why do i think about other men and having sex with them all the time? and what can i do about it?

Question

when i was younger i was very promiscuos. i got married and then seperated because he was cheating on me. but now ive been with this totally amazing guy for 1yr 1/2 and lately all i can think about is how i used to be and how good it used to feel when i was sexing a new guy. my guy isnt anything to complain about in bed at all either; but i cant help this craving im having to go have a wild kinky crazy affair with anyone and everyone that wants to. i like the kinky stuff and my guy isnt in to it. he knows about my past and says he still loves me. i know i absolutely love him with all my heart. but in my head and in my naughty spots i feel the need to have someone new. i dont know what to do; these urges are driving me nuts. i love my man but wanna sex others. what should i do? can anyone help me before i ruin this?

i really do want to keep my fiance though. i love him so much and dont want to lose him; is there anyway to stop thinking these bad thought and having these urges?

Answer 1

Tough one. You have real issues there. There isn't really a perfect solution. Your two ideals are at a paradox. You leave your man and go do what you need to do (and I think it is a very real need) or you stay with your man and deny your needs. It sounds like your guy would be the sort to be devastated by any kind of mid ground. Cheating even discretely would be a bad option. If you could cheat while on a trip far away and totally keep it secret would be about the best midground you could hope for. Personally I think you need to choose. Either stay with your man and be faithful and go nuts, or tell your man tearfully you have to let him go and stay with your needs. Also personally , though it seems weird for my beleifs to say so, I think you need to follow your needs and break up with your man. If you do this tell him why in all it's details, and make sure to not leave out the bit about the fact he's satisfying in bed and all you just need someone new or you might leave him with a complex. Good luck with whatever you decide. It is a hard choice but nobody said life would be easy.

Answer 2

You ought to seem beyond the dictionary terminology. The fact is that sure even as that's the dictionary/clinical/sociological time period, to honestly be homosexual in present society there demands to be greater than only a bodily detail, however a intellectual/emotional detail as good. Despite what the clinical definition might say, guys who've intercourse with different guys with out a intellectual appeal don't seem to be homosexual, they are simply guys who've intercourse with guys. What you do in mattress does now not verify your sexuality, it simply determines how open minded/kinky you're. Unfortunately within the detail of homosexual problems and terminology the clinical understandings are nonetheless many years at the back of.

Answer 3

Burn it off by working out and exercising. Hey Arnold Schwarzenegger compared working out to having sex, "from the pump" you get.

Answer 4

There is actually a condition for what you have. I am not sure of the name of it. May want to talk to your Doctor or you will ruin your relationship and disrespect yourself.

Answer 5

I think of other women go for it want to get together

Answer 6

Well do it on line it is safer and not as bad as in the real thing. get it out of your systm.

Answer 7

if you are going to have sex with every tom,dick,and harry,then you dont need a steady boyfriend.just go and play the field.

Answer 8

Just cheat... It seems like the relationship wont last anyway...

Answer 9

Seriously ask about a threesome. I'm not joking. He'll probably think it's hot.

Answer 10

ur gonna ruin everything if u cheat ! i wudnt do it!~