I have a dilema. I have been going with my ex for over 3 years but know him for about 5 years and I suddenly lost interest in him. I nolonger love him anymore but I like him. And I feel afraid that if I am not with him I will be alone. We been through many bad times. I mean from working with each other......I think he cheated. He told his guyfriend who he didnt know was my best friend that he was going to leave me for some delli girl and that hurt. He broke up with me for almost more than 5 times in onw month. I suddenly looked at him as a joke and slowly got over him
I bumped into this guy I really liked when I was 12 and we got together. Now that we got together my ex said he loved me and only wanted to be with me. I felt said and didn;t want to hurt him so I didnt mention the other guy.
So it was like I am juggling both of them. I dont mean to it just happen that way. I want to make both of them happy but I can't. When on is happy the other is sad because they didnt see me
2006-12-25 16:53:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
With my ex I feel a sense of security because its like I know when he is all for me he wouldn't hurt me. The other guy I am afraid he might hurt me, even when he says he wouldn't. I really like this guy and he made me happy in and out bed. Is it bad that I am basing the relationship partially on sex. I mean my ex he doesn't make me happy anymore and the other guy do.
2006-12-25 16:55:08 · update #1
I mean when my ex said he loved me and wanted to be with me and marry me he don't know about the other guy. i am not a mean person and I feel very bad about this. I dont want to hurt anyone but I guess i am if i keep doing this. But I just dont know what to do i am kind of scared. Could i be leaving someone who would have been a good companion in the future or is the new guy the right guy for me.
2006-12-25 17:04:54 · update #2
Don't juggle either of them - You either have to be single - or you have to choose. It's not fair to either one of them to be lied to or led on.
It sounds like you're pretty much over the ex-boyfriend and are really only still involved with him because you don't want to hurt his feelings... Well, guess what - he'll get over it. You can be nice and friendly while still being honest with him.
2006-12-25 16:58:00 · answer #1 · answered by karespromise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you need a professional's help
I got no idea what you are talking about
You should know what is right for you
When you are in a relationship, why are you afraid of gettin hurt...
It happens to everyone
If you think your ex can make you happy all the time and not only for sex then i guess you should get back with your ex
And if the guy whom u bumped into when u were 12 doesnt make you that happy and he wants you just for sex...then i guess you should put a full stop to your relationship with him...he is just making use of your body
Good Luck =)
2006-12-26 01:00:43 · answer #2 · answered by JeZzZ J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, first off why in the world would you want to be with some guy who cheated on you, and told your best friend he was leaving you for some other girl? Who cares about his feelings!!! He sure didn't seem like he cared about yours. I
Your ex is playing the old game. Now that you are with someone else all of a sudden he wants you all the time. Bull Pucky!!!!!
You said you got over him, so get on with your life and the new, but old fella. Your ex will survive with or without you. Better without.
2006-12-26 00:59:46 · answer #3 · answered by myninny54 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ermm... i have 2 say something.. but no offences okey... ur ex is the type of guy i understand very much cuz i've been in a relation with a guy like that. 4 months i was with him n he dumped me 3 times. after dumping me, i will find out that he is with another girl n after a feew days or weeks, he wud say sorry and want me back. so plz girl dont be stupid like me. dont let him hurt u. dont fall for sweet words. words r only words if there r no actions. and when u found someone u felt so comfortable with, why u care bout the guy who treat u like ****? n y u say he moght get hurt to know ur goin out with other guy? maybe he is just trying to use u as a temporary place to hang over. he is afraid if he leave u then nobody wants him n he will be lonely. so he is keeping u. this type of guy r spontaneous liars. plz dont fall for their words, just listen to ur heart n dont let him hurt u. be wise n think whats the best for u. i dont want to know that there is another girl who had the same problem with me n she chose the same decision i did which i regret so much.
2006-12-26 01:03:33 · answer #4 · answered by jzen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The dilema of two timing... its tough, but you already know the answer... you refer to one guy as your ex and say you don't love him anymore, so how is he even an option? If you're trying to find a way out of this where everyone is happy and loves you and everyone remains friends... well, forget it. Its not going to happen and if you keep juggling 2 guys, eventually you will lose both of them.
2006-12-26 01:00:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your ex is using you like a yo-yo or a safe landing pad he can return to when his little adventures have played out, he just wants you to stay available, like a parking space he can return to use when he needs it. Cut him loose, everytime you took him back was that many times too many, tell him to find another sucker, and pursue teh chance of a real relationship you can count on, even if not with this new one, keep trying. "Better the devil you know" only works in hell, that is not what dating or relationships are supposed to be, leave the familiar loser and take chances on new relationships.
2006-12-26 00:58:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to evaluate why you're scared to be alone. If you cannot make yourself happy on your own, no man will ever truely make you happy. Secondly, make a choice and stick with it. I recently learned that you'll never find that perfect person but you can find the person who is perfect for you.
2006-12-26 01:02:57 · answer #7 · answered by ZX3R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with the guy you liked when you were 12. Drop the other guy before he drops you again.... Wake up and see the truth he is a loser.
2006-12-26 00:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve better than your ex. and even if the new guy does mess up its his loss.
2006-12-26 00:59:04 · answer #9 · answered by tigrelis28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-26 00:54:30 · answer #10 · answered by kane011592 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋