so i known this guy for a few years now.. but i only really see him once a year, twice at most, because he is a friend of my cousins who lives many hours away. ever since we met there has been this crazy sexual tension between us and it would really freak me out because what am i suppose to do in a situation like that.. anyways every year i would just pretend like nothing was there until that tension was there again and then i would completely shut off towards him (yes very shady im aware) because i guess i was affraid... anyways it has come to that time again where i will see him again, and i can not stop thinking about him, and i really just wanna hook up... so im here to ask you this; a) what is wrong with me, b) should i try to hook up with him and c) how should i go about doing so...
2006-12-25 16:40:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
k extra comments... im 20, im not looking for a relationship at all, nor sex... i really just want some minor action from the boy.. good old fashion nothing fun...
2006-12-25 17:08:52 · update #1
Start flirting with him. If you are too shy to go up to him and start talking, then stand in the corner of the room and make eye contact with him. When he catches you eye, hold the look for several moments, push your hair behind your ear and kind of look down then look back at him to see if he is still looking at you. If he is, then keep his gaze for several more moments. Finally, give him a smile and just a little wink, if you can. When he comes over to talk to you, do your best to make good conversation with him. Casually touch his arm a lot. If he has had something to eat, then pretend he has a crumb or sauce or something in the corner of his mouth, say, "Oh, you have a little sauce here," and gently wipe it away with your third finger and lick it off your finger. He won't know there was not really anything there and you will look super sexy.
I bet you will be hooking up before you know it...
2006-12-25 16:45:32 · answer #1 · answered by bashnick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why bother? He lives many hours away and you only see him a couple of times a year. What kind of relationship do you think you could have right now? Besides, just because there's sexual tension doesn't mean a damned thing about your prospects of a relationship with him. I deal with sexual tension all the time, but I'm already in love with someone. I'd never leave her just for a fling. That's all this would be for you if you did hook up. A fling.
2006-12-25 16:45:24 · answer #2 · answered by big_dog832001 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you only see him 1-2 times a year there is no way for a serious relationship. And for the sexual tension you should stay away from him unless you want to be a one night stand.
2006-12-25 16:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you feel weird everytime you see him, and see if he evers feels the same way about you, if there is nothing there then you can just laugh it off, if you extract a similar confession from him, and he's still available after ALL THIS TIME, then I would suggest you explore where it can go. Don't plan the wedding yet, just enjoy the relationship that happens, if it doesn't work out, your nagging doubts will be answered and you can move on.
2006-12-25 16:49:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A) There is nothing wrong with you, this is a normal reaction between people and it is called chemistry, not love, but chemistry. B) There is nothing wrong with trying to hook up with him b/c long distance relationships can work (I had one and I have been married to him for 14 years now). C) Find a way to talk to him privately and invite him alone to a movie, coffee, etc. and see what his reaction is and take it from there.
Good Luck!
2006-12-25 16:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-28 09:15:16 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wish I knew how old you are. I may be able to give better advise. A. You're not crazy - just normal. B. Be yourself, and act natural. If you show some interest in him, a smile or lingering look, maybe he will feel it's ok to make a move toward you..and you won't have to worry about C..................
2006-12-25 16:55:20 · answer #7 · answered by bella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a) you want him
b) if you do hook up with him, you won't have a real relationship. And then itwould be awkward at these, what, family meetings that you have every year.
c) go for it if you like, but the wise move would be to keep cool.
2006-12-25 16:48:14 · answer #8 · answered by Bonny R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your shy, but you want him badly and you know it. Yes, try and hook up with him. Talk to him get to know him more.. Make sure you really like him. And be kind of flirty but not to flirty. Try getting to the point you can get his number. Call him once in awhile. Try to make him like you. AND MOST OF ALL!!! Make sure you act youself around him.
2006-12-25 16:44:51 · answer #9 · answered by LUST 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well go with the flow if you know he likes you back then let him know you feel the same way about him and go beyond your shyness and see what happens and hook up with him if he wants to hook up and go from there
2006-12-25 16:44:23 · answer #10 · answered by brian v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋