Family & Relationships - 19 March 2007

I just wanted to add more details about my question...my boyfriend slept with prostitutes in the past over 10 years ago...he pays equal rent...i just graduated from my masters and am looking for a job...he used to be so affectionate, would leave me gifts at home, call me everyday, plan fun things to do, etc. As soon as he got in, he stopped all this. I believe him that he did not cheat. Some of his colleagues were there and they were busy 24/7...anyway...he usually ignores me...coming home at 10 afterwork...he said he was giving me space...i said we need to go on dates...he said its always about me...i feel like he hates me...he said that we need to "want" each other...he says his feelings have changed and that time will tell what will happen...i feel awful...i told him to leave that it would be better that way...he said okay...but then just didnt really say anything...he said we can be friends after ive said that almost everyday for the past month bc i wanted to get a reaction...

2007-03-19 16:51:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-03-19 16:50:44 · 17 answers · asked by scoot 1 in Singles & Dating

here's the deal- ive known my ex since '04. we broke up in '05, but stayed talking. He relocated to go 2 school in IL, & i recently moved down to GA. No less than a month after i moved, he came to see me for 2 wks. & we ended up picking up right where we left off. except that this time we have decided not to coin the term "relationship" b/c of the distance & we both cannot afford to lose focus @ the moment. we are both late in starting college. recently he took his entire 1 week spring break to come see me once more. We have good sex, deep conversation.. we talk practically evry day, send e/o gifts, have silly nicknames & essentially what we have is no diff. frm any other relationship except that we do not use the term. if he messes w/ another b*tch i could honestly care less, b/c at the end of the day he is prooving 2 me that hes comin to see me & using his last dime on me. we are working towards possibilities of love, but realistic w/ it. i would like 2 meet ppl in similar situations

2007-03-19 16:50:38 · 2 answers · asked by juiceysoul 2 in Singles & Dating

OK.. this is the deal,my dearest friend suspected her hubby of cheating a few years ago, well guess what? YEP! He sure did!
now he says that he feels terrible and "what was i thinking"and stuff like that! she cried,he cried, they broke up for 3 days and now she's asking me if she should give him a 2nd chance,she says "PEOPLE CHANGE YOU KNOW"! well why is she trying to convince me? do you think a zebra really can change his/her stripes? or ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER, and THEY ALWAYS RETURN TO THE SCENE OF THE CRIME?

2007-03-19 16:50:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

What do 26 year old guys see in younger girls like the ages between 16-20. Is it there maturity level or sex drive.

2007-03-19 16:49:47 · 5 answers · asked by Steph1490 4 in Singles & Dating

I have a freind who seems to get upset and avoids me if I don't share her beliefs. She wants to help me find a good man to date and seems to think if I don't agree with her idea, that I am ungreatful for her help. I feel very misunderstood but would like to clear tis matter up I think friends should be able to support each other . I have been picky because I have kids involved and woulld like to be sure about the type of man should be in their lives. I guess it feels like I am being made to feel like an unthankful person. I could use some feedback on how to effectively talk to her without sounding ungreatful.

2007-03-19 16:49:16 · 8 answers · asked by java348 2 in Singles & Dating

i have been talking with a wonderful person and she wants to come visit i want this to happen but im also nervous about it is this a normal reaction to this situation??

2007-03-19 16:49:10 · 3 answers · asked by k_9efx69 1 in Singles & Dating

Most women seem to always have an agenda about the future, success and acquiring stuff. Are there any women left who have enough self-worth just to be able to be in the momnent and allow the friendship to evolve. If any relationship has any substance it is grounded in the contentment of just being together. Any thoughts?

2007-03-19 16:48:56 · 5 answers · asked by Cliff F 1 in Singles & Dating

I just learned that my grandma is not good. Only 5% of her kidneys are working and she has weeks, months, or even a year to live. The doctor wants her to go on dyalisis (I don't know how to spell it) and she said she would rather die than go on it. I had a great aunt that had those treatments and she would get sick as a dog and when she would cut herself, she would have to go to the hospital because it was so bad. I know I can't change my grandma's mind. She is 82. I feel so bad that I don't spend as much time with her as I should but I don't want something to happen when I am there. My Mom is staying with her because she needs 24/7 care. What should I do, be with her more and more? I have been through a lot and don't want to see her pass.

2007-03-19 16:48:50 · 6 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family

I've been adding this one guy to my myspace knowing he'll never accept, so everytime he denies I keep adding lol.

We have a history together and lets say we mutually used eachother and I'm done with him so I decided to annoy him this way!! hehe.

So is that a good annoyance or what? (if you were wondering we were friends with benefits and uh it was my idea. He's the only guy I've been with my whole life and didn't lose my virgin ity until 22)

2007-03-19 16:48:04 · 10 answers · asked by Out of the Blue 1 in Friends

i think so, because we were best friends to start. She says no , adios....

2007-03-19 16:47:19 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my partner will not talk to me. after voice mail and tex. i am out of an option. and i am very heart broken.
is too crazy to think of him after all this mee?

2007-03-19 16:46:22 · 10 answers · asked by destinysprenger 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I just want some suggestions on how to get over my ex. Obviously one suggestion would be to date someone else, but I don't want to because I'm leaving in 3 months for college. Are there any suggestions on how to move on? Getting over him isn't easy, but I'm tired of waiting for an answer from him. I'm done with it. What should I do?

2007-03-19 16:46:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

but hes like a really good mormon. and im not so much. and plus hes an adult and im not. but were not to far apart in age. should i persue this or not?

2007-03-19 16:45:44 · 9 answers · asked by bugletti 1 in Singles & Dating

I also need some interesting stuff to talk about any ideas could help a lot

2007-03-19 16:45:21 · 5 answers · asked by goldenboykenny 1 in Singles & Dating

when i was younger i was very promiscuos. i got married and then seperated because he was cheating on me. but now ive been with this totally amazing guy for 1yr 1/2 and lately all i can think about is how i used to be and how good it used to feel when i was sexing a new guy. my guy isnt anything to complain about in bed at all either; but i cant help this craving im having to go have a wild kinky crazy affair with anyone and everyone that wants to. i like the kinky stuff and my guy isnt in to it. he knows about my past and says he still loves me. i know i absolutely love him with all my heart. but in my head and in my naughty spots i feel the need to have someone new. i dont know what to do; these urges are driving me nuts. i love my man but wanna sex others. what should i do? can anyone help me before i ruin this?

2007-03-19 16:45:18 · 22 answers · asked by the_syco_t 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I broke up with my girlfriend after I caught her cheating on me with my butler, Winsworth. Now her and Winsworth are dating and she's around all of the time. I don't want to fire the butler, because he saved my life three years ago. Oh, and now she's cheating on Winsworth with me.

2007-03-19 16:45:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I can't see light at the end of the tunnel. My dilemma is that since childhood, I have not been loved, sufficiently. My parents were always busy with their brothers, sisters , cousins and relatives.

I have spent years of isolation in tears. That made me believe that I am not worth them. It also developed a protective distance between me and people around me.

I thought that a friend will make me feel better. I am not just a taker. I give more than I take from others. I felt a strong need and liking for a girl. I did what I could to tell her that but she thinks that I am not worth it. I look fine, I respect people (everyone), Why my love is always torched and dumped ? She can make all sorts of friends but not me ? Things have made me believe that I am worthless and I have no basis to live with people. I meet people but there's absolute disconnect in me. Please Help

2007-03-19 16:44:35 · 7 answers · asked by Goldman 6 in Friends

blondes or redheads. They are more relaxed and not afraid to have a good time regardless of who is watching....

Your thoughts?

2007-03-19 16:44:23 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

She watched the kids for us today which I appreciate but good grief, does she do everything for spite? We asked her to make sure to leave the baby gate closed so my 2 yr old would stay off the computer, she opened it because he wanted to "play", instead bangs his hands on my keyboard and now 2 of the keys are sticking. She though it was funny. I asked her to not give him any juice, only water in his sippy cup she did anyways because "he likes it that way". She knows hes on a strict water diet and only one glass of juice per day from his dr. I asked her to not put anything on the mantle because it had just been stained, she set a pop can on it and then spilled it. Then said, "Oh well, guess you'll have to re stain it". Hubby told her not to give the kids sugar after 8 and she did anyways, claimed, "they need plenty of sugar in their diet". does she do this for spite? Doesn't she know its making us not want to ask her to watch them again? What can I say to her???

2007-03-19 16:43:39 · 16 answers · asked by Koozie 5 in Family

I think I'm in love with my best friend's girlfriend. I know she could be interested in me, but I won't do anything about it because I don't want to hurt her or my friend. I'm really confused because I care about both of them alot, and it's making me seriously depressed. Please help.

2007-03-19 16:42:50 · 13 answers · asked by fjorlag 1 in Singles & Dating

We work together and went out on the town, it was a crazy night and we ended up making out. What do I do now? Do I acknowledge it or pretend it didn't happen? How do I acknowledge it without looking clingy? I'm not sure if it was a one night thing or not.

2007-03-19 16:42:43 · 9 answers · asked by what2do 2 in Singles & Dating

I am a foriegner living in japan for the past 5 years now,i met my wife 4years ago fell in love and have been married to her for the past two years after 2 years of courtship.
Everything seemed normal after leaving together for 2 years before marriage and now i feel like i am in bondage..i have done my best to be a good husband,very faithful and caring.
These days she has resorted to giving rules on who to talk to and who not to,complaining about my job,complaining about virtually everything she can think of.The interesting thing is that my job and character were some of the things that attracted her to me and now she intends to change me into some puppet or toy.this has met with resistnce because i told her clearly that i cannot change 'me' for her although i have made a few adjustments this has not worked we intend to wed in church soon and i am begining think of a divorce before then as i wont cope with this for much longer...i am confused.

2007-03-19 16:41:42 · 9 answers · asked by gaijin in tokyo 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Well my half sister is kinda dating my cousin, if he was related to me. Well my grandma broke up with her ex and met this other man, he is my grandpa to me even though we are not blodd related, while she had my mom and my aunts and uncles. He a a niece< my aunt>who has a stepsonthat my sister is dating. I know, wow one crazy confusing family, please tell me if this is wrong, cause if it is i gotta break them up.

2007-03-19 16:41:19 · 11 answers · asked by DeeCordova 2 in Family

2007-03-19 16:41:01 · 24 answers · asked by micolperu317 2 in Family

as soon as we broke up he decided that he loved me and had gotten very depressed. so we talked about maybe working it out. the only problem is that now he acts like he doesn't want me as badly as he did when we were broken up and its as if he doesnt want to talk to me about things that we used to talk about. sometimes i feel like i am wasting my time but i really am in love with him. we have been through alot together and i would hate to throw it all away over nothing. its just that i cant get a straight answer out of him when i ask if he wants to be back together again. i feel like i am the only one trying even though he insists that he loves me too. what should i do ?

2007-03-19 16:40:56 · 5 answers · asked by miss t. 1 in Singles & Dating

when i was younger i was very promiscuos. i got married and then seperated because he was cheating on me. but now ive been with this totally amazing guy for 1yr 1/2 and lately all i can think about is how i used to be and how good it used to feel when i was sexing a new guy. my guy isnt anything to complain about in bed at all either; but i cant help this craving im having to go have a wild kinky crazy affair with anyone and everyone that wants to. i like the kinky stuff and my guy isnt in to it. he knows about my past and says he still loves me. i know i absolutely love him with all my heart. but in my head and in my naughty spots i feel the need to have someone new. i dont know what to do; these urges are driving me nuts. i love my man but wanna sex others. what should i do? can anyone help me before i ruin this?

2007-03-19 16:40:53 · 11 answers · asked by the_syco_t 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-03-19 16:40:53 · 12 answers · asked by Michael H 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My mom said when she was younger, there were boys she just didn't want to talk to anymore for no reason, just like the girl I fell in love with and can't seem to let go. She also said this boy told her how he felt about her and she still didn't want to talk to him. So I'm not going to tell this girl how I feel about her (see additional details for what I was going to say to her) because I it won't work. It's just that today I saw her talking, touching and playing with other boys and even though it don't mean nothing except she likes them in a slightly-more-than-friends but-still-not-boyfriend kind of way, it still gets to me because I'm not one of the boys she's flirting with. I can't get her off my mind. I saw her sneak at least 2 looks in my direction though. I keep asking myself "She never liked you like you liked her, she told you she doesn't want to talk to you anymore, why don't you just forget her? The answer keeps coming back because I miss her and I love her.

2007-03-19 16:40:48 · 6 answers · asked by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 in Singles & Dating

Im such a tomboy girl and i find myself playing alot of dangerous boyish games..im not lesbo though(which i wont be in a million years to come)no offense...but to me being girly doesnt make much sense to me..but i think other girls being girly is so right for them but i don think i can fit into that category..don get me wrong, im not all hating on my body or anything..but ive jus grown up being boyish n it seems alot of guyz don like that..but i don really care about guyz ive bn wit them long enuf to kno they dont care about senseful things(not all of them tho..theaz still some gud guyz out thea)..n plus the guyz n gurls tell me that its wrong for a gurl to act like i do..i mean jus coz i failed ettiquete class n i hate dresses n i find myself wrestling with guyz...is thea something wrong with being wild and a tomboy?..or am i gonna have to grow up...BE HONEST pliz..

2007-03-19 16:40:23 · 2 answers · asked by Faith 2 in Singles & Dating