I like my privacy. But my parents don't understand. What do i do?

Question

When i go to bed at night or whenever i have some free time i go to my bedroom and lock the door. Sometimes my parents will barge in when i am least expecting it. Or they will call up to me and ask me what i am doing. This is so annoying! Please i am out of ideas on explaining to my parents that sometimes i just need to be alone! Help!

Answer 1

if you're a teenager, it's very normal for your parents to do this. nothing personal but, teens can get very private and crabby. in todays world, there are a ton of things that parents worry about when it comes to their kids and i'll bet your folks are just trying to make sure you're okay.we worry all the time about everything. drugs,alcohol,peer pressure, your mental health, you name it. it's our job.
try this-when you come home from school, sit down, have a snack and talk to your mom or dad. tell them about your day. let them know about the cute guy in the hall, the snotty girl in math class, the wierd science teacher or the test coming up in american lit. give them 10 minutes of your time,pleasantly, and they'll ease up. they want to know who you are now. you see, just when parents have their kids figures out, they change and we have to start all over again. give them a chance to know you and you'll see a change.

Answer 2

As a parent myself I can only imagine they suspect you might be doing something they would disapprove of. Perhaps you could suggest that so they don't barge in whilst you're changing they could knock before entering? Other than that I suggest bringing up the subject of privacy and explaining that you just like sometimes to be alone. I'm sure they have your best interests at heart but they are not respecting your privacy.

Answer 3

As a parent of young children I can imagine my kids will feel the same way in a couple of years. Explain like an adult to them, calmly. Also make sure you are spending time with them at other times.

Are you telling them what is up with your day, school?

Are you giving them reasons to worry?

There are times when all I want to do is read and I am faced with 400 "mommies". I want to scream! So they know how you feel. They just don't remember.

Everyone needs their space. Just remember to act like an adult when they forget to knock too.

Personally, I look at my two little ones who want me to play games all day, read stories, get their food, and I can't imagine what it will be like when they don't need me.

Maybe your parents are lonely and miss you too. It must feel weird to go from the "rock star" that my kids think I am to "an annoying Mom".

No matter, maturity is saying how you feel without accusing them of being wrong. Don't put the blame on them. Just like I won't "blame" my husband if he wanted to watch hockey when I wanted to go to the movies. We just want different things. Like you want to be left alone and they want to hang out.

It might help if you said "ok guys I'm going to go to my room to read for a while." or something like that so they know you want to be alone.

Good Luck.

Answer 4

simply explain to them that you respect their concern for your safety but you need some time by yourself some quiet time and if they can't trust you simply reassure them that you aren't doing anything that should cause them to be this concerned such as doing pot or drinking booze. so tell them that you respect their concern for you but you need some time to yourself and it needs to be alone time.

Answer 5

my parents are the same way but you have to talk to them and tell them how u fill

Answer 6

they r the parents live with it

Answer 7

well how old are you?