Family & Relationships - 28 April 2007

After getting married, I found out that my husband had phone sex with several women b4 our wedding, that was when I was working in another city, he flirted on the internet and asked for their telephone number to have phone sex... now we have been married for a couple of months, I find that leaves a shadow and it affects my feeling for him, and it also affects our sex life... Im not interested in having sex with him... I dont know whether its bcos he is not really good in bed in the first place or is bcos his past behavior affecting my feeling...
I havent talked to him about that, what should I do now? Is it a big deal?

2007-04-28 13:59:32 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-04-28 13:59:18 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Me and my GF have been going out for almost 2 months. We love each other very much, but lately it's gotten very weird. Her best friend told me she was an independant type of girl so she didn't need her BF to survive; that i understood. But now she doesn't want to do anything on the w-e, we see each other at school but thats not a great place to get intimate with each other plus lately she seems to be trying to avoid me. What can i do to get her to be less independant or at least to stop ignoring me. She told me a week ago that i shouldn't underetimate her love for me and that lately she didn't feel so good, she wouldn't tell me why. Now i saw her today at her friends house... we were 4, 2 couples, her., her best, me and her best's BF (who is a good friend of my btw) and she didn't talk to me at all in 5 hours, she ignored me completly from start to finish... i don't know what to do anymore... can anyone help me clear this up in my head and try to repair this realtionship ?

2007-04-28 13:58:28 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am a 39 year old mother. I have raised two 17 year old daughters and I have an 8 year old son. But due to family arguments someone keeps calling DFCS on us this has happened twice and it is tearing my family apart. I want to start a support group for families that are in the similar situation and maybe get the laws changed because they wont tell you who does it. But if I was raped, you can bet your *** the person I accuse would know my name. Would any one be interested in talking and seeing is we can get the laws changed. By the way I have submitted to both drug test and they were negative. Dont send get an attorney, that cost way to much and they protect the person accusing you would be wasting your time trying to get one. Please let me know if there are more of you out there that is tired of the system.

2007-04-28 13:56:59 · 6 answers · asked by slyle13 2 in Family

we've been friends since Jr.High. He's 40 (like me), divorced and a great person. He used to be a nice dude, we could hang out and talk, have a few beers...thing is he met a woman a year ago. He said she was the one, he even had plans to marry her. It all pointed at them being a match in heaven. Well, 2 months ago he moved to another state, started dressing like he was 25 again, started drinking after 2 years of abstinence and it turns out now he's not the guy i knew. Problem here is, he met another woman, and now claims to be madly in love with her.
Has my friend lost his mind or could it be going through his middle age "period"? What the hell is wrong with him?
He changed completely, turned into a rude, loud a$$ hole. He even gave his mom the boot after she took him in for 2 years.
All he thinks about now is partying and drinking. And i worry because i see him on the road to self-destruction and he has been my buddy for over 30 years.
And no, he won't accept something is wrong.

2007-04-28 13:56:20 · 14 answers · asked by hicknproud 1 in Marriage & Divorce

people say i am "sweet, and nice, and caring" but a lot of the girls where i am at just dont like me, mainly cause i wont change myself to fit in with them, and that i am kinda laconic.... its kinda hard to get out, cause i am on a ranch and there are a lot of chores that must be done twice a day, so i cant just go party....got any ideas?

2007-04-28 13:53:25 · 5 answers · asked by SwordDancer 5 in Singles & Dating

I'm dating this guy who said he's not looking for a serious relationship right now, but we've been hanging out and dating for a month AFTEr he said that, so...what's his deal? And we're not even physical yet-do guys just say that and maybe if they like you enough, they'll change their minds?

2007-04-28 13:52:13 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I liked this girl a lot a year ago, and I know she liked me back. Unfortunately, I had to move across the city, so nothing ever happened. I kept thinking about her, but now she's going out with another guy and she's changed. She cares about popularity and less of her friends. How do I get over her? I currently like another girl, but this one is just someone I can't let go. It's depressing, and I find that I can't do anything but sleep sometimes, hoping that I'd wake up and everything never changed. Help me!

2007-04-28 13:51:19 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

im pregnant and the guy told every one and their mothers that it wasnt his and now im 4 mo. and he and his gf say they want joint custody am i wrong to tell the jerk no?

2007-04-28 13:49:34 · 10 answers · asked by irulemarys 1 in Family

ok here it is i have a freind who just came back to school and i kinda like her and there is a dance on friday and i dont know if i should ask her because my other freinds will make fun of me and i will be miserable so plz help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-04-28 13:43:57 · 31 answers · asked by Brandon M 1 in Friends

i really like a guy thats a different race from me, but my parents don't want me to date out of my race [i dont know why] , and he likes me too. i really like him a lot though, does anyone have any suggestions on what i should do?

2007-04-28 13:40:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My guy friend told me that when you first get in a relationship you're not supposed to care about the other person that much. This sounds like total bull. After all, aren't relationships based on CARING?

2007-04-28 13:39:59 · 6 answers · asked by Dear Girl 1 in Singles & Dating

When i go to bed at night or whenever i have some free time i go to my bedroom and lock the door. Sometimes my parents will barge in when i am least expecting it. Or they will call up to me and ask me what i am doing. This is so annoying! Please i am out of ideas on explaining to my parents that sometimes i just need to be alone! Help!

2007-04-28 13:36:49 · 7 answers · asked by hardyfansrock 2 in Family

i just figured out that my friends are lesbians! we were playing soccer and they were on the same team. when they won the game they started jumping up and down and before i knew it they were making out in my front yard! i was staring until they stopped. then they said that they already told us they were going out. what should i do?

2007-04-28 13:35:38 · 27 answers · asked by Maddison 1 in Friends

personally mine was nothing to write home about...hence i am now divorced....hey ho!!!

2007-04-28 13:30:04 · 17 answers · asked by untanuta 5 in Weddings

I have memory loss...so...ya.

2007-04-28 13:28:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I went to Texas and bought him to stay with me just to help get him on his feet but all he does is sleep on my couch and he constatnly curses at me and is totally rude and disrespectful, he's 18 yrs old. I am trying to convince him to go back to school or go to job corps....and I'm about to deploy to Iraq should I let him stay at my house with my mom and my baby while I'm gone or should I kick him out.

2007-04-28 13:27:34 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-04-28 13:20:32 · 9 answers · asked by natalia p 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have no idea exactly what gift to get for my fiance for a wedding gift after we are married. What kind of gifts do wives usually give their husbands after the wedding ceremony? Any body got any good suggestions?? Thank you so much in advance!

2007-04-28 12:56:37 · 11 answers · asked by skye_lashay 3 in Weddings

She isn't dead yet, but she is going to die pretty soon; should I go? Will I regret it if I don't? My mother is going... I'm not sure whether or not I want to go.

2007-04-28 12:56:21 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

they moved in and it was jsut suppose to be temporaray, it'll be a year now in june! they havent saved any money(it is now clear to us they spend all their money at the casino) and only pay $200 a month for rent and watch the kids for free, but only part time. The MIL works full time and FIL gets disability and is home all day. They have quit buying groceries and I say "we gave them a year and now they can start paying part of the mortgage and utilites and we will pay them for daycare and take it off the rent. My husband agrees but wont talk to them about it. he feels bad. I want to know where all their money is and my husband says it's none of our buisness. I say my house my rules, when they start contributing their fair share what money they have left over is not our concern. shouLd I just start dealing with them or still leave it to my husband and how much longer can we let them stay.
Ps. they have an unlawful detainer on their renters record and filed banruptcy. HELP

2007-04-28 12:50:03 · 12 answers · asked by Kelsey r 1 in Family

2007-04-28 12:49:05 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-04-28 12:47:56 · 13 answers · asked by James K 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm having to walk around with a shiny, totally bald head for three months because of it. Everybody is humiliating me, and it's not fair because I'm so hot! How do I get back at the other girl and show her I'm still the top dog?

2007-04-28 12:42:38 · 8 answers · asked by Kat 2 in Friends

I know it's a bad thing.

Why am I always rejected by EVERYONE? I'm nice. No one likes me.

2007-04-28 12:38:47 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Can you wear a black skirt with a white shirt? Need help.

2007-04-28 12:27:21 · 13 answers · asked by BR 3 in Weddings

I want to e-mail someone who's address I don't know. And they are not in the USA to complicate it further. Someone please help????

2007-04-28 12:26:14 · 1 answers · asked by Faery Girl 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

After three and a half years I found out that no only was my ex-girlfriend cheating on me but she moved in with him! I gave her three weeks to get the rest of her crap out of my garage. She didn't so I pitched it. It was mostly junk anyways. My question is: Should I feel guilty or not? She said that she didn't have anywhere to put it. I told her that I didn't care. She called me two months later wondering if I still had her stuff. I said no and she hung up.

2007-04-28 12:25:17 · 7 answers · asked by Phil D. 1 in Singles & Dating

I have been married for a year, and I don't have any kids, but I am thinking about leaving my husband. We are going through a really difficult time right now, and I have lost affection for him. I feel like I don't even love him anymore. I have recently begun talking to a dear friend who lives about 800 miles away, and I have fallen in love with him. I feel like we are Soul Mates, which is a feeling I have never had before. Now, all I can do is think of divorcing my husband, because I realize how much better he deserves. I have not cheated on him, because I have love and respect for my husband, but I feel like I am no longing in love with him. This other man loves me, too. I feel like he loves me even more than my husband does. I want to leave my husband, but I am not sure of where to go. I spend all of my time thinking about this other man, and that makes me feel horrible. Some friends tell me that I need to get away from the situation and go visit my parents. What should I do???

2007-04-28 12:25:14 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

my friend is gettin really worried about his hormones and i dont knowwhat advice to give him becuase i havent thought about this before

2007-04-28 12:23:09 · 21 answers · asked by Mr Adam 1 in Friends