So I know the rules to get over a guy. Go out w/ friends, get a new hobby, concentrate on work, meet new people, try not to think about him. I've done it all. But I realized that it doesn't work. I feel like I'm forcing myself to deny my feelings and ignore my true emotions. Yes, I do know that it is better to be w/ people when you're feeling low but I feel like I have to go thru that bit of anger and confusion or whatever emotions. When I go out, I try to not think of him & I don't even talk about him bc I am trying to enjoy my time w/ my friends but this is on my mind. This is what I would have normally been doing, or he would have so much fun if he was out with me, or I compare every guy to him when I meet a new person. I feel like by doing the above rules you deny your feelings and it just prolongs the pain instead of confronting it head on & getting over it faster. Am I the only one that feels that way? Do the above rules work and it's just me?
2007-05-23 07:07:46 · 3 answers · asked by basmusiq 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My learning...the only way to get over a past relations is through time. Don't you hate it when time is going againts you. lol.
2007-05-23 07:09:22 · update #1
It's not just you. It's a mourning period we all go through. You'll know when you've snapped out of it. It will take awhile, I won't lie. The rules sometimes worked for me, but I really needed to be left alone and not go out or do anything.
2007-05-23 07:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing works better than time... personal experience. Took a year to get completely over my ex - I left him due to the fact he was a cheater, abuser, ect... I did not love hm but it was the fact that I was alone with a child that killed me. I went out with friends here and there, drank up a little, school and even worked two jobs ( that I had to).. but anyways. You will have these times when all you can do is think of him, the good and the bad... all you can do is let it all out. Then one day you will have nothing left... that is the day you can move on.
Time is number 1 - but also do keep yourself busy.
2007-05-23 07:16:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very difficult to get over someone you cared a lot about. I think it takes time, sometimes a LOT of time. And usually I cannot truly get over someone until I meet someone new that sparks my interest.
2007-05-23 07:11:17 · answer #3 · answered by elaine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋