This past few weeks was very hard on us, he wants some space so i give his space and now that i am away from him for 2 days already. I am in California right now and he in Louisiana then last night He finally confessed(over the phone) about a girl that he likes to talk with ( the girl is going through a divorce).
And i asked him if he wants to be with the girl, then he did not say YES nor NO but he said HE doesn't want to give up on our marriage. I am hurt cuz i have not done anything to him. I am a good wife to him and I love him with all my life. --sigh--
2007-07-06 06:21:13 · 10 answers · asked by mommy25 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow! thats a strong conversation you had with him but i mean he's ben talking to another woman you did not know about and thats the reason he wanted the break so he can talk to her and since you not there its easier for him too see her. i know its hard goin gthrough this but you need to leave him alone if hes not cheated on you yet he will eventually and its better if he does after you leave him not before
2007-07-06 06:25:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At least he had the courage to come out and tell you before he actually did anything. This might be his way of saving your marriage. Try not to look at the dark side of it but at the brighter side. He is willing to make it work. Something is obviously missing between the two of you and that is something the both of you need to figure out and resolve. As long as the two of you can talk it through and come up with solutions rather than discuss what he has been doing, you might be able to get to where you both want to be...with each other. Good Luck!!!
2007-07-06 06:45:35 · answer #2 · answered by !~!~Edward~!~! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has been cheating on you. The whole "wanting my space" thing is often a sign that the cheater wants to spend more time with the other and/or he is starting to feel guilty about the affair. Sounds like he wants to string you along until he decides who to pick,. I went through this same thing, but decided I wasn't willing to share or to wait for him to decide who he wanted more. I filed for divorce within a month of finding out. I am now very happily remarried. Life goes on.
2007-07-06 06:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to give up your marriage? PLEASE! He already gave up your marriage!
All he is doing is playing you for a fool, because your letting him and he's asking for your permission to cheat on you. You obviously said YES!
I cannot imagine how you feel and I hate to write it, but he doesn't love you. He could never do that to you if he did. I'm sure you were both married to young and if you were married for any other reason but love, the marriage will eventually end.
If this man is cheating on you, there is only one thing to do. You have to file for divorce. Once a cheater, always a cheater is so true. I wish you all the luck.
2007-07-06 07:13:35 · answer #4 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
California and Louisana....now THATS some space!
I think the answer is quite clear. He gave you neither a 'yes' or a 'no'.
So.....it's time for you to make the decision...not him. He's clearly made up his mind. He doesn't want to give up on your marriage....yet. We'll see when this broad gets her divorce what happens. Lets see if he weighs child support, alimony, etc versus getting laid from her. Which...in case you don't know...has already happened if he can't give you a straight and honest answer.
Do yourself a favor....dump this clown. He's going to screw you over in the longrun, you mark me on this.
2007-07-06 06:32:03 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He took an interest in a woman (who might be interested in him) but there is nothing concrete yet. So he is afraid it won't work out so he needs time to fish for a while. He is itching for it but can't afford the loss if the woman says no to him.
Read about other columns and you will find many women suddenly wanting something different (their "happiness" at stake) all of a sudden in their life. So what's new?
2007-07-06 07:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's talking to her and won't quit, that will eventually lead to something more if it hasn't already. You do not want to live like that. Trust me. Always wondering if he's with her or talked to her. I personally, would hit the road running! He already has eyes and ears for another woman. Make him suffer, leave him and let him figure out what he's missing out on.
2007-07-06 06:53:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is feeling guilty and also trying to keep his options open, since he doesn't really know this other girl and he isn't sure where that relationship will take him, thus he doesn't want to make a mistake.
2007-07-06 06:36:05 · answer #8 · answered by April First 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow it sounds like he's a cheater. if he doesnt say yes or no he likes her but he doesnt want to hurt you. dont take his pitty. move on because it just isnt worth the pain. that jerk doesnt deserve you.
2007-07-06 06:29:49 · answer #9 · answered by Cassieee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you i would get a divorce he isn't worth it, he wants to be with her but doesn't want to hurt your feelings
2007-07-06 06:28:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋