my friend just stole the guy i liked 4 the 2nd or 5th time what should i say to her?

Question

well we both liked him and i told her first then 5 minutes later she said she liked him at the time she had a boyfriend and on her b-day in dec. she broke up with him and said she wanted to be single 4 a while 72 hours later her and the boy i liked were going out and she was rubbing it in my face and now i'm ticed cuz she thinks every time i try to tell her how i feel about it all she thinks i'm "sugar coating" it all yea so i need full statements i want to win this guys heart!

Answer 1

Why are you friends with her???

Answer 2

First, have you told the guy any of this? If not, you probably shouldn't and move on. Are you really going to want him once she's done with him?

Second, is this just a one time thing or has she done it before? If it is a repeat performance of hers, then tell her you like some random guy to see if she bites, then go for the one you want. Be sure to let him know that she's very competitive and will probably make a play for him. Then he'll be less likely to fall for it.

You should also tell her exactly how you feel about the whole thing (people like her don't need to have sugar coating on their conversations - they understand direct statements best) and if she still has a problem with it, you need to find a new, less self-absorbed abusive friend. You can do much better. And real friends don't treat each other like that.

Good luck,
Diane

Answer 3

You had dibs. That means she shouldn't even say she had liked him. As a friend since you did say it first she would've helped you get him. You guys are supposed to help each other not compete against each other. Tell her that what she's been doing isn't ok and you want her to stop. If she doesn't understand it or says that your just jealous FORGET ABOUT HER she's not a very good friend and will keep on doing it. And when the day comes that you do get a boyfriend she'll do anything to cut him down and make him seem like a "loser pick". But if she is your real friend then she'll understand- apologize and help you find the man of your dreams.

Answer 4

Honestly, and I know you are going to disagree at first, but a friend never steals your man. Its sort of a law of friendship, and obviously she is stealing your thunder out from under your nose. So you need to sit your "friend" down and talk your situation(s) out, because sometimes all your friend needs to know is her place, and if she cannot respect your feelings then she is not a true friend.

Now to get the guy, just spend some time with him and see what he likes and dislikes. After you figure all of his fav's out, suprise him with somethings he loves, and show him that you can understand how he feels and you are sometimes the same way. Usually the good relationships are the ones that take a while to develop.

Answer 5

First, I would drop the friend because she doesn't seem like she cares about your feelings and she seems really insensitive.

Second, while you may say you like a guy he ultimately has the choice of who he wants to be with. So, if he choose to be with her, I don't think there is anything you could do.

Next time you like a guy, keep you month shut to your friends and move in first.. some girls are very competitive and will take a crush from you just for fun..

Answer 6

ur friend sounds like a total *********.
why are u friends with her any ways ?
maby u need to loose her
friends that do that just arnt worth having
she should respect that u have the hots for a guy and leave him alone or try to hook u up with him not go out with him and rub ur face in it
maby u should rub her face in the dirt and tell her to stop taking the guys u have the hots for
she obviously thinks she is really good coz she can do that
so if u wanna stay friends with her coz shes nice or what ever just dont tell her when u like a guy or she mite try it again
bt u need to teach her a leason
so my advice for u is when she breaks up with that guy u liked and she will coz shes only with him to piss u off and prove shes better than u
yeh so next time ur out at a party or what ever and she tells u that she likes a guy or u can see her flirting with a guy or any sighns that she wants some one just go and get him ur self and rub her face in it and if she notices then tell her "oh well do u remember ........yeh thats rite i told u i liked him bt u whent ahead and f...ed him any way u skank"
and just one question to u ...why would u want to kiss a guy who has kissed ur friend...yuck
i think u should find some one eles that hasnt deepthroated ur bestie or touched her body or been inside her ...yuck
ok good luck getting revenge

Answer 7

I'M AFRAID YOU HAVE A "PARASITE FRIEND". Those are the kind that really admire you and your choices. They're actually so jealous of you that they lay in wait for your next move. They try to dress like you, talk like you, do all the things you like to do, EXECPT grow the balls to come up with their own style and personality. TO PUNISH YOU for having THE IT FACTOR, she'll steal everything you've got. This is a pathetic case.

Why did you tell her about your next move with this guy. Technically, you jinxed it for yourself. She's always listening.

NEXT MOVE: Distance yourself from the friend. She'll take you down in a minute. She's just waiting. Start hanging with another set of friends IMMEDIATELY. She'll put up a fuss, but you have to ignore her or blow her off.

In order to get rid of this personality, you have to be harsh. IT'S WHY WE AS HUMANS TAKE LAXATIVES. It cramps, but it's necessary. It takes concentration.

You'll have to be on you're game, literally. She'll try to do nice things for you to get in your good graces, but do not accept any new gifts or favors from her. SHE HAS A HIDDEN AGENDA that you've been falling for, for years.

Time for an about-face and steps in a new direction. Tell her nothing from here on out -- or you'll get burned.

Answer 8

My advice is to find a new friend. Friends don't stab each other in the back like she's been doing. You can find better people to be with. You may have to just give up on this guy and move on and don't tell your friend about anyone you like from now on.

Answer 9

Sounds like you and your friend are in an unhealthy competition of oneupmanship. As it sounds like you have tried to discuss this with her and she blew you off, so she is no your friend at all.
Friends are to be there to support each other, not to compete with each other and hurt their friends feelings.

As far as the guy I doubt if either one of you really like him, he is just a pawn in the twisted game between you and your friend.

End your friendship with her and tell her that you never really liked the boy anyway, you just were testing her to see what she would do and since she pulled the same crap as she has in the past and not respected your feelings, she is no longer your friend.

Answer 10

okay.... your friend is a bad friend, I wouldn't even consider HER a friend at all. I would tell her, "You know what, I've just had it with you, if your going to keep this up, I'll never speak to you again, and let me remind you that I won't speak to you again. In the future you'll be crying and begging for forgivness and i'll just say no. So, seeya." And go away. I wouldn't even talk to her ever again until I can really trust her.

Answer 11

sweetie, you can't win this guy's heart. he has to want to be with you, and you can't force that. he's with her because he likes her, and it sounds like she's won his heart.
your issue really isn't with the guy, it's with your so-called-friend. it sounds like she may have went for this guy just to show you that she could get him because you wanted him. and if that's the case, she's not your friend at all. and that's exactly what I suspect. friends don't do that to friends. the best thing you could do for yourself is to find a real friend. leave this girl alone. she may come across as being your friend, but like I said, friends don't do these sorts of things to their friends. and she's been rubbing your nose in it! she's not your friend. and think about it, you don't want this guy! why take her sloppy seconds when you can find a guy whose not!
Best Wishes