Im married 'n' everything is fine, but there is one problem that i told my hubby that i was having affair 'n' i broke up with my b/f as he cheated on me, but he sometimes keep on asking me about him or things related to him..? as being honest i told him but sometimes i get frustrated, when ever my hubby ask me again 'n' again same thing, as i have told him many times to forget about everything but he wouldn't stop.
Plz help me to solve out my problem? what shall i do..?
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2007-05-23 06:48:54 · 24 answers · asked by Priti 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was having affair before marriage, anyhow i didn't wanted to continue with my b/f as he was the most person i have ever met in my life.
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2007-05-23 07:02:03 · update #1
As my b/f was the most worst person, i had ever met in my life.
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2007-05-23 07:03:01 · update #2
You should put the shoe on the other foot...how would you treat him if he were to cheat on you?? You are lucky he is even still with you!! He should leave you!!
2007-05-23 06:54:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i really appreciate yr honesty in telling yr hubby about yr past. u did the right thing in telling him.
have a heart to heaart talk with yr hubby.keep in mind the timings.talk to him when he is in a gud mood. or else bring him in a good mood.by now u must be knowing what pleases him. tell him staightforwardly that yf bf was yr past.that u dont have 0.1% feelings for him anymore.that if at all u had any feelings towards him, u would not have told yr hubby about him in the 1st place. tell him that the bf is a permanently closed chapter of yr life. and tell him that whenever he mentions the bf, it is upsetting for u, and it causes a lot of stress. be very patient.it is a tricky situation.let yr hubby say what he wants to say.hear him out patiently. and tell him that since it is in the best interest of yr married relationship, this topic should never creep up again.
all the best
god bless u
2007-05-24 04:08:24 · answer #2 · answered by archer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to keep convincing your husband and say that this was due to cheating by him but maintain amicable relations with your hubby see nothing abnormal happens at your hand,if possible involve parents on both side and settle matter.
2007-05-25 03:15:49 · answer #3 · answered by baba 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never had the affair then you shouldnt have told your hubby he will never forget about it and he will take every opportunity to throw it in your face so I am sorry for you.
2007-05-23 14:04:40 · answer #4 · answered by Joyann R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get marriage counseling. He will never forget, but counseling will help with his insecurities concerning the reason you cheated. You have to accept some responsibility for his being obsessed with this topic. YOU did cheat. I hope that you guys can work through this and move on.
2007-05-23 13:54:33 · answer #5 · answered by daphine_h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may never end as it sounds like hes insecure and now that youve damaged his trust in you, his insecurity has risen to new levels. So he needs to keep asking the same questions over and over to feed his insecurity about the incident. Not good but then you brought this upon yourself and this just happens to be part of the consequences of your actions. You just may have to learn to live with it or leave your husband.
2007-05-23 13:56:53 · answer #6 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is feeling insecure. give him more attention. so much that he'll get tired of you being under him. do things with him you have never done before. he needs to feel you can be trusted again. that takes time. you'll just have to deal with it. and by all means keep him satisfied because you just gave him an excuse to do the same thing, no matter how jealous he is acting now.
2007-05-23 13:58:33 · answer #7 · answered by Diamondbch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not an affair if it happens before marriage..he needs to get over it.
2007-05-23 16:16:10 · answer #8 · answered by Luv Peace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you took your cheating lightly. Your husband didn't. If you plan on staying married to this guy you'd better start some serious butt-kissing and prove to him, beyond a doubt, that you're ready to grow up and be faithful.
2007-05-23 13:56:00 · answer #9 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did your husband tell you of his ex-gf or his heartthrobe? - then why did you tell him?
what would your reacting be if it was the otherway round? he told you he had an ex, wouldn't you feel insecure?
oki fine if he is complainting you need to get his confidence in you through a little sacrifice, out of the way act, etc - its just a phase try your best you will get your husband off his insecurity!!
2007-05-23 15:42:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its very serious problem i suggest u to tell ur husband clearly that if i had something wrong with that guy then why shud i need to tell u. i m ur wife nd i love u. nw u r everythng to me. one thing more. if u have contact with that person then avoid it . try to keep him happy. never start any topic regarding ur past nd always talk about future for some mnths. it will happen that he will forget everythng
2007-05-23 14:43:03 · answer #11 · answered by ansh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋