Family & Relationships - 25 December 2006

I have a dilema. I have been going with my ex for over 3 years but know him for about 5 years and I suddenly lost interest in him. I nolonger love him anymore but I like him. And I feel afraid that if I am not with him I will be alone. We been through many bad times. I mean from working with each other......I think he cheated. He told his guyfriend who he didnt know was my best friend that he was going to leave me for some delli girl and that hurt. He broke up with me for almost more than 5 times in onw month. I suddenly looked at him as a joke and slowly got over him

I bumped into this guy I really liked when I was 12 and we got together. Now that we got together my ex said he loved me and only wanted to be with me. I felt said and didn;t want to hurt him so I didnt mention the other guy.

So it was like I am juggling both of them. I dont mean to it just happen that way. I want to make both of them happy but I can't. When on is happy the other is sad because they didnt see me

2006-12-25 16:53:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I was in a long distance relationship for two and a half years, with someone ten years my senior. For most of that time my sweetheart was overseas with the military and, I did not see him for months, and even up to a year. About a couple of weeks ago, I just could not take it and, finally decide to end the relationship. I sent him an e-mail clearly explaining my point of view. I have reservations about sending that e-mail because I feel it was impersonal, but I don't really have any other method of communicating with him. I also know this is probably not the best time of year to break up with all the festivities. My concern is for his state of mind and how it will affect his performance overseas. In my opinion, breaking up with him seemed inevitable, but I just need assurance that I did the right thing. Maybe I could have done it better, but I was tired of feeling trapped. So for whomever is reading this please give me your opinion about my situation. P.S. He didn't send a response.

2006-12-25 16:51:57 · 23 answers · asked by Happy Bee 1 in Singles & Dating

so my ex and i have been broken up for almost 3 months and the reason we broke up was because his feelings for me just faded kinda thing...we always talked occasionally on the internet but not very often but now lately we talk every night and half the time its him starting the conversation and hes been really nice to me and weve been getting closer and its not like awkward anymore and when we see eachother in person we usually at least acknowledge eachother......the talking every night started right after our school dance which he took another girl to but she ditched him and he siad he didnt have fun with her so of course that made me happy becuase i still have feelings for him but im too afraid to do anythign about it because i might jsut be in over my head thinking he likes me again...but idn because he also got jealous when somone else asked me to a previous dance so that could mean he likes me but it doesnt have to mean that either...idn what to do and dont want to get hurt..HELP?!

2006-12-25 16:50:26 · 9 answers · asked by justme 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Okay so i'm totally into this guy.. hes my bestfriend.. and i've had the biggest crush on him for about 2 mouths now.. okay ahah i no that sounds fine but the thing is.. i dont no if he likes me back.. and i cant get the nerve to just ask him.. he's a flirt.. he doesnt do what he does to me to other girls.. but it does flirt.. abit so i dont no if he likes me or its just his perosnalty.. but if were hanging out, like once we were watching a movie.. he'll put his legs over mine.. and "accentdently" touch my hand with his.. he didnt tell me that.. i just think he tryed it to see what i'd do.. i was @ his house the other night and we layed down together and watched a movie.. he played with my hair, nickleace, and touch my hand again.. and we just practially cuddled.. lol i pratically through myself @ him.. and he doesnt seem to make the first move and i cant tell if hes a if he likes me? (do any of u guys do this) ugh aha please help :) any advice would b GREAT

2006-12-25 16:50:23 · 6 answers · asked by lauren * 1 in Singles & Dating

i was cool in high school. i was the man. i was it! now i can't find work. i cant quit drinking. i can quit smoking. i am balding. the chicks no longer dig me. my family and friends are either all dead moved away or pissed at me. i have these bunions and corns on my feet that wont go away and i have this odor (so i am told) that wont go away, regardless of how many showers i take. should i just surrender, call it day, and join the homeless???

2006-12-25 16:49:45 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

she is coming over tommarow what should i do with her any sugestions welcome!

2006-12-25 16:48:52 · 2 answers · asked by mixalot2008 1 in Friends

who should carry the responsibility of taking care of a relationship??

is it the girl or the boy???

2006-12-25 16:48:10 · 10 answers · asked by BuRn 1 in Singles & Dating

I am 19 years old. I have been with my bf for 4 years. When we first started having sex we did it all the time. For the past year I have been no interested in sex. I love him and love to be around him. I just dont get turned on. And I cant stand it when he touches my breast. Has anyone experience anything like this? How did you get help?

2006-12-25 16:47:35 · 16 answers · asked by libra1987 2 in Marriage & Divorce

so there was this friend i met up with again this summer. before that, we went to elementary school together, were kinda cool, then hs and college we didnt really talk. we end up being in the same summer school class together and we hung out a lot this summer. we go to diff colleges, so we havent talked since summer really. now that its winter break i want to hang out with him. ive called him like 10x since the past week and hes only picked up once. that 1 time, he said he was busy and he was gonna call me back and didnt. now im beginning to think hes not a true friend, doesnt like me, and just used me because i was JUST THERE. i want to get his attention but since he doesnt know how to press the answer button when i freaking call him (sarcastic), i was thinking of stopping by his house and dropping off the presents he gave to me this summer. you know, when people arent friends and give stuff back to the other person. then he has to call me after that. is that a good idea?

2006-12-25 16:47:02 · 2 answers · asked by cfab 1 in Friends

One of my friend GF got married to some one else some time back now she has kid Just born, She insists that she still Loves my friend and she is crazy about him. My friend is just in a Fix Fix situation I dont know what to suggest him.. can anyone help me to help my friend he dosent know how to react to this.

2006-12-25 16:46:59 · 10 answers · asked by Suhaeb 2 in Friends

What are some of your New Years Resolutions, relationships wise?

2006-12-25 16:46:52 · 10 answers · asked by Fae von Rose 1 in Singles & Dating

I don't let my kids get to know my mom to well because she thinks that I live an awful life and she thinks I am raising my kids all wrong. She is convinced that I am on my way to hell and is constantly hoping that I will change and I won't mess up my kids beyond repair. So when she does see them she is so huggy and full of gifts and hangs all over them, being as fun and cool as she can. I don't blame her really, I know it is hard for her that I keep things cool between her and her grandkids (I have talked to her, but I obviously can't change her beliefs).

So my question is:
- am I really pushing my children towards her because she seems so fun right now and they look forward to their visits with 'fun grandma'
- as the years go on, will they see (WITHOUT me grandma bashing), that I didn't want religious grandma making my kids choose between their mommy and their grandma, because grandma says that she has the only truth and mommy is living in sin?

2006-12-25 16:46:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2006-12-25 16:45:01 · 9 answers · asked by jay b 1 in Singles & Dating

it seems like every guy i met is a total jerk, even if they are nice at first they usually turn into a total ***. then there are ones who are pretty nice but im not attracted to them. help!

2006-12-25 16:44:09 · 32 answers · asked by Dreamer 1 in Singles & Dating

Me & my BFF are having a sleepover. It's not a big party or anything, it's just me staying over. But what are some fun things to do besides talk about boys and being stupid? Any ideas?

2006-12-25 16:43:56 · 10 answers · asked by *Manda* 2 in Friends

My boyfriend and I have been dating for three years. He is 28, I am 21. I'm just curious as to how long everyone else waited and what their age difference was. :)

2006-12-25 16:42:52 · 15 answers · asked by indianteardrops 3 in Weddings

what is unconditional love?
what is love & romance?

2006-12-25 16:42:42 · 19 answers · asked by rakhee s 1 in Marriage & Divorce

to have sexual relations? What do u think and why?

2006-12-25 16:42:25 · 24 answers · asked by Eastcoast beachgirl 3 in Marriage & Divorce

.I called my husbands phone to tell him our duaghters eye was swollen and puffy and i was asking him if we should take her to the dr. Well when i called and told him this he and his mother where on there way to have dinner(what she calls a mother son dinner, but he was also meeting some friends there to play pool) well he said don't worry about it my mother put some eye drops in her eye and she should be fine. This woman put some mistriouse eye drops in my daughters eye and she leaves when my daughter wakes up i freak out....wouldn't you? anyways when they come home 2 hours later she starts yelling at me saying something about that i'm gonna call the cops on her because i accused her of abusing my child by putting unknow eye drops in her eye. she continues to yell and scream then she tells me to not talk to her and she storms off into another room. She comes into the small area im in and won't let me pass her so i ask her to move she won't the i try to go past her and she says don't

2006-12-25 16:41:49 · 10 answers · asked by mystic_rage879 2 in Family

want me to find him! I feel i am missing something in my life without him!

2006-12-25 16:41:45 · 7 answers · asked by nicole_elise88 1 in Family

i have liked this boy for 5 months now nobody but me knows that. well he found out that i liked him 3 weeks ago but he still hasent said anything to me, he looks at me all the time like he really wants to tell me something but something is holding him back...I am really confused and really like him but honestly should i HOLD ON or LET GO?

2006-12-25 16:41:34 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

If you werent a genius in highschool but managed to graduate ??
when you get to college how do youknow what major to pursue? I want a genius in high school but now im in community college and imscared to pursue a career! Im afraid when i get into the career i might mess up big time. I need advice?? I posted this question i in education but noone would answer!

2006-12-25 16:41:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

so i known this guy for a few years now.. but i only really see him once a year, twice at most, because he is a friend of my cousins who lives many hours away. ever since we met there has been this crazy sexual tension between us and it would really freak me out because what am i suppose to do in a situation like that.. anyways every year i would just pretend like nothing was there until that tension was there again and then i would completely shut off towards him (yes very shady im aware) because i guess i was affraid... anyways it has come to that time again where i will see him again, and i can not stop thinking about him, and i really just wanna hook up... so im here to ask you this; a) what is wrong with me, b) should i try to hook up with him and c) how should i go about doing so...

2006-12-25 16:40:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-12-25 16:39:46 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok, so there is this guy, and we've been hangin out, and hooking up for a few months now....at the beginning we decided that neither of us wanted a real relationship...so we're "special friends"....but now i care about him aaaallloooottt...and i want to make it an official relationship....how do i tell him this....we do things that boyfriend and girlfriend do....go out, talk on the phone, we see each other almost everyday...and he initiates the contact as often as i do...so do you think there is a chance he might be up for it????? and reallly....what do i say to him to let him know how i feel without scaring him away???

2006-12-25 16:39:37 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

In this lonely life of dating when all I want is love to touch me?

2006-12-25 16:39:00 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

well we both liked him and i told her first then 5 minutes later she said she liked him at the time she had a boyfriend and on her b-day in dec. she broke up with him and said she wanted to be single 4 a while 72 hours later her and the boy i liked were going out and she was rubbing it in my face and now i'm ticed cuz she thinks every time i try to tell her how i feel about it all she thinks i'm "sugar coating" it all yea so i need full statements i want to win this guys heart!

2006-12-25 16:37:20 · 35 answers · asked by shli g 1 in Singles & Dating

It's my "best friend" i'm talking about...
here's my plan:
- avoid and ignore him for a week - no text, online communication or phone calls
- hang out with all our mutual friends without him
- hang out with all the other guys i left behind
- give a "i don't care" attitude
- have fun and have a carefree approach

will this work? and nooo i don't want to talk to him about it. He's a guy...we don't talk..just do...

2006-12-25 16:37:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

so there was this friend i hung out a lot with during summer. we reunited b/c we happened to be in the same summer school class. before that, we went to the same elementary school but went to different high schools & colleges & lost touch. since we were in the same class, we'd hang out all the time outside of class. since summer ended, we didnt really talk or hang out b/c he was always busy. now that we're on winter break, i want to hang out w/ him. ive called his cell prolly like 10x in the last week & he's only picked up once. that 1 time, he said he was busy & was gonna call me back & hasnt. b/c he hasnt responded, im wondering if maybe he doesnt want to hang out with me. like he only used me to hang out in summer school b/c i was JUST THERE. it hurts me to think that. since he wont answer my calls, to get his attention, i was thinking of stopping by his house & dropping off these gifts he gave to me on his doorstep. dont i have a right to be mad? good idea to get his attention?

2006-12-25 16:37:03 · 2 answers · asked by cfab 1 in Friends

it was my ex-husband to wish me merry christmas,i think my b/f got upset also because i told my ex merry christmas i love u,BUT BUT only in a caring,friendly way.I didn't know my b/f heard that last phrase.Before me and my b/f got together he knew i was in touch with my ex,so i'm being honest here ok.There's no sex, with my ex.I know he's upset.What might he tell me in private ? help me please ? he's not violent,but i want to know how might he react ? what might be his reaction in private ? i haven't had a chance to be alone with him,since then. advice me please .

2006-12-25 16:35:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating