She watched the kids for us today which I appreciate but good grief, does she do everything for spite? We asked her to make sure to leave the baby gate closed so my 2 yr old would stay off the computer, she opened it because he wanted to "play", instead bangs his hands on my keyboard and now 2 of the keys are sticking. She though it was funny. I asked her to not give him any juice, only water in his sippy cup she did anyways because "he likes it that way". She knows hes on a strict water diet and only one glass of juice per day from his dr. I asked her to not put anything on the mantle because it had just been stained, she set a pop can on it and then spilled it. Then said, "Oh well, guess you'll have to re stain it". Hubby told her not to give the kids sugar after 8 and she did anyways, claimed, "they need plenty of sugar in their diet". does she do this for spite? Doesn't she know its making us not want to ask her to watch them again? What can I say to her???
2007-03-19 16:43:39 · 16 answers · asked by Koozie 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It wasn't free either. took her out to an expensive dinner and helped her out with a down payment on a new car. If it was her house I would respect her wishes.
2007-03-19 16:51:06 · update #1
And she begged us to let her watch them cause she hardly ever sees them.
2007-03-19 16:52:08 · update #2
I have the same issue with my MIL, but not as bad as that! She gives him things he doesn't need, or doesn't listen to my requests, she butts in when we are all visiting and I am taking care of my son.
As I assume with my MIL, she thinks that she knows better for the child then you and will do what she wants. Plus Grandmas like to spoil our kids rotten... to give us a harder time? who knows!
Her other actions are a bit ridiculous to say the least! All I can tell you is to limit the time she has alone with him... Still visit and what not just avoid asking her to baby-sit... if she asks why you don't ask as much anymore tell her why(or do that Before hand)! She is showing a complete lack of respect for you and your spouse, your home and your child!
If the doctor ordered water and one juice a day then she needs to respect the health of your child!
Mommy dearest or not she needs to be put in her place by you and your spouse! besides she sounds like she is acting a bit childish herself!
Good luck! I feel ya!
2007-03-19 17:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ PrincessLeia ♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My answer would be yes.....she is doing it out of spite. Simple, never let her babysit again....even if she begs. Just tell her she can take care of the kids when she starts respecting your wishes. She's inconsiderate and can't be relied on. Would you let a 15 or 16 year old babysitter get by with that? The 15 year old would be more respectful than your mother in law. You shouldn't be the only one to say anything to her, your husband should be right by your side backing you up, and doing most of the talking. I feel for you dear....good luck to you and keep in mind....you are their parents....you decide what's best for them, not grandma.
2007-03-19 17:08:03 · answer #2 · answered by ksgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow... if i were you I would definitely find me a babysitter who listens. Sounds to me like she was just trying to piss you off... i know it would piss me off. She also sounds like a spoiler... give em what they want so they dont fuss type of person... then again maybe shes doing it just so she wont have to watch them again... tell her that you would greatly appreciate doing things as you see fit... not the way she wants it done. be blunt... you sound too sweet cuz if it were me I would have layd her butt out... especially for the sugar after 8. next time she does it... tell her she can keep the kids since she wanted to get them all hyped up... see how she likes them apples.
2007-03-19 16:51:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WTF?! She sounds like either an absolute idiot, or a malicious b*&$%. Unbelievable. I guess I wouldn't ask her to watch the kids again, then your worries will be over! If you have to leave your kids in her care again, maybe write stuff down? Remind her she is the adult, she is not to allow your children to do things just because 'they want to'. We understand she wants to spoil them (that's what grandma's do, right?) but spoiling them in this way is unhealthy and hurtful (doesn't she understand 'doctor's orders'?).
Maybe she can watch them at her house next time? Just frisk her for candy and juice first.
2007-03-19 16:53:27 · answer #4 · answered by Deborah C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 10:30:30 · answer #5 · answered by heiselman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple solution...dont let her watch them again. And when she asks why tell her plainly why. Respect is a two way street and shes not showing any at all.
2007-03-19 18:49:06 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guess what?...........mother in laws are total b*tches!! Thats just the way it goes for some reason. Im sure there are a few good ones, but they are very hard to find!
2007-03-19 16:48:53 · answer #7 · answered by Blue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is trying to piss you off and she did it. Don't leave the kids with her anymore. Always be around when she sees them. If she complains tell her she doesn't respect your rules and until she does that's it you don't trust her to handle them properly.
2007-03-19 16:56:05 · answer #8 · answered by Chrissy #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer is simple she is your MOTHER-IN-LAW, that is what they do, it is like a pay back for them, they make you suffer because you made them suffer when you were kids, good luck, and oh yea she is not going to change so you guys have to live with it, sorry. Good luck.
2007-03-19 19:10:09 · answer #9 · answered by hih 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you need to pay a babysitter instead of complaining.
the kids can visit grama at a different time. say in the afternoon when it is way too early to be worrying about sugar shut off time. in her own home as to not mess up your computer or your newly stained mantle.
sounds like you expect alot for free babysittine.
2007-03-19 16:49:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋