i just figured out that my friends are lesbians! we were playing soccer and they were on the same team. when they won the game they started jumping up and down and before i knew it they were making out in my front yard! i was staring until they stopped. then they said that they already told us they were going out. what should i do?
2007-04-28 13:35:38 · 27 answers · asked by Maddison 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hun, I know it may be akward for you if you've never experienced it before, but let it be. If they are your friends you will learn to accept them for who they are. It will probably be strange for a little bit for you, but remember they are the same people that you met (however long ago you met). Just let them know that you completely support them in thier decision and that it may take a little getting used to on your part. They will more then likely be very understanding and appreciate your support and honesty.
2007-05-05 21:22:55 · answer #1 · answered by ~~*Paradise Dreams*~~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the real world kiddo...you are going to find this everywhere you go whether it be at school, or at work. What do you mean ...what should you do? As in regards to them dating, or as to your being friends with them? There is absolutely nothing for you to do concerning their dating preferences. Being friends with them....that is going to depend on YOU....can/are you comfortable around them still? The only thing different is you are now aware of their sexual preferences. They haven*t changed...they still possess the same qualities that you liked in them before the victory dance...you can always talk to them and let them know how you feel, and whether or not you think that you can remain friends.....and maybe let them know that making out in your front lawn is a no-no.
2007-05-05 05:43:11 · answer #2 · answered by lonely needing friends 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just accept it. I'm bi and I told my friend that I liked her and she's like, "That's nice. Why do I need to know? It's not like it matters." I was happy. I told another friend and he said, "So? That doesn't matter. All that matters is your personality." I wanted to cry because he was just soooooo nice. Just accepting things like this will make them happy. If you think about it, it doesn't make a difference. Bisexual, straight, or lesbian. All that matters is how they treat you as a person.
2007-05-06 08:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Caroline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean what should you do?? there the same people that you have been friends/teammates with nothings changed. sexual orientation should never have an effect on whether or not your friends with them. if you are truely their friends than you should not let this effect you.
reading over what some of these other people wrote.
a. it is not a decison, you dont just "turn" gay its not something you choose its part of who you are
b.there not freaks there people just like everyone else. there not different they love who they love just like you love who you love. what does it matter what gender they are?
c.if you turn your back on them what kind of friend are you?
2007-05-06 00:53:24 · answer #4 · answered by ♥falling in love♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean what should you do. If they are lesbians they are lesbians. Just because they like girls does not meant that they like you. I would treat them like you usually do so that they will not fill so left out. Unless it makes you fill uncomfortable. Then I would just talk it out with them.
2007-04-28 20:40:54 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be a good friend, then let them be. They were good friends, and just because they have diffrent sexual interests than you does not make you better than them. I mean, it took some guts to tell you in the first place. Just let them be.
2007-04-28 21:03:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be just a phase. Sometimes girls think its "cute" or "hot". If you are uncomfortable with it then tell them. If they are really good friends they will talk to you about it and wont be so affectionate around you.
2007-04-28 20:40:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEPENDS DO YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE? OR YOU DONT SEE IT RIGHT YOUR GIRLFRIEND'S DATING? DO YOU HAVE SOMETHING AGAINST GAY/LESBIAN RELATIONSHIP'S/ ARE THEY BRINGING YOU IN A DIFFICULT POSITION?
IF ANY OF THOSE QUESTIONS IS YES,YOU NEED TO BACK OUT FROM THE FRIENDSHIP,BUT IF IS A NO!
YOU NEED TO LEARN TO LOVE YOUR GIRLFRIENDS THE WHEY THEY ARE!!!!
IS DIFFICULT IN THE BEGINNING TO ACCEPT ANYTHING DIFFERENT FROM WHAT YOU ARE,BUT WITH TIME EVERY THING IS EASYER!!!!GOOD LUCK GIRL!!!!
2007-04-28 20:49:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it was me, I would go inside and lock the door and behave as though the zombies were out there until those freaks left. I mean, live your alternative lifestyle in an alternative location, NOT on my front lawn!
2007-04-28 20:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by ioannacardish 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
everybody is right - you don't have to do anything. if you are uncomfortable, maybe it's because it came as a big surprise for you and it kind of put you off guard.
maybe what you can do is to deal with it without judging. hey, it's not so bad :-)
good luck!
2007-05-06 11:32:00 · answer #10 · answered by periwinkle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋