I am 19 years old. I have been with my bf for 4 years. When we first started having sex we did it all the time. For the past year I have been no interested in sex. I love him and love to be around him. I just dont get turned on. And I cant stand it when he touches my breast. Has anyone experience anything like this? How did you get help?
2006-12-25 16:47:35 · 16 answers · asked by libra1987 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would start out by talking to a medical doctor and / or your gynecologist. There may be a medical explanation, such as: change in birth control, another medication you may be taking, hormonal issue, etc. Don't over analyze what psychologically could be going on until you've found out if it's a medical thing first. No reason to beat yourself up or feel guilty.
2006-12-25 17:54:05 · answer #1 · answered by katnkaboodle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
counciling is not the answer. what you need to do is picture your life without this person and everything they bring to the table. would it be more irritating for him to touch your breast or for him to not be around any more...think about it. as far as the sex, all you need is take a break from him... in other words, go visit some family in another state for a week or two then see how you feel. either you will have great sex when you get back or if nothing has changed you should probubly move on.
2006-12-26 01:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by I♥Karma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would go to a counsellor consensually with my partner. Make sure you go there with an open mind and a determination to get what you want out of the relationship (sex, dishes, sex, cleaning house... etc..) I went with my husband and we will be going on 8 years New Years Eve!
It is well worth the time to at least sit down and have someone there to translate if need be when you are not able to get the words out like you want to.
Hope this helps!
Donna
2006-12-26 00:57:59 · answer #3 · answered by DK in VA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are in a pretty serious relationship. There are ups and downs and highs and lows in every relationship. I personally believe that you should just talk to each other and see if the issue can be resolved first. If it seems like something serious that is affecting the relationship, then you might want to see a counselor to see what might be going on. If you are both faithful to each other than it is surely something that can be resolved.
2006-12-26 00:52:48 · answer #4 · answered by lins0043 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may want to go see a counselor since it sounds like you are the one losing interest...it could be a chemical imbalance or maybe something that has happened to you in your past that is causing you to feel this way...by getting individual counseling you should be able to figure this out and be able to get back on track...good luck.
2006-12-26 00:50:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think bringing in a third party to analyze the interaction between the two of you could prolong your feelings of non-interest.
You and your bf should sit down and discuss sex.
Yes, it may be difficult, but the two of you need to be open and honest with each other.
You might find ways that "flips your switch".
I hope that the two of you will try to become closer to each other.
2006-12-26 01:01:35 · answer #6 · answered by Mark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know your bf for 4 years. i would suggest you to talk to him instead of going to counsellers. you need to sort out not the counsellers. They will instead confuse u even more. Have patience and think over once again,you know him much better than anyone else does..
all the best.
2006-12-26 01:07:52 · answer #7 · answered by simran_i 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been together since you were 15. Apparantly you're maturing and lost interest to a point of no longer being physically attracted to him. I dont believe you need a counselor. But rather time to know yourself..........minus him in your life.
2006-12-26 01:00:06 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...you are still so young!
If something is wrong now - it will only get worse and worse as time goes on.
He is obviously not "THE one"....
Dont let the fact you already have 4 years invested blind you from whats right....
Move on!
2006-12-26 01:33:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe now you want a real relationship and not a sex-based one. You probably can't have it with him. You made a mistake having sex so young, but you probably don't believe it.
2006-12-26 12:05:46 · answer #10 · answered by adamsjrcn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋