She isn't dead yet, but she is going to die pretty soon; should I go? Will I regret it if I don't? My mother is going... I'm not sure whether or not I want to go.
2007-04-28 12:56:21 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if you can handle it, then go,
not only out of respect
but to be there for your mother
because she will probably be devastated losing a sibling.
2007-04-28 13:00:23 · answer #1 · answered by tallulahvulture 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends how close you are to her. If you don't like her, don't go. If it doesn't matter to you, go to help your mother. If you sort of like her but don't like funerals, go see her now, say goodbye, and you won't have regrets. I think it is more important to be there for someone before they die, rather than after, when they are unaware of it. Most people don't know when the end comes, so the funeral is it for the family.
I did not go to my grandfather's funeral (I did not DISLIKE him). I did not go to my ex-girlfriends funeral (suicide a few months ago).
I don't regret it... but then again I could be a heartless bastard too.
2007-04-28 13:11:04 · answer #2 · answered by Adam M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Death is a part of living as sure as we are born we die. Going to your Aunty's funeral is a decision you need to make and carry the consequences of that decision.
If this is your Mum's sister then your Mum will need the support of her own loved one's to help her through this significant loss. No one ever really wants to go to a funeral as they are sad and have the finality of that person never being with us again.
If you choose to not go to the funeral be part of the group who are waiting for the funeral party to come back for tea/coffee, bite to eat. This way you are still part of the process and support for your Mum.
Whatever you decide make it with your Mum's thoughts and feelings in mind and you will make the right decision.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your mum at what must be a very sad time for you both.
2007-04-28 13:11:07 · answer #3 · answered by sag_kat2chat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody feels different about funerals,but I agree with Tallulah,I'm sure it will comfort your Mom if you can manage it.
And I asure you,don't feel alone,nobody wants to go to a funeral,its one sad place,BUT also a place to say our final good-byes.
2007-04-28 13:23:07 · answer #4 · answered by Butch46 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go. It will probably help your mother AND it is the right thing to do.
2007-04-28 13:17:45 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course you should go. do you know her? has she been part of your life?is this your mom's sister?
2007-04-28 14:04:36 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋