I posted this question earlier, but i didn't get very many answers, so please answer it this time.?

Question

i really like a guy thats a different race from me, but my parents don't want me to date out of my race [i dont know why] , and he likes me too. i really like him a lot though, does anyone have any suggestions on what i should do?

yes your right, im white and hes black. & what are you talking about? i dont hate myself [to the guy with the first answer]

To answer the person that asked if he comes off as a thug, NO! hes kinda preppy, like he wears abercrombie and stuff, just like all the other black guys i know. well with the exception of maybe 2 or 3, and hes really nice

1. You don't know much about life yet
2. You don't know much about boys yet
3. You certainly don't know what its like to be stared at because you date a different race
4. You don't know what it's like to be dropped by friends...
5. And finally, I bet you don't know the boy too well either.



1.true
2. i know a lot more than you think
3. i guess true
4. my best friends are in the same situation
5. ive known him since i was 7 and im 15 now, and weve been pretty much best friends since the day we met, so if you want to call that not knowing him too well...

Answer 1

OK some parents have difficulty in accepting that their daughter is dating outside the race...even if they are not racists. But let's face the facts... There are many reason for you to go slowly here.

1. You don't know much about life yet
2. You don't know much about boys yet
3. You certainly don't know what its like to be stared at because you date a different race
4. You don't know what it's like to be dropped by friends...
5. And finally, I bet you don't know the boy too well either.

There are a few theories about interacial dating... most don't mean a thing. But you also have to realize that if you continue to date him and become sexually active with him, there is a possibility of having a baby thats mixed. Raising a baby is hard enough for a teen... but certainly it could be a lot harder if you don't have parental support or friends.

What I am saying is to wait until you are an adult to interacially date, when you are clear about everything that comes with it... it's not easy.

There is nothing wrong with dating or falling in love with someone of aother race..... but you have to be mature enough to handle it... I am trying to be a friend.

Answer 2

We'll sweety, you already know what to do. Let's be realistic here. People on here have bigger problems than that to worry about. You should contiune to date him because you two are having a realtionship, not you, your parents and him. I know everyone would love to have there parents support on everything they do in life, but reality is that our parents are regular human beings, just like us who really don't know what there doing, just like us. They raised us to the best of there ability and any good parent will always expect and want more for there child. That's just how life is. Once you grasped that concept you do what makes you happy in life and you inform you parents that there opion will never control how you feel aobut a person but it matters on when it comes to them seeing something bad in a person that you might miss or cannot see at first. And i'm not talking about color. If the first thing they see is color then you know that you can't rely on there judgement on this guy. Maybe other topics they can be of some help but not when it comes to choosing you want to love and if he treats you good, then defeintly keep him because race has nothing to do with person on the inside. Good luck!

Answer 3

I don't know! The lack of responses was probably because it's tough to answer. My friend was in a relationship that couldn't work for the same reasons and ended up putting a huge strain on the relationship - he could never meet the family, forced her to lie, pretend 'be single' according to her family for 2 years! It's very complicated. I recommend you give it a go, see how it works out. If you definately then decide after all you do really like him then although it will be hard, your family will have to find out. Explain you know it is against their wishes but you can't help your choice in partner. You may even fin out they're fine with it and it was all in your head! But i recommend doing this a little while into the relationship, else you may cause a family conflict over a guy you break up with in 2 months time. x

Answer 4

Wait until your 18 then you can date who you want.It isnt wrong for you to date outside of your race, and I hope I dont sound racist, but I know of only 2 couples who are mixed races (white and black) the rest of the white girls ( too many to count here)are alone raising little half black babies.It isnt the color but the QAULITY of what the person is.It may not be that he is black, but does he come off as agangsta thug wannabe?If so I wouldnt want my daughter datin him either.

Answer 5

This question has a very simple asnwer...
Love should not be because the color of your skin or your ethnic race. For instance, look at Tula in "my big fat greek wedding" she married a non-greek and was happy with it! If you and this guy really love each other, then continue the relationship. Explain to your parents in a mature and respectful way that you shouldn't limited to your race and love can be found between any two people.

This is one of the few exceptions to breaking the rule "honor your father and mother". Prejudace should not be accepted.

Hope I helped and good luck!

Answer 6

Just bring him over to your house as a friend, and say you are just meeting up to hang out with a group of friends, the more they see him and get to know him the more they will like him. Or tell them that he is helping you with a project of some type, like school or work, or a dance partner and you need to practice with him. They will only not start to like him if he is an idiot or they are racist

Answer 7

Listen to your parents they have lived longer then you,I think they no a little bit more then you do.My opinion is stay in your own race,why make unnecessary trouble for yourself. If my
son came home and told me he was dating a black girl,I would want to ask him were I went wrong and then tell him
never to have kids.Sorry I just don' want to be a grandmother of a mix baby.I no how that sounds but it is what it is.

Answer 8

You should sit down with your parents and talk to them about it. Or if your not that close.. date him anyways! dont let anyone get in the way of how you feel. and who knows maybe your parents would like him no matter what his race is!

Answer 9

I think that's very selfish of your parents. Maybe they think that all black guys are like rappers and playas but explain to them that they arent. Just talk to them and tell them your true feelings.

Answer 10

it shouldn't matter what his race is. If you like him and he likes you i'd talk to your parents tell them that you like him alot, and it shouldnt matter what his race is they might even like this guy.