ok, so there is this guy, and we've been hangin out, and hooking up for a few months now....at the beginning we decided that neither of us wanted a real relationship...so we're "special friends"....but now i care about him aaaallloooottt...and i want to make it an official relationship....how do i tell him this....we do things that boyfriend and girlfriend do....go out, talk on the phone, we see each other almost everyday...and he initiates the contact as often as i do...so do you think there is a chance he might be up for it????? and reallly....what do i say to him to let him know how i feel without scaring him away???
2006-12-25 16:39:37 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok, i know we started out as "friends with benefits" but he acts more like my boyfriend and doesnt treat me like a booty call...he even went with me to my FAMILY christmas party, and wanted to go meet my dad....and i'm not sure(i've never been in this sort of relationship before) but i dont think that is a normal "friend with benefits" sort of thing....i think it shows he cares more about me......or am i wrong???
2006-12-25 16:47:21 · update #1
You're forgetting what the benefit of being friends with benefits are. With that title he can still sleep with other women and do whatever he wants. Now he may like you too but is he willing to give up that benifit and be on lockdown? See right now he sees you as a girlfried too so he treats you good, but he always has a backdoor open just in case somebody hotter comes along or in case you flake out and he gets tired of you.
2006-12-25 16:54:25 · answer #1 · answered by ZX3R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your guy is ok with the relationship because he can walk away at any time, no strings attached. When you signed up for this arrangement, you agreed to the no-strings-attached part. There's pretty much no way you can tell your friend how you feel without scaring him away. After all, if he had wanted a relationship, he would have initiated one a long time ago. A guy is your fuckbuddy instead of your boyfriend because he doesn't want to be tied to you.
2006-12-26 00:44:18 · answer #2 · answered by Bastet's kitten 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should should give him more time . you did both agreed to just be friends ,i was told to grow a plant for a year before i made a commitment to another person be patient i know how love can eat you in side. most of all you don't want to be hurt emotionally by hearing the truth and getting into a clinical depression if it is meant to be and you pray to a higher power for guidance of your own choice , and trust in it . you seem to be on the same level with him., give it more time four months is not a long time not just for yourself but for him he may ask you later don't rush into anything the time you are having together is very dear and this way you both can keep to your affections dear think from what you have in joyed together there's a good chance something will work out with faith.
2006-12-26 01:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Action speak louder than words! Next time you see him, give him a long hard sexy kiss hoping he will respond. If he does take things from there, if not tell him his lips looked like they needed a kiss.
2006-12-26 00:42:37 · answer #4 · answered by Flab 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me like he too is interested in you so this shouldnt be too hard. i say come right out and ask him how he'd feel about having you as his girlfriend. he'd probably be glad you asked. if he says no its his lost right?
2006-12-26 00:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by Saiila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well let him make the first move and drop hints like flirting a lot to make it clear to him!
2006-12-26 00:44:27 · answer #6 · answered by brittany bear! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get some gutz.
2006-12-26 00:42:47 · answer #7 · answered by lovey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋