Can Ex's really still be friends?

Question

i think so, because we were best friends to start. She says no , adios....

Answer 1

If she doesn't want to be friends, its because she finds it too hard to be around you as she still loves you. Its kind of like being demoted, going from lover to friend. Its an awful feeling being around someone in a different way than you want to or are used to being.

Its just too hard. When one of you starts seeing someone else? Think about the consequences of how that's going to make either one of you feel. I think, if you want to be friends with her, you EACH need some space/time to heal and then maybe could consider it down the road.

Answer 2

I've been divorced for 24 years and remain friends with my ex. It's funny because when there are any parties that we both attend, she winds up becoming friends with my girlfriend and I with whoever she might be with.

I would do just about anything for her except marry her. She feels the same way. To me it's a healthy relationship because as our daughters were growing up they could always depend on me being there for them. She never stopped me.

All the kids are grown and on there own now, my youngest is 25 years old and the oldest is 30. We have shown them that what matters most is them.

We had a civil divorce (all I wanted was joint custody), I wound up with half of everything. She helped pay for our credit. We never argued about child support or went to court over it, but I was always willing to make sure my kids never had to do without. At times she or the girls would mention that she was short on money, and I would add a little more to the child support or lend her some.

I have great respect for my ex, because she never allowed anyone or anything to come between me and my daughters.

So yes, you can be friends with your ex, as long as you know what the real meaning of friend is and you respect it.

Answer 3

Yes Ex can be still friends and at times very best friends too, Sometimes in life a partner may not click well perhaps the chemistry is just not right but to become friends at times the chemistry may hit well.

Answer 4

Yes it is very possible, but it usually depends on how bad the break up was. I am currently friends with one of my exes and we're cool. But sometimes when you guys both had stronge feelings it might be kind of hard because neither one of you might not be able to handle seeing you with another or seeing you single doing as you please. A lot of feelings come into play, but as long as you 2 kept up a good relationship, and you both except that you 2 have moved on, why not. I think exes could defiantly be friends.

Answer 5

You know, that would be nice in a perfect world but, no....You see in any relationship, be it friendship and/or significant other, you have history...Be it two different types of history, it doesn't change the fact that the closeness you had, you can have anymore...Its honestly better, when two parts way, that they do just that...When you see each other, different emotions come up and more times than not...the emotion is angry, sadness, not happy emotions lets put it that way...
In time, maybe these feeling will lessen, you can try again then...Good Luck

Answer 6

Absolutely! It helps a lot if everything ended on a good note, but even if it didn't it can. My best friend also happens to be my ex..and there's nothign wrong to us or anyone else. We even talk about our current relationships and stuff, cause we know that "Yeah, we dated, but that was a long time ago, and it obiously ended for a reason." Doesn't mean we can't be friends :)

Answer 7

It depends on the maturity level of the people. I would say you may have ended on a goof note but If friends are all you will ever be than you can look for the right relationship and not feel strange

Answer 8

Yes, you could still be friends provided that it's ok for both parties(both open minded). But for some, I don't think they're Ok with that because of the things they have not accepted yet which really takes time... Or simply, they just don't want to coz they hate you...;p

Answer 9

A lifelong friend of mine is still friends with her first husband. After they were married, and had their first child, he decided to come out of the closet.

With no hard feelings, no blame, it's easy for ex's to be friends. However, that's usually not the case.

Answer 10

If something happened bad to hurt you, because of the other person then no you shouldn't be friends BUT if it's a normal break up then you could still be friends.