Wife cheats ok sh*t happens, husband forgives her. She says a lot of mean things to him, he takes it with a gran of salt. Rolls right over his head. Tries to be there for, he stills care about her. She's the mother of his kids, but just keeps pushing him away doesn't even want to be friends. Why is she like this?
2007-07-06 06:14:13 · 18 answers · asked by WhyNotMe 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She's not in love. Only staying for the kids. Sorry, I know that hurts. But I am a woman and I know how our minds work.
2007-07-06 06:16:56 · answer #1 · answered by Cheryl W 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she is unhappy, doesnt want to be married to you anymore, but probably still likes you and doesnt want to hurt you. I KNOW she already did, but you seem to want her to stay and she just can't break the tie yet. If she is willing to go to counseling and honestly work on it, great make the appointment and go. If she's not, you might as well take the hint now. She just isn't strong.
No matter how many people want to call her a whore and so forth, it's probably because she does still have some sort of feelings for you and is having a hard time breaking it off. Not that she is right, just how it is. She may have even thought you would end it if you found out about the affair....
She is not a strong person, you need to be for yourself..either way
2007-07-06 15:16:14 · answer #2 · answered by Bite me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you are getting so many sarcastic answers to your question. People are just jerks sometimes!
I'm assuming this is your personal situation, and I'm sorry your wife cheated on you. My husband cheated once too, and I know how much it hurts. Basically, a marriage doesn't end because someone cheats...someone cheats because the marriage isn't working. It sounds like your wife is angry about something...maybe not about something specific that you've done, but just has anger over the situation in general.
Have you tried counseling? Don't give up on her yet. If she won't go to counseling with you, you should still go alone to a family and marriage counselor to get professional help. That's what I did and it helped me tremendously in dealing with the situation. Maybe eventually she'll join you. My husband did, and we have been able to repair our relationship...and it is better than it was in the beginning!
Marriage counseling has such a negative stigma, but it really can help if you are committed to making your relationship work.
Good luck! :)
2007-07-06 13:24:32 · answer #3 · answered by answergirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating in the first place implies dissatisfaction with some aspect of the marriage. She is probably wanting to get away from the marriage but doesn't know how. Sympathetic loving husband treats her very gently and invites her to sit down and talk about it.
2007-07-06 13:18:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she doesn't love him anymore but she is too selfish and immature to be up front about it. she might have had the affair hoping he wouldn't forgive. sometimes people say they're sorry when they really don't mean it. so, now that he's forgiven her, she's back where she started. married to a man she doesn't love. what he needs to do, is ask himself why he needs to be married to someone who doesn't value him as he values her? the best thing you can do for your children is to be good to yourself. what would he hope his son would do if he came home crushed because his wife doesn't value him? we hope he finds the strength and the self worth to figure out if forgiveness is really the right thing
2007-07-06 16:20:59 · answer #5 · answered by twosey ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's guilt and she feels vulnerable, like the cards are in your hands now...she cheated and you get to choose whether or not to forgive her. So being vulnerable, she's trying to reject you now, before you can reject her. But it all stems from the fact that she knows she did something wrong, and she also knows that she wouldn't forgive her, so she's not going to believe that anyone else would. I know, crazy right? But what can I say...sometimes women are crazy.
2007-07-06 13:20:06 · answer #6 · answered by garciajennifer@att.net 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's caught up in the man she cheated with... she is having second thoughts or going through a crisis in her life. support her and be very nice and caring... then see what happpens.
2007-07-06 13:20:07 · answer #7 · answered by Jordana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like me when I cheated, for me it was guilt. i hated myself more then my wife did and it didn't seem right for her to still try after i did such a stupid thing if you still love her stick by her side only if she wants you too if not let her go she has already show you her true side already
2007-07-06 13:23:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is angry with you or she has fallen out of love with you.
Get to the bottom of it and ask her already. See a counselor or your marriage is doomed.
Good luck
2007-07-06 13:17:57 · answer #9 · answered by Daniel R. 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The guilt is eating her alive and she needs someone to place the blame on besides herself.
2007-07-06 13:42:32 · answer #10 · answered by Mel 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋