I just learned that my grandma is not good. Only 5% of her kidneys are working and she has weeks, months, or even a year to live. The doctor wants her to go on dyalisis (I don't know how to spell it) and she said she would rather die than go on it. I had a great aunt that had those treatments and she would get sick as a dog and when she would cut herself, she would have to go to the hospital because it was so bad. I know I can't change my grandma's mind. She is 82. I feel so bad that I don't spend as much time with her as I should but I don't want something to happen when I am there. My Mom is staying with her because she needs 24/7 care. What should I do, be with her more and more? I have been through a lot and don't want to see her pass.
2007-03-19 16:48:50 · 6 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know this is hard cause Ive been there, the best thing to do is make as many memories as you can with her and cherish everyone that you have with her now. try to look at this in her perspective she knows that she is dying and if she does take dialysis she will feel like crap, she wants to spend her time with her family feeling how she does now which i don't know how she feels but i would hope she feels better than what dialysis does to you. i know that it is hard but think about it she has made her mind up so instead of spending time trying to change her mind spend it with her and just show her how much you love her..... i wish you the BEST of luck i hope this helps...
2007-03-19 17:18:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste this time with your grandma - this may be the last few opportunities you have of being with her. Listen to her, ask her about her childhood, tell her about your day, help get her mind off her situation. Make her time here more pleasant if you can. Her decision on dialysis is just that - her decision - and is not your worry. You just need to support her whatever she decides. Good luck to your family.
2007-03-19 23:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by Deborah C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey anytime a loved one is sick it's hard... be by your grandma's side as much as you can and support her in whatever it is she wants... she has lived a full life and god will take her when her time comes but until then make some Memories with her that you can treasure forever..... take lots of pictures.... and PRAY for her
2007-03-20 00:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, yes try to be with her, let her talk about her life growing up, get an older gram's wisdom, mabey you can help her eat and do things, a young person brightens an older person's day, bring her flowers.
2007-03-20 02:16:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
respect your grandmothers wishes even though you dont agree with them.
2007-03-19 23:51:32 · answer #5 · answered by mamaac43 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel wat ur sayin my granny is in da hospital too. i think u shud go visit her. and spend time with her wen ur mom is there too.
2007-03-20 00:43:18 · answer #6 · answered by ~Sharon~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋