Family & Relationships - 23 May 2007

This is a very twisted situation so some unbiased feedback would be appreciated.I have know this man for over 7 years, he is my ex-husbands best friend and my ex-best friends husband. He married this woman solely because he wanted to adopt her daughter because he loves her. He has cheated on her from the beginning. He and I started being intimate 2 years ago and stopped 8 months ago. Somewhere in there his wife found out that he was cheating on her (not with me) and they started to try to repair their marriage through counseling. He told me a day or so ago that he fantasizes about us being together... that he cant stop it.That he wishes things were different because he knows it would work. I wont ask him to leave his wife... but i want him. we have the same views, think the same way, neither of us believes in monogamy. We are closer than i have ever felt towards anyone.It's hard for me to express emotion. I have been unable to sleep or eat . Do I tell him that i am in love with him?

2007-05-23 07:11:16 · 10 answers · asked by Savannah smiles 1 in Singles & Dating

I always purposely drop books on the ground, when i see suitable girls on campus, waiting the girl to pick them up for me, then conversation start.
i use this trick to meet many pretty girls of my college, who i did not know before.
Do you think i am a coward who has not guts to go straight to girls i like， or a very tricky person?
what would girls feel if they knew i use this kind of trick to appoach them?

2007-05-23 07:10:46 · 10 answers · asked by Frank V 1 in Singles & Dating

So I know the rules to get over a guy. Go out w/ friends, get a new hobby, concentrate on work, meet new people, try not to think about him. I've done it all. But I realized that it doesn't work. I feel like I'm forcing myself to deny my feelings and ignore my true emotions. Yes, I do know that it is better to be w/ people when you're feeling low but I feel like I have to go thru that bit of anger and confusion or whatever emotions. When I go out, I try to not think of him & I don't even talk about him bc I am trying to enjoy my time w/ my friends but this is on my mind. This is what I would have normally been doing, or he would have so much fun if he was out with me, or I compare every guy to him when I meet a new person. I feel like by doing the above rules you deny your feelings and it just prolongs the pain instead of confronting it head on & getting over it faster. Am I the only one that feels that way? Do the above rules work and it's just me?

2007-05-23 07:07:46 · 3 answers · asked by basmusiq 5 in Singles & Dating

My wife started a new bartending job about 5 months ago. The place draws in a younger crowd and she is there until close on the weekends (2:00 a.m. , not home until 3:30 or 4:00). In the past couple of months she has been wanting to spend more time with her co-workers, etc. who are ~20-25 years old. My wife is 39 years old. She even has a myspace and talks to them on there. Recently she has put a regular customer (male, ~25 years old) as a friend on her myspace. I also found some pictures of him ( from his myspace) she had in her bag that she takes to work. I asked her about them and she said she had them to show a friend from her previous work. She thought they new someone in common. I thought this was strange as she had ~7 pictures of this guy. She denies having an affair and I am trying believe her, but a lot of trust has been lost. She seems to like the younger atmosphere to much and not the family life at home,3 kids. she says she doesn't like to be around me lately too

2007-05-23 07:07:30 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

my fiance's x is telling me stuff about him when they were together such as he abused her and everything, but my boyfriend has said she was the abuser. I feel like I should know my fiance by now after being with him for 2 years and he has never done this to me...

2007-05-23 07:06:09 · 45 answers · asked by happybunnyjg 2 in Marriage & Divorce

he says he is nothing more but i don't believe him. What should i do?

2007-05-23 07:05:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-05-23 07:03:33 · 15 answers · asked by kloey 2 in Singles & Dating

HELP!!


-Kati

2007-05-23 07:03:33 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

People make fake profiles?

2007-05-23 07:02:24 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I realised that my ex-friend is a manipulator, taking stuffs from me, using my things and now owes me and do not want to pay me back

2007-05-23 07:01:47 · 37 answers · asked by avle21 2 in Friends

GOD..he make my life so hard..WHY?
what did I do to him? why does he make everything so difficult?
Why can't I do what is good?
Why can't I believe in god?
Why do know there is no such thing?

2007-05-23 07:01:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

what did you do? be honest now, we don't know who you are.

2007-05-23 07:01:24 · 6 answers · asked by CHARISMA 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

me and him broke up 4 months ago...i know for a fact im not even close to being over him. we still talk and text almost everynight....he even drunk texted me telling me he loves me still.
the reason we broke up, was because he wanted to explore his options. and that he is scared of commiting at such a young age... we are 18 years old and i know i want to be with him. he said the same thing when we were dating...but i know he got scared. but since we broke up 4 months ago, we've hooked up 6 times......why is he doing this too me?? does he really love me? i saw him the other day and we hung out,,,it wasnt akward at all, it felt like we still were together....i miss him all the time and i tell him this when i feel that way....is this somthing i should be still telling him?? i know deep down he still cares about me, he told me this recently, but he just doesnt want to be with me...what do i do????

2007-05-23 07:00:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

..And if you want, say what don't you like?



(If any girls wanna say what they like or don't like in boys then carry on! .. )

Thanks :)

x

2007-05-23 06:59:13 · 7 answers · asked by MUSE 2 in Singles & Dating

GIRLS AND GUYS: If you were a late bloomer when it came to relationships and you didn't get your first bf or gf until you were 18, 19, or 20 and beyond what did your first bf or gf say about you not having a relationship before? Did they care? Did they even ask and if they did what did you tell them? Do people really care about past relationships?

2007-05-23 06:59:07 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Hello!

If you had a spouse who often took clients to lunch and found out suddenly that they had been exchanging over 1000 text messages a week together in addtion to lunch would you be upset?

They swear they told you they were friendly with this client. (of the opposite sex) but all they said was "i went to lunch with lori/bob" when asked who "lori/bob" is the answer is "you know..my customer"

The spouse also purchased a gift on ebay without telling and had it sent to their office and paid out of a private account.

In addition...the spouse ONLY texts when they are alone...at night and during family hours. They have been coming home much later to stay in their car and text.

Also..they have been distant from home and easily agitated by the children.

Any opinions?

2007-05-23 06:58:56 · 56 answers · asked by foxinsox 6 in Marriage & Divorce

me 'n' my hubby work all week days 'n' always very busy. we just have time to spend together only in weekends 'n' that free time he spends on watching football, most of the time, i sometimes get bored as i want to talk to him 'n' share things....?
give me the most suitable answer plz what shall i do 'n' how can i make him to talk with me more than watching football.
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2007-05-23 06:58:17 · 36 answers · asked by Priti 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband who l love dearly got into some trouble and may be facing incarceration any suggestions on how to deal with it if, if the worse should happen? Has anyone went through this or does anyone have a spouse who is currentley incacerated and how are you dealing with it?

2007-05-23 06:56:44 · 8 answers · asked by its just me 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Is it ok for a married woman to have male friends or a married man to have female friends? What if they are all married? Does it matter? Is this socially taboo?

2007-05-23 06:56:41 · 30 answers · asked by snowangel_az 4 in Marriage & Divorce

How come Spring is the most popular time of the year to get married? What about the beautiful fall?

2007-05-23 06:55:45 · 39 answers · asked by kathy 2 in Weddings

Well it started when I realized I was failing 4 classes and my mom had just gotten me a phone. I decided to raise them and not show my mom my grades but I was really low in classes , so I pretty much had to do a lot of work. One day my mom found out and got mad and dissapointed. Now school is over and I managed to pass 2 of the classes I was failing and still failed two. My mom is stil giving me a hard time and everytime we fight she manages to tell me that it's because I don't appreciate her and that I aappreciate my friends more. That hurts me, but eventhough I've tried to talk to her, she won't understand me and I get mad at times because I know I did a bad thing, but I tried my best in fixing it, and I manages to fix some of it, but she still won't let me do anything, I think she's being harsh, isnt she??WHAT CAN I DO SO WE CAN UNDERSTAND EACHOTHER AND QUIT FIGHTING???

2007-05-23 06:54:48 · 12 answers · asked by Meli 1 in Family

just wondering....

2007-05-23 06:53:05 · 17 answers · asked by kittycat 3 in Singles & Dating

I am getting married in south africa next week and my fiance has just found out that i am going to need proof that i am not already married...howin the world is this possible? and within 2 days (i leave on friday).HELP!!!

2007-05-23 06:52:40 · 5 answers · asked by goosie 1 in Weddings

Should same-sex marriage be nationally recognized so that gay and lesbian couples can receive the same benefits as married heterosexual couples? Tell me your opinion in detail and I will choose your answer as the best.

2007-05-23 06:52:18 · 19 answers · asked by BigAndBeautiful 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I HAD A DREAM THAT 3 GUYS HAD HANDCUFFED MY BROTHE TO A CHAIN AND BEAT HIM WITH A SKATEBOARD SO I WENT AND I GRABED A SKATEBOARD AND BEAT THEM THAN WE KEPT WALKING AND RAN IN TO THEM AGAIN SO WE RAN AWAY FROM THEM I GRABED A STOPSING POLL AND WENT TO THE BACKYARD AND THAN ONE OF THE GUYS WANTED TO PLAY A GAME WITH US. I NEED TO KNOW WHAT THIS MEANS I LOVE MY BROTHER WITH ALL MY HEART AND I DONT GET TO SEE HIM VERRY OFTEN HE LIVES FAR AWAY WITH MY MOM PLEASE HELP ME I NEED TO KNOW I AM WORRIED :(

2007-05-23 06:52:07 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I am supposed to put a 115 pound boy on my shoulders since one of us has to be up there. I weigh 120, but should he carry me anyway since Im a girl? He claims he is not strong enough, and refuses to carry me, so I have to carry him. hes kinda girly. what should I do? I don't want to lose my job.

2007-05-23 06:51:39 · 6 answers · asked by petite man 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-05-23 06:50:57 · 10 answers · asked by corkey 1 in Singles & Dating

The movie at her house is plan B. But wondering if it's OK to bring flowers or not.

2007-05-23 06:49:57 · 29 answers · asked by 6295 1 in Singles & Dating

as a guy how can you date someone claim her child as yours propose 6 times brag to everyone that your happy and want to " extend your family" and then when she gets pregnant ( was on birth control) change your mind dump her and her babies. want nothing to do with your own child and leave her with nothing after she gave everything she had for you?? I'm just curious how many guys out there asked the fathers permission proposed and wouldnt give up unitll she opened up her heart to you and then suddenly leave and change your mind?? I'm not meaning this to sound mean its an honest question i have to ask myself everyday Thanks
Please no sarcastic answers This is hard enough Thank you!!

2007-05-23 06:49:19 · 9 answers · asked by cee_jae22 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Im married 'n' everything is fine, but there is one problem that i told my hubby that i was having affair 'n' i broke up with my b/f as he cheated on me, but he sometimes keep on asking me about him or things related to him..? as being honest i told him but sometimes i get frustrated, when ever my hubby ask me again 'n' again same thing, as i have told him many times to forget about everything but he wouldn't stop.
Plz help me to solve out my problem? what shall i do..?
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2007-05-23 06:48:54 · 24 answers · asked by Priti 1 in Marriage & Divorce