as a guy how can you date someone claim her child as yours propose 6 times brag to everyone that your happy and want to " extend your family" and then when she gets pregnant ( was on birth control) change your mind dump her and her babies. want nothing to do with your own child and leave her with nothing after she gave everything she had for you?? I'm just curious how many guys out there asked the fathers permission proposed and wouldnt give up unitll she opened up her heart to you and then suddenly leave and change your mind?? I'm not meaning this to sound mean its an honest question i have to ask myself everyday Thanks
Please no sarcastic answers This is hard enough Thank you!!
2007-05-23 06:49:19 · 9 answers · asked by cee_jae22 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thanks so far to answer some of your questions i know you need to show it and he did thats the thing he did all the right things taht made everyone around me tell me he's the best thing that ever happened to me and no there wasnt a long stretch of stress there the afternoon that he dumped me he told his sister that she couldnt steal our wedding song because she wanted to play the same song we first danced to and he wanted that one for our wedding. I know i need to get over it and move on but i dont open up easy and i fell in love with him and i'm pregnant with his son so please understand this is hard for me and my kids they dont deserve this and i feel so much guilt for them having to go through this
2007-05-23 07:06:23 · update #1
I don't think there is one guy in ten thousand that would do something like that, Cee Jae. I have never met someone who would do that. Please don't let that one guy ruin your life and your outlook on guys. Most of us are pretty honorable and decent. I am sorry that happened to you. The guy you describe is a terrible scoundrel who ought to be whipped.
2007-05-23 06:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
From your question it's difficult to know whether he suddenly left or were there signs of stress in the relationship? In either case, there are lots of guys who fall in love fast and then lose interest even faster. This type of a guy is not emotionally very stable and it's best not to associate with them too much.
Other factors that affect a guy's mind are the relatives and family. For example if he had a sister or a mother who was telling him: "you are too good for her...she is not good enough for you..." then he might resist at first but in the long run it has a negative effect on his mind and when the first of problems come up he immediately thinks: "maybe they are right...".
So, to summarize, for emotionally unstable and unmature guys, lots of outside factors affect their minds. The basically get swayed easily. I think you need a bit more mature guy to father your kids.
Good luck.
2007-05-23 14:00:25 · answer #2 · answered by Tourang B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, not much to say about that situation other then the "man" in question sounds like he may be mentally ill. People like that are unrelable in the long run anyway so perhaps it is best that is out of your life now so that you can move on.
Either way I feel sorry for the poor children involved, they didn't ask for a deadbeat dad!
Good luck.
2007-05-23 13:53:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I couldn't but guys can, sure. What most women do not understand is that a guy shows his love by what he does not by what he says. A guy can love you a lot and never say it. Or a guy can say it all the time and never mean it.
It's what a guy does for you, and it's not about sex here, in fact, quite the opposite, to show he cares .. he works for you, protects you, gives you what you need, etc.
2007-05-23 13:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, that guy did that to you. I think God had that happen for a reason and maybe he wasnt the guy for you. It might be a good thing he is gone. Better now then later in the middle of the marriage.
2007-05-23 14:14:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i m sorry for u .but i think just cuz ur man was such a jerk and couldnot standup to his responsibilities ,you shouldnot lose hope. i m sure as caring u are there is a real man 4 u .
2007-05-23 14:03:44 · answer #6 · answered by billa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't care in the first place. Guys LIE A LOT.
2007-05-23 13:58:04 · answer #7 · answered by honeyluv_2010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is a immature child and a disgrace to men everywhere.
2007-05-23 13:58:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's really hard to understand your question, but I have a hard on so............
2007-05-23 13:53:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋