I can't see light at the end of the tunnel. My dilemma is that since childhood, I have not been loved, sufficiently. My parents were always busy with their brothers, sisters , cousins and relatives.
I have spent years of isolation in tears. That made me believe that I am not worth them. It also developed a protective distance between me and people around me.
I thought that a friend will make me feel better. I am not just a taker. I give more than I take from others. I felt a strong need and liking for a girl. I did what I could to tell her that but she thinks that I am not worth it. I look fine, I respect people (everyone), Why my love is always torched and dumped ? She can make all sorts of friends but not me ? Things have made me believe that I am worthless and I have no basis to live with people. I meet people but there's absolute disconnect in me. Please Help
2007-03-19 16:44:35 · 7 answers · asked by Goldman 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
my friend i can really identify with you in feeling like you give and give and feel like you are running on empty
the probability is that girl could perceive that and felt inadequate for your needs at this time
i am thinking that what could help is if you could find a group of friends or a surrogate family who can love you up (without it forming a boy/girl relationship) but who are willing and able to help build up your self esteem and give you some love to fill up your love tanks
the chances are if there is one like me out there who feels for you - there are probably others who do too
some people find that prayer often can help too in this situation
i have found that over and again that those who have received the least love often are those who give the most - i wouldn't wonder if you do have a whole host of people who can list things they appreciate about you and the things you have done for others - it cant hurt to ask them for a little bit back in return can it?
2007-03-19 16:54:00 · answer #1 · answered by Aslan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to find the strength within yourself to know that you can be liked. You can change what you are feeling now. I am a firm believer that if you don't like your life, change it. If you think your life is boring and you have no friends, try to go out there and find some. Its not easy by any means, but if you take it one step at a time, one day at a time. A year from now you may have more friends then what you know what to do with. Join a public club.. Join a bowling league or volunteer for an organization.
2007-03-19 16:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by dakota_gal_1968 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we are our own worst enemy. What happened to your childhood is unfortunate. However, those were already history thus it's best to leave history alone. As for the girl you like. You need to know that you can't forced someone to like you; its either there or isn't. Work towards self-confidence. Tell yourself that nothing is impossible. We can endure disaster and tragedy, and triumph over them – if we have to. We may not think we can, but we have surprisingly strong inner resources that will see us through if we will only make us of them. We are stronger than we think.
2007-03-19 16:56:01 · answer #3 · answered by SGElite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
often past conflict with family can disrupt your ability to live a fairly uneventful life later-I understand, my parents treated me similarly. seeing a good counselor in your city can help, but sometimes this is a battle to do alone. You need to find people who can respect and love you for who you are-this girl you've described doesn't really sound like one of them. If you truly find a friend, they will stick with you through EVERYTHING. But do your part! try to be more social, and when you are in a relationship, make sure you give your trust and confidence in them. remember your self-esteem really matters-you definately are not worthless!
good luck man
2007-03-19 16:56:14 · answer #4 · answered by Corinne 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They love you. Don't think that isolation is a means to an end dude. No one is born in this world to be unloved.
2007-03-19 16:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is always someone/people in the world that love u. u knowing they do or not? they could be someone on the street, sidewalk, store, ect. they could be someone in ur life thats always around, or somone u hardly know or don't know. but theres always one/or more who care about u/ other people also. strange isn't it?
2007-03-19 17:46:00 · answer #6 · answered by Sketch 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't get down on yourself....just be patient and things will get better for you!
2007-03-19 17:19:20 · answer #7 · answered by filipino_barbie_doll 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋