it. The only way to be assured of being Loved is to be a person worthy of Love, and you can not be a person worthy of Love when your primary goal in Life is to passively be Loved."

Thence, as of love's stupefying nature per se of which psycho-social and other correlatively expanded and extendedly growing immaturities while being widely considered as a "must" for keeping this absurd life going, this four letter word, based upon Cartesian ideology, which implies a lie woven world, is innately a "Big Lie!"

2007-07-06 06:34:09 · 2 answers · asked by Kim 1 in Marriage & Divorce

If someone hurt you and lied to you and you haven't spoken in a few days... you assume it's over and then you choose to do one of the above options? Which one is best at this point?

I am a walk away quietly kind of person. But if I say my piece, I make sure I do it with dignity and don't yell or scream. Sometimes it's good to stand up for yourself though and let a complete jerk know how they feel and know that what they did was wrong and that you didn't deserve that... but what do you think?

2007-07-06 06:32:30 · 11 answers · asked by Challah back Girl... 5 in Singles & Dating

Hello,
I was hoping that someone could help me think of a Mother Daughter song that i could play at my wedding next month...I am looking for something meaningful....My parents are divorced and my mom has played both roles and I would love to dedicate a song to her on my special day.

2007-07-06 06:29:26 · 11 answers · asked by Linda 1 in Weddings

2007-07-06 06:28:55 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Further to my previous post;

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ai1sraxTN41mvrFV5GMMSLnsy6IX?qid=20070624101605AAobVLz

I refused to sign the pre-nup, or any paperwork for him regarding our home.

Meanwhile, back on the farm in Virginia, the latest little escapade from my wonderful husband is that he used a line of credit he got by falsely representing himself as "single" and used that money along with money owed to him by a client for work (paid directly to the title company ... and avoiding income taxes) and mortgaged our home to the max to buy more property which he put solely in his name.

This man truly is a slimebag, he broke his word to put my name on the house after we married (the house has since accrued significant equity) and now this. It just keeps gettin better.

Other than my first thought (lawyer) anyone have any creative ideas on this one?

2007-07-06 06:28:33 · 5 answers · asked by Chikadee 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend is tottaly making me crazy! He is so neat and tidy, and if we're at say his house, after i use the bathroom he goes and cleans it! And seriously, i am not, a dirty person i am really quite clean, but he's crazy! I am totally confused, please help me!

2007-07-06 06:25:02 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Anyone idea where can I rent a Ferrari for wedding to be held in Singapore? How much is the rental?

2007-07-06 06:22:32 · 1 answers · asked by Momo 3 in Weddings

This past few weeks was very hard on us, he wants some space so i give his space and now that i am away from him for 2 days already. I am in California right now and he in Louisiana then last night He finally confessed(over the phone) about a girl that he likes to talk with ( the girl is going through a divorce).
And i asked him if he wants to be with the girl, then he did not say YES nor NO but he said HE doesn't want to give up on our marriage. I am hurt cuz i have not done anything to him. I am a good wife to him and I love him with all my life. --sigh--

2007-07-06 06:21:13 · 10 answers · asked by mommy25 1 in Marriage & Divorce

For example: Social Event...Men out weight the women. All the men and the woman are of the same kind of society and all appear in features of apperance are an 8 on a scale of 1 to 10. Why would any of these men not approach her and talk to her atleast or worse not make a connection with any of the men in the room? (No wedding Rings On So please don't use that as an excuse). Play along nicely please I am very interested in seeing everyone's Serious Answers!

2007-07-06 06:20:50 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

no pic. but my friends love the short hair pictures i have- really short chin or shorter, but my hubby wanted me to grow ti long for him so i did and now its to my waist. he loves it and is obsessed if i cut it. my friend's think i'm too concerned about his feleigns on this- i don't mind but i get bored but i know he loves it so much should i cut it or keep it for him? he also cares about what i think on his looks

2007-07-06 06:20:01 · 4 answers · asked by girl 3 in Marriage & Divorce

have you ever got caught in horrendous rain got soaked through and ended up dancing or kissing in the rain, yum sounds so romantic i wana do that.xxxxxxxxxxx big sexy kisses to you all your stunners.xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx mwahxxxxxxx

2007-07-06 06:18:42 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-07-06 06:17:45 · 22 answers · asked by So adorable 5 in Singles & Dating

My girlfriend has been going out lately and has been dancing with guys...now I know some people wouldn't take offense to this but I feel it to be disrespectful..my orignal question can be seen here ... http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AgAcUulqTPz1W3FUeE4NSwTsy6IX?qid=20070706051501AAD5Iy6 .....but after talking to her she told me that she understands what Im saying but feels as though I'm trying to change her and thats who she is. She said she is a party girl, which I understand and have no problem when she goes out but why is she compelled to dance with the opposite sex I just dont get it. No guy wants to get the mental image of his girl dancing with other guys... I respect her and care about her very much is there anything else I can do, this seems like a small quarrell but I feel strongly about it. Advice/help anyone!?!

2007-07-06 06:16:19 · 4 answers · asked by sickofthissite 2 in Singles & Dating

We're about to get into counceling, she had an emotional affair on me.

2007-07-06 06:16:17 · 7 answers · asked by Kenny F 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Wife cheats ok sh*t happens, husband forgives her. She says a lot of mean things to him, he takes it with a gran of salt. Rolls right over his head. Tries to be there for, he stills care about her. She's the mother of his kids, but just keeps pushing him away doesn't even want to be friends. Why is she like this?

2007-07-06 06:14:13 · 18 answers · asked by WhyNotMe 6 in Marriage & Divorce

we have been divorced for a year now, i have made several positive changes in my life since, changes that she wanted me to do and i did them for me....not for her to grow and mature. recently i have found a lady now that i enjoy spending time with, not sure if my ex knows about her or not, but out of the blue my ex. has called and texted me about getting together for a movie and cooking dinner for me. i have declined, but now she is asking to come over to my house. what could this mean? and why now?

2007-07-06 06:14:06 · 14 answers · asked by rob j 1 in Marriage & Divorce

girls in their 20's should they change their natural color or go natural- does it matter. i know all women love to change-but what do the guys really think?

2007-07-06 06:13:53 · 5 answers · asked by girl 3 in Singles & Dating

What is it that my wives' friends are attracted to by being around us just to get to me? What should I do to bring it up
withou making problems?

2007-07-06 06:06:33 · 7 answers · asked by LS W 2 in Marriage & Divorce

what are the rituals ? any info it sounds interesting

2007-07-06 06:04:04 · 4 answers · asked by chris 4 in Weddings

2007-07-06 06:02:28 · 1 answers · asked by partygirl1013 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-07-06 06:02:10 · 5 answers · asked by AT 1 in Weddings